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Old 04-19-2019, 02:48 PM #31
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In retrospect my idolizing clearly was a folie ŗ deux. They controlled my narrative, "interpreted" me, others and events. They diagnosed people they've never me and pretended to understand what they never witnessed. They performed inhuman feats of omniscience.

They were scornful and authoritative, encouraging me to solicit their approval. They encouraged me to expose my weakest, most flawed, most anguished parts, which of course, was far from the total picture of my life.

(I made the mistake once of mentioning a success the first day of group therapy, and was reproached for it.)

I'm sometimes in group situations where others might find my role itself intimidating. I don't want anyone on alert, self-conscious or doing their role guessing how to "please" me. I do my best to relax, be part of the group and give feedback humbly.

I can't respect these would-be gurus who were my therapists, particularly since I really needed to get in touch with my own effectiveness and maturity.
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Who says I do not think his posts are insightful? I do not know why you are upset with me saying I do not comprehend what he means. I didn't know there was context or subtext I was missing and I was unaware that I was supposed to know there was- I do not look for the context or subtext of every single person that posts. I certainly do not want to seem like I am policing anyone. He obviously didn't like therapy or have a good experience so I was confused about why he chose to post. If you are saying he means to post to inform others about what happened in his experience then I wish he would share more about what he means. I struggle sometimes with understanding social cues and what people mean. I certainly didnt mean to ad hominem attack anyone. I do not think its nice to imply that I am not intelligent enough to understand his posts. I have had my own bad experiences with therapy and I try and share about them in the threads about harmful therapy- I didnt realize this section was also for that.
Bud- my apologies for misunderstanding the intent of your post or the context behind it. I didn't realize what you were trying to say- I am human.
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You apparently donít understand the content of Budís post which is about hierarchy and power issues. I find his posts insightful, complementing my exploration of harmful therapy. He writes about topics the profession itself wonít explore.

Since you apparently canít comprehend his posts, why gibe him with an ad hominem remark? Please give others the respect with their concerns you would like with yours. Why the compulsion to. ďpoliceĒ others? And if you dislike someone, how sincere is your feedback?
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Who says I do not think his posts are insightful? I do not know why you are upset with me saying I do not comprehend what he means. I didn't know there was context or subtext I was missing and I was unaware that I was supposed to know there was- I do not look for the context or subtext of every single person that posts. I certainly do not want to seem like I am policing anyone. He obviously didn't like therapy or have a good experience so I was confused about why he chose to post. If you are saying he means to post to inform others about what happened in his experience then I wish he would share more about what he means. I struggle sometimes with understanding social cues and what people mean. I certainly didnt mean to ad hominem attack anyone. I do not think its nice to imply that I am not intelligent enough to understand his posts. I have had my own bad experiences with therapy and I try and share about them in the threads about harmful therapy- I didnt realize this section was also for that.
Bud- my apologies for misunderstanding the intent of your post or the context behind it. I didn't realize what you were trying to say- I am human.
Ok so socially- saying ďI donít understand why you post on this forumĒ comes across much differently than saying ďI donít understand what you are trying to convey with this postĒ.

The former implies judgment and that someone is not welcome to post on a forum. With the latter expressing curiosity in what the person is saying.

Iím not trying to be patronizing - but with difficulties reading social cues, it might be confusing understanding the source of angry or rude replies to the way you word your posts. Not justifying anybody or anything, just trying to help.

Iím not too concerned myself with how anyone else posts - if I donít like what I read I try to disengage (esp if I am clashing with someone), or I do not reply at all. Confrontation and arguing stresses me out. Iím also slowly learning where to post in this forum and how to post - I.e. trying to read what a person is looking for when asking for help, and if I donít feel like I can offer anything constructive I pass. It can be tricky ground.

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