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Default Apr 23, 2019 at 12:39 PM
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Hi Couchies! HUGS to anyone who wants one! I went to Disneyland yesterday as a present to myself for getting through Lent without SH. A friend was supposed to go with me but her hubby was sick so I went by myself, which honestly I don't mind. I have just as much fun by myself as with someone else at Disneyland, and when I go by myself I get to do exactly what I want, even if that means going on the teacups after getting off of Dumbo. (Which is what I did btw.) Traffic was nightmarish. I forget how it is to drive in cities in So-Cal. It was ridiculous. Plus being by myself I couldn't use the diamond lanes so that sucked. But Disney was perfect. Crowds weren't bad, weather was optimal, I had a nice time. I'm depressed today which sometimes happens after I do something fun. Like my body/mind/spirit can't handle the letdown. So I slept a lot after I got home yesterday and slept in this morning. My parents are leaving today to go to my sister's for a few days so I'm glad I committed to more time no SH otherwise I'm sure I would have SH-ed, especially with my parents not around, no one watching me so to speak. Although most of the time they don't know when I SH or they don't verbalize that they know, but I would have been tempted to go deep and have to go to the hospital because they wouldn't have known that I went to the hospital. I'm having some SUI feelings today. I think it's some stress at work. Work might be bought out by someone else and that uncertainty isn't great. I've applied at a couple of places just in case. Don't know if they would be a good fit for me or not, but it would be nice to have a couple of options. I wish former T would write me back. It frustrates me when she doesn't. I know she doesn't *have to* as she is of course no longer my T, I just want her to. I guess I still want her to care about me and she did a much better job with me than current T. HUGS Kit

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I feel like I only deserve bad things to happen to me. Don't know where this feeling is coming from today...HUGS Kit

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Made the mistake of asking about today 3.5 hrs ago. No reply. I am tired of ignoring from people. Say yes or no. Not that hard. Now i feel like a bother and I'm writing him off
I'll be t shopping again at some point, sigh
My t doesnt make same day appointments. Maybe for brand new people, but not for old people.
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I feel like I only deserve bad things to happen to me. Don't know where this feeling is coming from today...HUGS Kit
If somebody buys out the company, that might make your choice FOR you. The uncertainty would still be unnerving. But if its any consolation, every time i got fired, my life always turned out better. But now im thinking that just means it was really poopy before.
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My t doesnt make same day appointments. Maybe for brand new people, but not for old people.
I can only imagine my therapist's response if I asked to meet her on a same day appointment. She would kick me to the curb as quickly as she could read the email. She can barely tolerate seeing me on a planned basis, nevermind ad hoc.
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If somebody buys out the company, that might make your choice FOR you. The uncertainty would still be unnerving. But if its any consolation, every time i got fired, my life always turned out better. But now im thinking that just means it was really poopy before.
I've been through a buy out before with a different company and stayed there 3 more years. It definitely wasn't a better company to work for but it worked well enough for those three years and then I left on my own terms. I don't think the SUI thoughts are all about work, I just think work isn't helping the SUI thoughts because I had them towards the end of last week too, and the work thing just came up this morning.

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Today is what would have been my dad's 77th birthday. Yesterday in session we were discussing some things that my dad did that hurt me when I went for a visit for his 70th birthday. These things were a bit out of character for him and may have been the beginnings of his disease, but they really hurt me and no one (husband or mom) at the time stood up for me and told him to back off. For context, one incident happened when we went to visit the area of their city next to the river and I suggested we rent some bikes. He yelled at me how stupid that idea was and then continued to berate me for 5 or more minutes on the street corner. I think I tried to escape by going into a shop for a few minutes and when I came back out he was still pissed. There were other incidents on this one trip. I feel that our relationship was damaged by this stuff, at least on my end. I feel so guilty that I let this affect our relationship. Now he's dead and I can't fix it.
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My t doesnt make same day appointments. Maybe for brand new people, but not for old people.

Mine has given me one same-day if I asked and he had an opening. I think so much depends on the T and how they operate.
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heres the thing its in the same area as the street with half a dozen known drug dealers. I am sure its a nose thumb thing,
 
 
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My t doesnt make same day appointments. Maybe for brand new people, but not for old people.
I know he does. It's how I've seen him so far. Just really rude dude it seems

Sucks because he was potentially great for me but if i wanted to pay to be ignored, I'd give money to my family

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Did you call or email? Did you ever ask him how quickly to expect email responses or calls back? In my experience 24 hours or so is more usual than 5 hours.
I don't think it rude or unusual not to hear back immediately

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Someone had a birthday at work so we all got birthday cake today. Just what I needed on a day I skipped my morning walk....Now I definitely have to go for a walk after work.

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I know he does. It's how I've seen him so far. Just really rude dude it seems

Sucks because he was potentially great for me but if i wanted to pay to be ignored, I'd give money to my family
Is he working? Has he had time today to even get back to you? Maybe not rude. Maybe just really busy or out of pocket? Seems like a bit of a knee-jerk reaction.
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Someone had a birthday at work so we all got birthday cake today. Just what I needed on a day I skipped my morning walk....Now I definitely have to go for a walk after work.
Said cake was delivered to me in my office even though I had explicitly avoided the break room....

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Wow. I know many people struggle with depression obviously, but i just mentioned on my fb art group how inwas struggling with ita nd the response was overwhelming and many people said thanks for opening the onversation, there were a few people who just said unhelpful things but mainly it was very supportive.
 
 
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Is he working? Has he had time today to even get back to you? Maybe not rude. Maybe just really busy or out of pocket? Seems like a bit of a knee-jerk reaction.
He only does 50 min sessions, how can he not have 5 seconds to type "No" in a text?

He has at least 10 min between people.

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Have you clarified expectations about how quickly to expect a response from him?

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He only does 50 min sessions, how can he not have 5 seconds to type "No" in a text?

He has at least 10 min between people.
Sorry DP, I'm sure that's frustrating. Maybe you will hear back soon. Maybe he forgot his cell phone today. Or the battery died. I know that doesn't make it better, I just thought of two reason why he might not respond in between sessions.

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