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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#761
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Whats the point in saying, "well NOW i dont have time for YOU!" when your t comes around to you and says, okay, your turn, lets go. We wait in line for their availability. So what? Its a one-to-many relationship, they are one, we are many. Its one-to-one when its our time. Seriously, i am asking, why are we saying we are mad at them because this is how it is? Or is it... transference? |
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#762
It is disrespectful for a therapist to think a client is going to drop everything and come when they beckon.
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#763
only to help ease my anxiety it is 22 hours to go. at least i am not as bad as a week ago doing this just about evry hour
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#764
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Glass half empty, half full, i say. I mean, otherwise waddya do, just wait for your turn to come around again, and refuse it again? To clarify, we are talking about NOT regularly scheduled sessions, but more like out of session contact? |
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#765
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v "I will see you at X tomorrow morning" I would consider the former and completely refuse the latter. Therapists do not get to dictate to me when I will have an appointment. They can offer and I can accept or decline. I never felt like I had to take anything they had - I also have choice. I never felt like I needed them any more than I thought they needed clients (not me specifically -but they actually do need people to hand them money to sit there). I do not believe the therapist is doing the client a favor by having a free spot in which to see them. I see it as the therapist makes money from appointments and wants to fill a spot with someone from whom they will make money. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#766
Tomorrow i am definitely going out to an urban sketchers event i have cleaned of my camping chair and put it in the boot. it seems doable now but i will wait and see
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#767
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That is for sure how it felt.. he always says, I have an appointment open at this time let me know if you want it.. or I will put you in on this time in case you do want it. Not, I have time x open see you then. Though to be fair he did know that one of the things that I was pissed about was not being able to get into see him last week. So, I think he may have said it that way because he assumed I would want the first possible appointment he had open. __________________ "You decide every moment of every day who you are and what you believe in. You get a second chance, every second." "You fail to recognize that it matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be!" - J.K. Rowling. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire. |
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#768
But isn't this the T that is notorious for cancelling at the last minute, not showing up, and generally screwing up appt times? At least that's the impression I've had for a long time.
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#769
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What do urban sketchers sketch? That sounds like a tongue twister: How many sketchers would a sketchy sketcher sketch if a sketchy sketcher could sketch sketchers? __________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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Urban Sketchers Chicago: 7 Ways To Enjoy Urban Sketching More |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#771
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If your only goal is some weird kind of revenge, then fine, dont go. But if you actually wanted help with something, or to talk to someone, then go talk when they are available. Isnt it just that simple? You cant talk to them when they are NOT there! What am i missing? You have to take a leap of faith and trust they will be there, and that things can be different. Thats whats scary. Said the lady who's been afraid to take a shower for two weeks, gross. |
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#772
We were looking into buying a mobile home. We just found out that the park can deny your application if you have a low credit score (which we do). *SIGH* Looks like all we can do is rent...but of course, they check your freaking credit score too!!! We might be living in a motel for awhile
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#773
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I never found all that much benefit from them and no help at all so that is part of it for me. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Elder Harridan x-hankster
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#774
That is clearly stated. I mean, you clearly state that my assumptions dont hold for you, so it follows that neither would my conclusions.
Ha ha! In other words, we agree! But - im still left with my assumptions and my stinky conclusions... |
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#775
Your stinky conclusions make sense for me.
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Always in This Twilight
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#776
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I wonder if they'd let you either live in the trailer park or rent an apartment/house if you gave them a certain number of months' rent up front? Because you would have a bunch of cash from the home sale, right? |
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Always in This Twilight
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#777
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Out of curiosity, did you get gas shortly before it came on? If so, check your gas cap--I think sometimes if that's not screwed on tightly (or the door is open), the light can come on. Or it could be a bad sensor. I think there are places that will diagnose it for free (they just have to plug it into some sort of machine). |
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Tweaky Dog
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#778
Afternoon, Couch.
Yoga is helping me stay grounded, but man oh man, the Critic is loud. Whatever happens over the next few weeks, I'm gonna need R to help me ignore the bastard so we can get some work done. __________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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Always in This Twilight
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#779
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That's actually what my mind jumped to--that he let that client make that demand and responded to it. You wouldn't do something like that. I would definitely talk to him about all of this. Because it certainly doesn't sound like you ask him for too much. Especially considering that he's a part of your safety plan, like you mentioned in that other post. Maybe this is a case where he's sort of burned out with his job and is taking it out on you? And I would also be bothered by him just saying "I have this time on Monday, see you then." If I ask for an earlier session, my T will always say something like, "I have 10:30 Monday--would that work for you?" I think you should still go talk to him though. |
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Grand Magnate
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#780
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