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Default Apr 22, 2019 at 09:26 PM
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Healed, I am thankful my T doesn’t work in an office like that but I do have anxiety about people knocking or coming in. Thankfully my T knows that would be extremely disturbing to me. His fault or not he would expect to have to do a lot of repair it I’ve work to get us to OK again. I suspect he would expect a lot of emails and over the top emotional reactions. His office is my only safe space and for someone to violate that he would take just as seriously as any other form of abuse.
I am sorry your T has not emailed, they may be trying to resolve the issue of interruptions or may be feeling very upset about it themselves. Hopefully you can talk it out next session.

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Healed, I would definitely find that upsetting if it happened in my session as well. In fact, once, ex-MC answered a call from a client (she called twice on his cell, so he figured emergency) during our session and stepped outside to talk with her for a few minutes. It really bothered me and made me feel less important. I wonder if part of the reaching out to your T and desperately wanting a reply is to sort of assert your presence, that you're important, too? Maybe coming from a younger place? (which your T should understand). I hope your T responds in some way. When are you due to see him next?

I think you may be right.. I have essentially been in crisis mode for awhile now. T knows about my SI and how bad my anxiety has been. So, while t has me not doing well in his office, he ends the appointment to deal with another one on the phone in crisis. It feels so degrading to me in away, which is silly because like I said we were at the end of the session. We were wrapping things up.

Anyways, I don't have an appointment with t this week.. He was all booked, I am on the cancellation list which generally means I won't get an appointment. I think have been called in from the cancellation list twice in the 7 years I have been seeing him. I was seeing him every other week up until this month, going weekly in April and I just scheduled weekly for may.

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Default Apr 22, 2019 at 10:20 PM
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Healed—to be honest if you were at the end of your session I don’t see what difference two minutes would have made to the other client; the receptionist could have gotten them to hang on for that length of time. I think your feelings are completely legitimate. Endings of sessions can be even more important than the rest of the session.

As for emailing him, he’s just shown you in session that for him the squeaky wheel gets the grease, so I don’t think you should feel bad about all the emails. I do think you have the right to a response, just like that client apparently had a right to interrupt your session. Would a phone message get him to respond via phone or email?
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Default Apr 22, 2019 at 10:31 PM
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I don't think it is wrong to expect the therapist to treat the whole time the client pays for with respect. He did not do so here - I think it is perfectly reasonable to call him out on it.
I don't believe that clients need put up with bad behavior from therapists. Women particularly seem to think they are only deserving of little crumbs of kindness and not make waves. To that I say ********.

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Healed—to be honest if you were at the end of your session I don’t see what difference two minutes would have made to the other client; the receptionist could have gotten them to hang on for that length of time. I think your feelings are completely legitimate. Endings of sessions can be even more important than the rest of the session.


As for emailing him, he’s just shown you in session that for him the squeaky wheel gets the grease, so I don’t think you should feel bad about all the emails. I do think you have the right to a response, just like that client apparently had a right to interrupt your session. Would a phone message get him to respond via phone or email?


This was my initial frustration.. she has his schedule and knew we would be ending very shortly. Phone message are less effective than emails for getting t to respond. Thanks for the validation. It makes me feel not so needy/child like.

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There's a wifi network near my Daughter s school called 'secret meth lab'
Lol, must be some kind of joke.
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There's a wifi network near my Daughter s school called 'secret meth lab'
My H named ours FBI Van #...lol.

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Default Apr 23, 2019 at 01:40 AM
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I miss T so much. L is not T. Her email back was not reassuring. I don't care if she'll "hold in her mind" what I wrote. T would always tell me that everything would be okay. I need T not L!

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I should not be allowed around chocolate at the moment. In spite of saying I would save it, I have just opened my last Easter egg.

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Yeah, i was just commenting on the "secret meth lab". It caught me off guard.
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Yeah, i was just commenting on the "secret meth lab". It caught me off guard.
Is it your secret meth lab?!

My old best friends neighbor called hers "the chamber of secrets".

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I think you may be right.. I have essentially been in crisis mode for awhile now. T knows about my SI and how bad my anxiety has been. So, while t has me not doing well in his office, he ends the appointment to deal with another one on the phone in crisis. It feels so degrading to me in away, which is silly because like I said we were at the end of the session. We were wrapping things up.

Anyways, I don't have an appointment with t this week.. He was all booked, I am on the cancellation list which generally means I won't get an appointment. I think have been called in from the cancellation list twice in the 7 years I have been seeing him. I was seeing him every other week up until this month, going weekly in April and I just scheduled weekly for may.


Healed it's not silly. You feel the way you feel. She could have waited and let the other client wait too. I'm sorry your struggling so much. Having to wait a full week when in crisis mode is awful. Can you reach out to another T? How far ahead do you normally have to book with this one- has he ever offered a regular slot?

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I should not be allowed around chocolate at the moment. In spite of saying I would save it, I have just opened my last Easter egg.
How many did you have? And how big is your egg? It's okay to not save it as it's meant to be eaten anyway.

I bought a 60g rabbit on sale today! I also have a tendency to comfort eat but I generally only buy single bars or small 100g blocks. Time has told me not to buy multipacks because I can't save stuff and it will be gone within 2-3 days at the most .

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I always think profiterole sounds like a kind of corruption, like payola.

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