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Grand Magnate
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#361
Healed, I am thankful my T doesn’t work in an office like that but I do have anxiety about people knocking or coming in. Thankfully my T knows that would be extremely disturbing to me. His fault or not he would expect to have to do a lot of repair it I’ve work to get us to OK again. I suspect he would expect a lot of emails and over the top emotional reactions. His office is my only safe space and for someone to violate that he would take just as seriously as any other form of abuse.
I am sorry your T has not emailed, they may be trying to resolve the issue of interruptions or may be feeling very upset about it themselves. Hopefully you can talk it out next session. __________________ There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night |
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Young Butterfly
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#362
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I think you may be right.. I have essentially been in crisis mode for awhile now. T knows about my SI and how bad my anxiety has been. So, while t has me not doing well in his office, he ends the appointment to deal with another one on the phone in crisis. It feels so degrading to me in away, which is silly because like I said we were at the end of the session. We were wrapping things up. Anyways, I don't have an appointment with t this week.. He was all booked, I am on the cancellation list which generally means I won't get an appointment. I think have been called in from the cancellation list twice in the 7 years I have been seeing him. I was seeing him every other week up until this month, going weekly in April and I just scheduled weekly for may. __________________ "You decide every moment of every day who you are and what you believe in. You get a second chance, every second." "You fail to recognize that it matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be!" - J.K. Rowling. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire. |
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Child of a lesser god
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#363
Healed—to be honest if you were at the end of your session I don’t see what difference two minutes would have made to the other client; the receptionist could have gotten them to hang on for that length of time. I think your feelings are completely legitimate. Endings of sessions can be even more important than the rest of the session.
As for emailing him, he’s just shown you in session that for him the squeaky wheel gets the grease, so I don’t think you should feel bad about all the emails. I do think you have the right to a response, just like that client apparently had a right to interrupt your session. Would a phone message get him to respond via phone or email? |
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#364
I don't think it is wrong to expect the therapist to treat the whole time the client pays for with respect. He did not do so here - I think it is perfectly reasonable to call him out on it.
I don't believe that clients need put up with bad behavior from therapists. Women particularly seem to think they are only deserving of little crumbs of kindness and not make waves. To that I say ********. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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Young Butterfly
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#365
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This was my initial frustration.. she has his schedule and knew we would be ending very shortly. Phone message are less effective than emails for getting t to respond. Thanks for the validation. It makes me feel not so needy/child like. __________________ "You decide every moment of every day who you are and what you believe in. You get a second chance, every second." "You fail to recognize that it matters not what someone is born, but what they grow to be!" - J.K. Rowling. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire. |
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#366
There's a wifi network near my Daughter s school called 'secret meth lab'
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#367
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#368
Sheesh.
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#369
__________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#370
I miss T so much. L is not T. Her email back was not reassuring. I don't care if she'll "hold in her mind" what I wrote. T would always tell me that everything would be okay. I need T not L!
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#372
I should not be allowed around chocolate at the moment. In spite of saying I would save it, I have just opened my last Easter egg.
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#374
__________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#375
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Healed it's not silly. You feel the way you feel. She could have waited and let the other client wait too. I'm sorry your struggling so much. Having to wait a full week when in crisis mode is awful. Can you reach out to another T? How far ahead do you normally have to book with this one- has he ever offered a regular slot? __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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I bought a 60g rabbit on sale today! I also have a tendency to comfort eat but I generally only buy single bars or small 100g blocks. Time has told me not to buy multipacks because I can't save stuff and it will be gone within 2-3 days at the most . __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#377
__________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#378
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#379
Final core elective class today at 5-6.30pm.
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