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Old 04-19-2019, 07:47 AM #1
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Is it wrong to want a person who has physically and sexually assulted me, gaslighted, manipulated, stolen from me and otherwise abused me to NOT be around me, certainly not unsupervised regardless of their relation to me?
T is the only one that thinks he has to be gone yesterday. Everyone else is like “sorry to hear that”... even H is mad because I won’t deal with him any more.

Yes, I know posting this here is significantly skewing the replies I will get, however, after yesterday I can’t deal with being told “sorry YOU are going through this”. “HE is so good here”, “I can’t imagine HIM doing anything like that”, “why can’t YOU do more”....
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So to make sure I understand..this person did all the horrible things you mentioned and you do not want this person around and your T agrees but there are others (friends, family etc) that think its ok to have this person around?
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Your therapist is right. But your situation is complicated. I do hope placement can be found for the person so that you are no longer exposed to that abuse. But yes, your therapist is right. Others are torn because of who this is; that does not mean they are right.
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I think you and your therapist are right. You shouldn't be around this person.
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T is not the only one. I sincerely hope you find a way out.
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You t is right and i too hope you find your way out. You should not be around that person.
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Get this person away from you . you and your T are right . you can't be around someone that did those things to you .
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Yes, this type of treatment from anyone is not acceptable.

It's easy for people who are not in your shoes (e.g. H, family, strangers) to judge. You know how things are, so you have to do all in your power to cut loose (or cut them loose).
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I'm sorry you are in this situation. I don't think you should be around this person. HUGS Kit
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Is there any option/way for YOU to move away from this person since no one is supporting removing this person from your living situation? Would you perhaps qualify for a shelter situation?
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