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#21
Sounds very manipulative. Stupidly so.
Therapists are given wide latitude when it comes to manipulative and weird behavior, because it's assumed there is some purpose behind it which will benefit the client. Please. That kind of puppetry model reeks of dysfunction. Hey, let's heal emotional wounds with crazy mind games. |
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#23
Interesting discussion here... I saw her yesterday and brought up how I felt about the exchange. She said it was the fastest way to help me see what I wanted. If I had really wanted to quit, then what she said wouldn't have mattered.
True I guess. But then we talked about the misunderstanding there... Because I was trying to share how I felt, to discuss and understand it. She thought it would be a faster resolution to just help me go one way or the other - to actually quit or commit. But then said she was surprised by the entire conversation because I'm usually pretty decisive so... Yeah I don't really know. I think I'm just going to leave this issue behind and if it never happens again then ok. If it happens again then I might think about finding someone else. |
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#24
Seems like a pretty risky approach to me. Yeah, it "worked" how she had anticipated, but seems like she got pretty lucky to me. Saying what she did could have been disastrous. I also disagree that it wouldn't have mattered if you had wanted to quit. True, it wouldn't have changed the outcome, but her words very well may have had a negative impact on you. I don't think what she did was very well thought out. And what's she in such a hurry for? There's really no need to be so hasty.
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Anne2.0
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#25
I think that giving honesty and being straight about where you are in session gets your honesty and straightforwardness in response. You can't necessarily control how your T responds but this was a situation where you weren't playing it straight, so neither was she. You can decide what you're going to do, and you can amp up your end of the honesty in the conversation, and if your T is any good, she will ramp up hers too. I have found that being more honest in therapy moved me forward more than anything else.
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