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Old 04-23-2019, 10:43 PM #21
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The only reason I can see for dropping a client abruptly is if the therapist feels they or their private life are being invaded--as in threatened. Anything else has to be their fault because their training is supposed to cover all types of situations. How could your problems be owned by you? It's a shared problem. If your problem is a barrier problem, then that's theirs too to deal with too. Your therapist should help you find someone who can deal with you, specifically. Otherwise they aren't doing their job.
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The only reason I can see for dropping a client abruptly is if the therapist feels they or their private life are being invaded--as in threatened. Anything else has to be their fault because their training is supposed to cover all types of situations. How could your problems be owned by you? It's a shared problem. If your problem is a barrier problem, then that's theirs too to deal with too. Your therapist should help you find someone who can deal with you, specifically. Otherwise they aren't doing their job.
That's pretty much the only ethical reason, the other being circumstances outside their control

that doesn't mean it's the only reason
some therapists have a strong emotional reaction to something and react too quickly based on their initial reaction without taking enough time to process and think about it
some therapists don't think things through or misjudge
some therapists aren't ethical and willingly and knowingly hurt a client/patient in a way that's unethical for their own (likely selfish or at least self-centered) reasons.
Some therapists aren't doing their job.
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It doesnít matter..
I donít matter
Itís my fault ....
It always was
They canít mend a screwed up stupid ***** like me
I donít even deserve a ďhugĒ
I pollute everywhere I go

Thank you all for replying. I only got what I deserve... rejection and being blamed for my problems by an expert. They are ďrightĒ to help others since Iím not deserving. Itís ethical to give help to those who deserve it, I donít and I deserve no explanation aside from being blamed by them
Fuzzy -- THEY are screwed up. Maybe you somewhat, too, but so what -- you're a client, seeking therapy. THEY, and their system, are screwed up because they can't help and then they do things like this to you.

Emotionally, that may not make sense -- been there, done that, couldn't make sense to me either.

Except that -- logically -- can you see that that's true?

I lay on my sofa 3 years ago, after my last shaming, rejecting response from my last T, in a similar state to what you are writing about, and somewhere, despite that, some logic showed through. Finally. Didn't help a lot at the time -- maybe, because it's like "what am I going to do if it's THEM who are screwed up? The people I am going to for help?" But, over time, the logic has persisted and the feeling state has lessened.

The whole situation really sucks. They need to do something to fix it. They aren't.

Hope maybe something, out of the blue, shines through for you, too, before long.
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I am very sorry you did not have better luck again. I second what here today said and also, maybe therapy is just not for you overall. It would not be because you are damaged beyond repair at all, simply just it is only one approach and is not compatible/useful for everyone. It wasn't very useful for me either and I don't blame either the entire industry or myself - just not something that is effective for me. Much like a medication, lifestyle etc can work great for some but not others. Also, I am not sure what you would be seeking therapy for but I've found peer support communities much more useful, both online and in the 3D world. Where people actually relate to each-other, can share insight and tips for what has worked for them and provide company. I do think that therapy is extremely limited in what it can help and achieve.
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I don't understand how Ts can do that to you. What is the reason they give you? It's not your fault, and I'm SO sorry this happened to you. There's got to be a compassionate, caring T for you! How long had you been seeing this one? Hugs.
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