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She is absolutely narcissistic, incompetent and broken! If she weren’t more than that, I would have been able to walk away earlier with far fewer scars. I do believe she cared about me in a way I haven’t felt cared about in the past. When things weren’t angry, she listened to me, cried with me and laughed with me. She was exquisite and lovely. Yet, she didn’t know what to do with anger and negativity and couldn’t work ‘in the moment’ or make effective use of transference. In anger, she’d say things that are inexcusable and damaging. She shattered my sense of self and rejected a piece of me I’m not sure I’ll ever see again. I’ve been validated and empathized with by each of the therapist I’ve consulted with. It’s not much of a consolidation. To move on, I’ve had to accept all of it. The good, the bad, the ugly. I’ve accepted my part and accepted her part. I accept that I may never see her again. I accept that she’s probably forgotten me or moved on by now, and that when she thinks of me it’s probably in anger. I love her anyway, despite all of this. I hate her too. Last edited by Anonymous41422; May 02, 2019 at 08:03 PM.. |
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About the different wave lengths part - we could never, ever agree on what had happened in past sessions. We interpreted events and situations in totally different ways.
Whenever she tried to infer what was bothering me, she was usually wrong. She’d try to offer insights that had no relevance to me or what I was trying to say. We were two totally different people! |
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Agree these things are gray, not black and white. And I don't mean to imply anything about your situation.
But speaking generally, exploitation done with caring words is still exploitation. Actions speak louder than words. All a therapist has to do with is show some emotion, or say they care, thus manipulating the unconscious of the client/victim, and they are off the hook, no consequences. Therapists answer to no one. The general public will back therapists because the general public is guided by herd mentality. And the therapy community will bend over backward to give therapists the benefit of the doubt in order to sustain belief. Driving down the therapist's street might constitute a violation of the therapist's boundaries, but baiting you into emotional dependency/attachment in a context where it is absolutely inappropriate is a much larger violation, and is the one that sets the table for all the problems that follow. Therapy IS a violation. |
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__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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