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Poohbah
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My T and I have only had one big rupture, and I had a very legitimate right to be angry imo. With this stuff my anger is usually more limited to me coming in and expressing the fact that I'm overriding the urge to be passive aggressive and sulk and make him try to figure out what I'm upset about and what the right thing to say would be. Then we talk about it. I tell him what things I want to say, but it's an extra layer of distance, like "I want to say things to hurt you and make you feel guilty" instead of just saying the things. Idk why I do it this way. It's definitely not an emotional maturity thing. Probably a neediness thing. The feeling is also not usually nearly as strong when I'm actually in session as like 2am when I've convinced myself that he never cared about me or something equally extreme and objectively irrational. |
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Poohbah
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I’m both intrigued and mortified by those who can let out their strong positive feelings towards their T in an unfiltered way. I wonder what that must be like. It would really be an alternate universe for me. |
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#23
I am intrigued that people report having positive feelings towards a therapist to begin with.
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The idea of telling my therapist she is important to me terrifies me. I mean i think about her and her family all the time and give no indication i even like her. We are out of sync with one another a lot, but for some reason i still feel a fondness. i don't know whether fondness is closeness
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