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Wise Elder
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my point was that I was wondering if you knew what those things are in the list you posted or if you just saw the list and went " this one looks good, think Ill see this one" and then later on you discover it wasnt what you thought it was going to be. many people that I know see a whole list of things a treatment provider does and thinks "wow this is a good therapist for me" with out actually knowing what those types of therapy are. my suggestion before choosing another therapist, when you see lists like this actually check out what those therapies are and decide whether those things are for you. now you know what SFBT is. move on to checking out what another one is in that list... example... do you know what Family Systems is? you can find out that information by looking up and researching Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) Do you know what Gestalt therapy model is? or what Expressive Arts Therapy is, or what psycho dynamic therapy is, or what Person Centered Therapy model is? or any of the other kinds of therapies in that list. my suggestion is never go into therapy with someone unless you know exactly what the therapies are. that way you know what to expect from you and from the therapist and you can find yourself a good match for a therapist. I know so many people who just jump into seeing this therapist or that one and then end up with lots of complaints and problems because that therapist isnt a good match. if you want a good match you need to know what types of therapy techniques work for you then find someone who does that therapy technique. really check out those things on the list before making your decision of if you want this kind of therapist and do the kind of work that they do. Always, Always check out what services they offer, what therapy techniques they use, and always check out what their expectations / rules and such are. that way you dont waste alot of time with someone who doesnt match up with your views are of what you need and want to do in therapy. when I am choosing a new therapist I treat it like people do when they are buying a new car or new house. its not going to work if it doesnt fit me. |
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#42
I agree with LOTT and LT. Most Ts list a wide range of their modalities on their information sites, and then formulate a treatment plan based on your needs and treatment goals. I don't think you are going to have to worry about the T doing SFBT at you when you walk in the door!
What you do know is that your current therapist's approach is making you very uncomfortable. Most therapists would argue that the success of therapy largely rests on the relationship between the two people in the room. The only way to figure this out is by going and meeting the therapist in person. |
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I just think it is quite interesting that she first of all said she would not retest me from 15 years ago because I am on meds. Then she said she wanted hypnotize me to fuse my alters and when I was actually considering I had asked her would she use hypnsis to find out why and when my alters were created. She said no we dont need to I can teach you how to do that.
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I cant find it but there was one with a cat sitting like the therapist and a client on the couch. It said that sounds stressful sir. Have you ever tried pushing a bunch of **** off the table. I thought it was cute.
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I am so bummed right now. The lady I contacted said she doesnt accept my insurance. I looked and looked and either they are LPC's which cant diagnose, dont accept my insurance or are male. I refuse to see a male therapist. Been there done that. I cant go without a therapist, this one is dangerous, ****!!!!
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I could but I was hoping to take this time to get help for dissociative disorder issues. My T knows nothing about dissociative disorders and because she knows nothing she is actually going to be doing supervision under the T I am seeing now and having a problem with so either way I will still technically be treated by this same woman as my T on vaca is going to be looking to her for advice. ****!
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Hm, looks like it depends on where you live Are you necessarily looking for a diagnosis right now? Could you just tell her what your T had said about your possible diagnoses? |
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I want a diagnosis and treatment.
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You might need to pursue diagnosis by someone other than the person treating you. I recently went and got a second opinion on my decade-old DID diagnosis. I found a psychiatrist with explicit experience in DID using the ISSTD (International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation) website.
My therapist doesn't diagnose either, and I can appreciate why he wouldn't want to focus on diagnosis. He is only interested in the person in front of him, and is only interested in a diagnosis IF it is going to help the therapy. It was helpful for me to see this psychiatrist who I know has explicit experience in DID and, thus, was able to both understand my experience & answer my questions & doubts. The psychiatrist isn't going to be the one doing my therapy, though, and that's OK. A psychiatrist who has experience in DID may be able to refer you to a therapist with experience. In any case, if you haven't checked out the ISSTD website, I highly recommend it. |
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Agreed that you might need to see someone separate for a diagnosis--psychiatrists tend to do that, and you could probably find one on your insurance. As do psychologists--if they aren't on your insurance, would it be possible for you to pay for just one or two sessions to get the diagnosis, then see someone who would be covered by your insurance?
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As I've suggested before, you can find a psychologist who specializes in diagnostic testing. You would see that individual just for testing. They would write a letter of assessment. Both times I've been through formal psychological testing, it was with an outside party who I didn't know and never saw again once testing was complete. Both times I was sent for that testing, specifically because my therapist or pdoc at the time wanted to clarify my diagnosis to make sure he was not missing something.
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Thanks guys. I cannot pay for it. I emailed a couple more people so hopefully someone takes my insurance. If not I will be stuck where I am. I am really worried about my T that is going on vaca in two more days. She has taken her website down and not replied to my email. She said I could email her until she left with any concerns. I was trying to see if she had any recommendations.
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How cool that many of you know the OP from past experience and can validate how far she has come along the healing road!
I'm not sure if this helps but reading about "dissociative systems" made me think that dissociation is related to triggers. I personally didn't get better using visualisations because doing visualisation in a meditative situation didn't deal with how I react when triggered at all. Having dissociative friends reinforces my thoughts about that. Dealing with how I switch into dissociative behaviour unawares when triggered requires trust. For me that level of trust is with close friends who have their own experiences of trauma. I don't see how it can be done in 3 sessions, especially if you feel afraid about the process. Dealing with triggers and reactive states requires a patient, repeated, kind interventions. Dnester, from what people here have written about you, you sound perceptive enough about yourself to work out what you need to do in this situation? Sounds like some of this might be panic about your therapist not being around? sending hugs from my own young alter!!! __________________ *"Fierce <-> Reality"* oh god I am struggling today, help me to remember how to stay connected and human! remember: the nut shell against human predators and my own fear! |
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Grand Poohbah
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Im just so confused now. My therapist on vaca told me to accept the very likely diagnosis of UDD. Stop struggling with something I can solve and trust Dr. C. I dont trust her though but I might end up having to stay with her. So far 4 out of the 8 LPCs, Lcsw and Psychiatrists I have contacted have told me they dont accept my insurance or they are to far from me .I just feel like I have thought all this time that my thoughts were alters but now I am not so sure. Now I am even second guessing if Thorne the one I felt is my bad alter is even an alter. The only thing I know to do is go to my psychologist( Dr. C) tommorow and explain to her my concerns about the chatter not being alters. Seeing if Thorne is actually an alter and why she thinks that. With telling her I dont believe my thoughts are alters will eliminate entertaining the thought of fusing them together. If she listens to me that is. |
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I think you should discuss ALL your concerns with Dr.C tomorrow.Maybe even write them all down ahead of time so you don't forget any.And leave space in between each one to take notes while discussing them.
I feel bad for you Dnester,there's so many different opinions by so many,it's understandable that you're confused. I try to not influence you but I do think I will say what I really think... First off,I'm not seeing the "progress" that's been talked about.Your posts are always all over the place,you sound very confused,heavily influenced by others and most of the time you seem worse not getting better or gaining more knowledge. You don't even know if you have DID for sure.That psychologist saw you for how long years ago? Three months?And doesn't even remember you,doesn't have your records and now wants to pull some hocus pocus **** after 3 sessions? Wtf? It's all so ridiculous. |
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