To email, or not

Hey,

So my T was away for 4 weeks and today was the first day back since then, so I was somewhat anxious to be getting back to them - back to that safe space. I had it in my mind that it would be a really validating session, that I’d settle right in and feel a bit more at ease than I’ve been for the past few weeks. I thought there would be heaps to talk about, I thought I would miraculously open up more than I usually do etc...

Evidently none of that happened. I went in sleep deprived, and could barely find the words to say hello, let alone contribute to the conversations. T basically talked and tried to engage me, but I just couldn’t get anywhere. I was blank. Barely glad to be there. I’m feeling rather letdown by myself.

My question is - do I send T an email or not about this - I will be seeing them again in a week anyway? They are completely open to email contact, but I relied a lot on this form of communication with my last T, and I’ve been trying to avoid it a little with current T. I’d rather try to talk in person, but some days it just doesn’t happen. I guess I already know the answer, but I’d like some opinions for or against sending an email.. What would I even say? I don’t have words. I think I literally just want to be in their presence. I want to feel close to them.

TIA

I wouldn't, I'd wait until next week.

I wouldn't email.

You're seeing T next week. You are also saying you overly relied on email communication with previous T and want to avoid it. Try to experiment and not email if you want to break the pattern and learn a new way of relating.

In session next week, you could discuss with T how you wanted to email to be close, or feel the connection. That would be worth addressing imo.

Could you maybe journal instead and then share that in therapy if you needed to at that point? HUGS Kit

Is writing a discovery process for you? I say yes email if you have the time to write and revise a really good email.

So I agree with most of you who say that I should not email and wait until next week. My only problem here is that I won’t address these things, I’ll completely ignore them, pretend they don’t exist or draw a blank as soon as I’m there. Which is why I became somewhat reliant on email in the past - it was the most effective way for me to get my point across, or thoughts out in the open to be addressed in session

Think of it for the greater good; transference issues are common in session. Please google the term, find a therapist that is empathic on the issue too. It can be revealing to understand yourself in that manner.