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Hey,
So my T was away for 4 weeks and today was the first day back since then, so I was somewhat anxious to be getting back to them - back to that safe space. I had it in my mind that it would be a really validating session, that I’d settle right in and feel a bit more at ease than I’ve been for the past few weeks. I thought there would be heaps to talk about, I thought I would miraculously open up more than I usually do etc... Evidently none of that happened. I went in sleep deprived, and could barely find the words to say hello, let alone contribute to the conversations. T basically talked and tried to engage me, but I just couldn’t get anywhere. I was blank. Barely glad to be there. I’m feeling rather letdown by myself. My question is - do I send T an email or not about this - I will be seeing them again in a week anyway? They are completely open to email contact, but I relied a lot on this form of communication with my last T, and I’ve been trying to avoid it a little with current T. I’d rather try to talk in person, but some days it just doesn’t happen. I guess I already know the answer, but I’d like some opinions for or against sending an email.. What would I even say? I don’t have words. I think I literally just want to be in their presence. I want to feel close to them. TIA |
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I wouldn't, I'd wait until next week.
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I wouldn't email.
You're seeing T next week. You are also saying you overly relied on email communication with previous T and want to avoid it. Try to experiment and not email if you want to break the pattern and learn a new way of relating. In session next week, you could discuss with T how you wanted to email to be close, or feel the connection. That would be worth addressing imo. |
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Could you maybe journal instead and then share that in therapy if you needed to at that point? HUGS Kit
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Is writing a discovery process for you? I say yes email if you have the time to write and revise a really good email.
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So I agree with most of you who say that I should not email and wait until next week. My only problem here is that I won’t address these things, I’ll completely ignore them, pretend they don’t exist or draw a blank as soon as I’m there. Which is why I became somewhat reliant on email in the past - it was the most effective way for me to get my point across, or thoughts out in the open to be addressed in session
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Think of it for the greater good; transference issues are common in session. Please google the term, find a therapist that is empathic on the issue too. It can be revealing to understand yourself in that manner.
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