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Has anyone left a therapy session early? I did a few times with former T. Like I just got too triggered and needed to leave. I always felt bad about it, but since I was paying for the time whether or not I used it, I didn't feel bad enough to stay. Ideally I wouldn't have gotten so triggered that I couldn't have sat there and participated in the therapy. I would just say to T, Can I leave? And she always said yes. This happened maybe once a year...Just wondering if anyone else has ever done this. HUGS Kit
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I did twice. Both times with ex-T. First time, I don't remember why. Second time was when she terminated with me.
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I've seriously thought about it a few times (including a couple times with current T), but didn't do it. Those were times I was really upset with him (or ex-T or ex-MC) and just didn't know if I could continue, but I stuck it out. I did have to step out of a few sessions for a bit because I was having a panic attack or felt sick, but I always came back.
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I have not when I get that triggered I freeze or disasociate so I can't go anywhere. I usually end up staying late so I can be safe to seive.
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Once towards the end of a session. I got too mad to stay. I told T that I had to go and she said ok and moved back a little. I left, went to my transition room (this was at the old clinic) and worked through my anger. I returned about 10 mins later, it was right at time or shortly after. I asked if we were ok and she said we were. I apologized for having to leave.
I had one other session that I didn't leave but I was so mad that I stopped talking like 10 mins into the session and didn't talk very much at all even though T kept trying to work with me. On that session, I was shaking so bad that I couldn't pack up my backpack to leave - I ended up sitting back down and talking for about 30 mins. I had asked her if she had the time to stay and she did. Otherwise, if I got triggered, I would disassociate to some degree and was unable to leave. |
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#6
My T always makes sure I know I can get away/out/leave if I ever need to. He has also been very honest that, at least with me, this is his greatest fear in working with me... that I will leave and not come back. I have never left early with him. I would have walked out on M T several times but she was usually my ride home and it was a 4 mike walk... yes ethics... but driving me home was the least of the evils.
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Yes, several times. I have DID and not all alters want to be in therapy. If one of them is triggered out in session they sometimes just. leave. They think there is nothing wrong with them and they don't have DID.
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Yes during the period when we were doing phone sessions cuz she'd moved out of state, we got in an argument during one and I hung up on her mid-session. I had a miserable 3 days before calling her and apologizing and we worked through it.
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Yes, I was in floods of tears and we had an impasse with no way out that I could see at the time. I walked out, and my T was shocked bc I had never done this or shown signs of this. I felt he had al the power, and my only option was to leave.
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I've run out on my psychiatrist a few times in 23 years. He always called and we worked it out.
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#11
Yep.
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Not physically, but psychologically.
I also had an incompetent pdoc trainee once who upset me during our session. At the end, she stood in the doorway blocking my exit until I “smiled.” Pretty sure she knew I had an appointment with T right afterwards and T would want to know why I was so atypically upset, and that I’d tell T of pdoc’s incompetence. Of course I told T of the door blocking, too. Wrong move, fool. __________________ "I think I'm a hypochondriac. I sure hope so, otherwise I'm just about to die." PTSD OCD Anxiety Major Depressive Disorder (Severe & Recurrent) |
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Yeah, once. It was actually mutually decided on. I came into session really exhausted, not feeling well. It became pretty clear I wasn't in the head space to be there. My brain was just not functioning; it wasn't even a psychological thing -- I was just not physically or mentally able to function because I was feeling so badly. I really needed to go home and go to bed. Turned out I really was becoming ill with something at the time and that was just the moment it hit me like a brick. The therapist convincing me to just go home and get some rest was one of the kindest things he ever did. He didn't charge for the session either.
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I have with my former therapist who I'm bringing back. Just went through everything I could think of. Said I was done talking he was said you can go. I was like great!
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#15
No. I’ve wanted to on a couple of occasions, but if I’m
Paying for an hour I want my full hour. He’s tried to end early on me a couple times and sometimes I let it go and other times I was like nope I still have eight minutes. |
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#16
No, but only because I felt glued to the seat. Of course, if I left early, the therapist couldn't bill to insurance for the usual rate - unless I stayed for more than half the session. That wouldn't seem very fair to me, unless her actions were hostile or something else unacceptable and responsible for me deciding to leave.
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#17
Yes, once when ending with a T, who basically said we should end early bc I wasn't able to verbalize how I felt about ending (somewhat abruptly). That was humiliating and painful.
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Once. The session was really challenging and T was kinda being a jerk so I asked if we could just stop because i was done and wanted to leave. I think T realized he pushed to far though because he offered me a hug on the way out, something that happens, but not often. It was awful.
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#19
I did once, Slumberkitty, but not out of anger. My father had recently died, my therapist and I were discussing what was going on with my mother, and I told her I really felt I needed to leave right then and go see how my mother was getting along. There were only a few minutes left in the session anyway, so she was fine with my doing that.
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I became very worn out in a session once and asked if we could finish. I am not typically assertive, so I think I surprised myself and my therapist. She asked if I wanted to do some grounding exercises. I said yes (out of compliance) and then quickly said, "No. I really want to be done." So, we scheduled my next appointment, and I left. I apologized the next week. My therapist said there was nothing to apologize for and that it was good I took control of what I needed at that moment.
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