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After having to cancel my session yesterday and rescheduling the session last minute for today, my T told me she was pregnant which is why she had to miss my session. I don’t know how I feel right now. Thankfully, I don’t really experience any maternal transference with her, which I’m really glad about. However, since finding out, I do feel way more alone. I don’t know what it is about current T having a baby, but this is really making me miss Ex T. This is going to sound odd, but while I was seeing Ex T, I’d have other less intense attachment figures I’d talk to her about - I’d tell her about how I felt jealous and sad if they were having a baby. And then Ex T would start acting jealous towards me - as if she was sad I wanted someone other than her to be my mom. I know this sounds really complicated, manipulative, and maybe bizarre, but right now, I am most sad about not being able to talk to Ex T about current T’s baby. Normally, I feel like this would be the kind of situation that would make us closer - I’d tell her I was jealous, she’d get jealous towards me, we’d get in a big argument, I’d then feel wanted by her, and then I’d manipulate the situation and say something like “Oh T, I’ve actually wanted you to be my Mom all along... not her.” And then she’d get all teary eyed, tell me how honored she felt that I’d want HER to be my mom, and then we’d hug.
To be totally honest... I am sad that my T is pregnant because I can’t use it as an opportunity to manipulate Ex T and make her jealous. I feel alone. I feel like a terrible person for saying all that out loud and I feel like an even more terrible person that my intentions are so dishonest and selfish, but this is how a really feel and I felt like I had to share it and get it out somewhere. I don’t know if I’ll ever actually be able to share this with current T because I don’t want her to feel uncomfortable with me talking about her baby/pregnancy and I also don’t really think I can show her the craziness that is my brain. |
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HowDoYouFeelMeow?, LonesomeTonight
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Your ex-T sounds real bizarre and badly in need of her own therapy if she behaved the way you described.
About you T's baby, I hope you have enough time to make arrangements while she is away. Maybe talk to her about all these feelings and impulses it caused you. |
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