My new T makes me doubt and blame myself for our bad therapeutic relationship

May 28, 2019 at 07:07 PM

Can’t we all just agree that there is no ‘normal’ in therapy, and nobody has any definitive clue what will work for anybody else?

All we have are our OWN experiences to share. I don’t see how anyone can speak from a place higher than that...

BudFox · 08:52 PM

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Originally Posted by Anne2.0

I wish it were possible to have a discussion where it didn't evolve into personal attacks.

The nastiest comment in this thread, in my opinion, is the one where you told OP her thinking is distorted and her attitude and perspective are the problem.

I go out of my way to avoid personal bickering, but in this case i took the bait from another poster, which I regret.

eta: I tend to give clients benefit of the doubt over therapists. Therapists are professional manipulators. Some people give therapists benefit of the doubt and consider clients to be unreliable witnesses to their own experience and think nothing of openly contradicting what the client says or feels. This is considered normal and a-ok.

missbella · May 28, 2019 at 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Anne2.0

I wish it were possible to have a discussion where it didn't evolve into personal attacks.

Starting with your own posts.

feileacan · May 28, 2019 at 10:35 PM

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Originally Posted by BudFox

social situation and thus there's no need to engage in common courtesy".

This suggests the therapist's refusal to engage in these conventions is rooted in some superior knowledge of what is appropriate or necessary, and trumps OP's perceptions or needs.

..., suggesting that you believe you know better.

So, I haven't actually said these things, right? What if I told you that I have never even meant these things and the point of my posts was something else?

These interpretations stem from your head and for some reason you are attributing them to me. If I tell you that your interpretation is incorrect then rather than correcting your understanding you are accusing me of gaslighting.

But this is your thinking and not mine. To me, the things I wrote do not suggest anything what you think. Rather, I suggested something completely different that you failed to see.

The argument with you is totally pointless because you are insisting that you know better what I thought and suggested and that's obviously totally absurd.

FooZe · May 29, 2019 at 12:07 AM

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Anonymous41422 Guest Posts: n/a	May 28, 2019 at 07:07 PM #61 Can’t we all just agree that there is no ‘normal’ in therapy, and nobody has any definitive clue what will work for anybody else? All we have are our OWN experiences to share. I don’t see how anyone can speak from a place higher than that...

FooZe Administrator Community Support Team Member Since Apr 2009 Location: west coast, USA Posts: 25,996 (SuperPoster!) 14 5,089 hugs given	May 29, 2019 at 12:07 AM #65 This thread is being closed for administrative review.