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Grand Magnate
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May 25, 2019 at 04:48 PM
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I just want to go hide someplace and cry. I want a hug for T which I know can never happen in this lifetime. For the last 18 years May has been excruciatingly painful. I miss my mom. Tbalsways understood and I could email her. She was able to comfort me and not make me feel pathetic. To lose T at the beginning on June still seems like a nightmare that I keep trying to wake up from.
Emdr T is wonderful and we have accomplished a lot. I trust her when I am in that office. I wish I could email her just for some reasurance that I am not so pathetic. I can only text or call. I cant do that on a weekend then I would be totally pathetic. __________________ |
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Poohbah
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May 25, 2019 at 05:20 PM
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You are NOT pathetic. You are in pain. You're grieving. You lost two people and you miss them terribly.
What are you going to do about it? You need to do grief work, and I believe that Emdr T can help you with that. You think you're pathetic because you need to be comforted? You want to be loved, you want to be taken care of. There's nothing pathetic about that. __________________ In a world where you can be anything, be kind. ; |
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Always in This Twilight
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May 25, 2019 at 06:15 PM
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I agree that there's nothing pathetic about it at all. It's completely natural to grieve people you felt close to. Hugs...
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Grand Magnate
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May 25, 2019 at 07:22 PM
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I am not sure how much Emdt T can help me with grief work. She knows what the books say but I dont think she really understands it. Her parents and the grandparents who she was really close to still are alive. She hasnt ever lost. anybody she was really close to. I feel pathetic because I am in my late 40s and want to need nobody. I have an amazing husband and children who would do anything for me...The people I really want and need can no longer help me. __________________ Last edited by nottrustin; May 25, 2019 at 09:11 PM.. |
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Poohbah
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May 25, 2019 at 08:28 PM
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I'm in my late 50s and still want to be taken care of.
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May 25, 2019 at 11:48 PM
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If it's not a trigger for you i found having semi regular massages helpful in giving that cared for feeling. It's just about you for an hour and there's no need to talk. Sometimes there's no words for pain. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." 
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