Feeling like T doesn’t care

I'm glad you appear to be doing better hope don't worry you didn't cause any disagreements

"Ad hominem... is a fallacious argumentative strategy whereby genuine discussion of the topic at hand is avoided by instead attacking the character, motive, or other attribute of the person making the argument"

So predictable. Yawn...

If you disagree with what I said about the therapist caring thing, feel free to comment on that.

So some human beings are true north and others intrinsically invalid? I need this explained. I thought every post on Psych Central is subjective opinion based on individual experience.

Whatever guys. Just whatever.

Posts that blame and scold the victim are most popular and seen as truth.

Bonus points if you give a diagnosis.

Posts that give the victim benefit of the doubt are blasphemy and not to be trusted.

Good times, good times.

I am attached to my T and have told him more about my experiences than any other living human, including exH, BFF, SO. However , we have times when walking the complex "As IF" line breaks down on either side. You have to do mental gymnastics of pretending it is AS IF the T truly cares for you in this empathetic, attending way. T.S.Eliot has a line: Teach us to care and not to care. It reminds me of therapy. My T hurt my feelings so greatly last week by calling me a workaholic, and suddenly I kept dwelling in how he goes from my story to his 3 day weekends. How he probably eats lobster on Nantucket with his beautiful family and forgets about me. That IS self pity and all manner of projection, it is also probably to some degree true. He at once cares very much inside the session and not very much in his own time. It's a tough pill to swallow. We are their work. Some people( like me) consider work a lifestyle - like boarding high school faculty must. Some people like My T are into work/life balance and limit work . It becomes very touchy bc we are their jod, their work. Some T's see us as a calling, vocation/ avocation; some T's see us as a job.

You are against therapy/therapists, so you automatically assume all therapists are not caring. If this isn't so, why are you stating that her therapist doesn't care, when she feels that he does. I mean you do this on all of your posts.

BudFox, I really appreciate your posts and point of view. They help me keep my head on straighter.

Wow the other poster was correct about this site. There is nothing but ENABLING and remaining in denial about things that are obvious. Sick. This site isn't for me either. I will have a moderator remove my account now.

Without the slightest understanding of Budfox’s explorations of iatrogenesis, there is no standing to criticize.

I know Budfox has suffered therapy abuse, AND SO HAVE I (by 3 therapists). I have been a lurker for years, so I do have an understanding. And I am sorry for what he went through and for what all of us (therapist abuse victims) went through. With me I have finally found a good therapist after searching for 30 years.

Missabella, you are making assumptions about me. Anyway, it doesn't matter because this is for real my last post; I have requested that my account be deleted. They just haven't deleted it yet. This site is nothing but enabling and living in denial.

Over and Out.

I’m also deleting my account. This site has become more stressful than helpful for me.

Wow, again so binary.

As for enabling... I think most people in long term therapy are being victimized or exploited in some way. Whether they are participating in that is none of my business, so I dont comment on that. I only suggested OP's feeling about the therapist not caring might have some basis in reality. Shocking!