Do you think it has to be horrible before you can get therapy?

Catrionn · Jun 05, 2019 at 09:59 AM

I suspect that deep down inside, I feel that therapy is for people who are worse off than me, and I’m just being self-indulgent.

So sometimes, I’ll be having a few good days...and then the day or so before a therapy appointment, I start feeling bad about something. I wonder if my mind is doing that to me? I have to feel bad, so I can justify going to therapy?

nottrustin · Jun 05, 2019 at 11:37 AM

I dont think things have to be horrible. I think a person wants to live a better life and make changes

Omers · Jun 05, 2019 at 12:49 PM

I’m with Nottrustin.
Personally, I believe when we stop growing and learning we stop living... so self improvement is just as valid as any other goal/reason. I also think some people need that safe space to share things that can’t be shared elsewhere.

Anne2.0 · Jun 05, 2019 at 01:14 PM

I am not a big fan of d*cksizing pain and suffering, or the deservingness of help to cope or improve. I believe no one should suffer through, stiff upper lip or what not, before s/he deserves to get help. Or can step away from anything, including help, that harms them. And in my experience, denying or minimizing one's pain just comes back to kick you in the teeth later. If you think therapy might help, make a single appointment and ask whether or not you can be helped in the way you want. It's an hour investment and maybe a full fee. Going once doesn't mean you have to sign up for a decade.

Spirit of Trees · Jun 06, 2019 at 05:40 AM

I used to think like that but I wish I got to therapy earlier, instead of letting my mental health get really bad. It would've been good if I was able to nip some of my current issues in the bud. I think help is worth asking for, if you need it.

Catrionn · Jun 06, 2019 at 11:04 PM

didn’t have an outstanding therapy session today, but it wasn’t bad, either. I think I need to see her a couple more times before I’ll be sure how I feel.

We talked about very basic stuff - her background, HIPAA information, and an abbreviated version of the things in my life that have caused me to seek therapy.

As it happened, I was having a pretty good day (mental health/sanity), and I told her so. I know my sanity looked pretty good today; but I also know (from past experience) that the bad, crazy feelings always come back. I explained about that. I also explained the trick I think my mind plays on me - where I start looking for things to be upset about so I can justify coming to therapy.

She showed me two exercises for anxiety that I already know, and we set up another appointment for two weeks from now.

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Catrionn Member Member Since Aug 2017 Location: U.S. Posts: 25 6 25 hugs given	Jun 05, 2019 at 09:59 AM #1 I suspect that deep down inside, I feel that therapy is for people who are worse off than me, and I’m just being self-indulgent. So sometimes, I’ll be having a few good days...and then the day or so before a therapy appointment, I start feeling bad about something. I wonder if my mind is doing that to me? I have to feel bad, so I can justify going to therapy?
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nottrustin Grand Magnate Member Since Jan 2014 Location: n/a Posts: 4,819 10 375 hugs given	Jun 05, 2019 at 11:37 AM #2 I dont think things have to be horrible. I think a person wants to live a better life and make changes __________________
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Spirit of Trees Member Member Since May 2019 Location: Earth Posts: 189 4 111 hugs given	Jun 06, 2019 at 05:40 AM #5 I used to think like that but I wish I got to therapy earlier, instead of letting my mental health get really bad. It would've been good if I was able to nip some of my current issues in the bud. I think help is worth asking for, if you need it. __________________ I like deer with their stick legs and stick antlers
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