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View Poll Results: Did/Do you find the therapist you hired to be consistent?
Yes 15 48.39%
Yes
15 48.39%
Usually 9 29.03%
Usually
9 29.03%
maybe 0 0%
maybe
0 0%
sometimes 3 9.68%
sometimes
3 9.68%
what do you mean by find 0 0%
what do you mean by find
0 0%
no 1 3.23%
no
1 3.23%
the only consistent about the therapist is how inconsistent they are 3 9.68%
the only consistent about the therapist is how inconsistent they are
3 9.68%
They were but then stopped 0 0%
They were but then stopped
0 0%
They were not, but now they are 0 0%
They were not, but now they are
0 0%
other 0 0%
other
0 0%
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Default Jun 09, 2019 at 01:05 PM
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Did/Do you find the therapist you hired to be consistent?

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Default Jun 09, 2019 at 01:10 PM
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R is extremely consistent.

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Default Jun 09, 2019 at 01:23 PM
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One was very inconsistent in his communication but consistently quite dogmatic (and limited) when it came to his toolkits and views. The other one was very consistent in his communication and quite flexible in other ways but he never imposed anything. I like when someone is consistent in the basic but that way not the issue in my therapy as I am generally quite flexible and live by my boundaries, don't need anyone else to hold those things for me. They were just consistently not very useful.
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Default Jun 09, 2019 at 03:13 PM
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My current T is the most consistent T I have ever seen. She is consistent in every manner - her demeanor from week to week, the timeslot she gives me, the amount of notice she gives for absences, her responses and reactions to me, and I am sure there are many other ways she is consistent as well.
As a person who has experienced chronic and severe developmental trauma, her consistency allows me a sense of safety with her that I have not experienced before. I would say consistency is her "superpower". I believe she deliberately cultivates it and I am grateful for it.
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Default Jun 09, 2019 at 03:59 PM
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Yes—he's on time and rarely cancels or reschedules. I only email about scheduling issues but he gets back to me quickly for that. Occasionally I can tell he is in a mood (if this happens I ask and he will admit it) but usually he is about the same every time. There have been changes in the way we relate but I think that's just a matter of getting to know each other.
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Default Jun 09, 2019 at 04:29 PM
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Yes, never cancelled without a clear need to do so and that rarely happened. Never had that weird “what will T be like today” vibe that I’ve run into with certain doctors, etc. Always got back to be me within a predictable amount of time (usually within a couple hours by phone).
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Default Jun 09, 2019 at 04:32 PM
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T knows that for many reasons I need a lot of consistency to feel safe. He tries very hard to keep me in the same time slot or very close. He keeps the structure of our sessions basically the same even if the activities or what we discuss are different. He learned quickly last session how much I snowball if things are different and I notice everything. He has warned me that many of his boundaries are fluid, not set in stone so he encourages me to ask and talk about them often. I know he feels badly that just coincidentally at this time of his life he has a lot on his plate and is not able to offer me as much consistency as he wishes he could. He was very up front that he is not consistent about reading or replying to email, if I needed consistency in contact outside of session I have to call and leave a message.

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Default Jun 09, 2019 at 06:10 PM
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Yes, absolutely. Even when I sometimes acted like I wished she wasn't.
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Default Jun 09, 2019 at 06:37 PM
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I once brought up to my CBT T that I didn't feel a session had been as good as an earlier one. He questioned my expectation that sessions will always have the same feeling. I also spoke about the upset I felt when a previously warm person suddenly seemed distant. Then too he examined this expectation that people have the same mood, or countenance on different occasions. I think this was immensely helpful for me. He himself was a consistently stable and calm presence in my life. On occasion he had to cancel a session due to other commitments. I would respond UNgraciously to this and he would thank me for my UNDERSTANDING

He was totally inconsistent in responding to emails. The idea was that I could write whatever and whenever to him but the likelihood of a reply was pretty low. However he also had a pager and would phone back in any emergency (these were usually me having a meltdown - having to speak to the operator probably cut down on how much I used it.)
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Yes, mine is very consistent on all levels.
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