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Grand Magnate
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#21
DP much of the relationship I had with T would have been highly frowned upon by people here and most professionals. We crossed most boundaries. The relationship worked and we accomplished a lot. She was what I needed to open up and accept me for who I am without all the shame and guilt.
EMDR T and I have discussed it a few times and she knows that T and I had an unique relationship and they spoke on the phone a few times. Emdr T says that because of my history I needed somebody willing to break some of the rules in order for me to be able to trust. Everything T did was because she cared and wanted to help me. Her death has been horrifically painful but I am who I am today because of her willingness to do what I needed. __________________ |
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Grand Magnate
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#22
__________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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#23
My t is warm and engaging and experienced and such, but what she’s really excelled at has been giving me the time and space to do my own work. She’s pushed some when she judged it might be helpful, but not rushed as I wrestled with coming to my own terms with the things that brought me to therapy.
__________________ Since you cannot do good to all, you are to pay special attention to those who, by accidents of time, or place, or circumstance, are brought into closer connection with you. (St. Augustine) |
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Grand Poohbah
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#24
It concerns me that I find it so hard to answer this question, not because it indicates that she is a bad therapist (although ...), but because it might indicate how hard I find it to sift through my negative projections to truly see her. In turn, I realise how uncomfortably I sit in relation with her (and others).
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Grand Magnate
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#25
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Grand Magnate
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#26
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Like anything they are different but potentially just as painful. One of the ways I have been able to work through the loss of T is knowing that she would have never left me like that if she had the choice. We would have had time to transition me over appropriately to EMDR T. I also highly suspect she and I would have at least had occasionally emails. __________________ |
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Magnate
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#27
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