Couch 198: All the Countries Couch

Echos Myron redux · Jun 16, 2019 at 05:06 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Cats take pleasure in rejecting what their minions do for them.

Yes 😂 my poor H spent ages toy-shopping online for the cat. We now have two puzzle toys, one indifferent cat and one disappointed H.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 16, 2019 at 07:07 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

I’m babysitting for these people tonight that said they would be home by 11. It’s 12. She just texted to ask how it’s going. Um...it would be going better if you were actually here. I have a sinus headache and want to go home and go to bed.

That's annoying. I hope you get paid for the extra time they're gone. Like you get hourly vs. a flat rate?

LonesomeTonight · Jun 16, 2019 at 07:10 AM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

H is at it again. Four times to the ER this week for semi high bp (150/101) and semi high pulse (130's). I know there's something up to make those elevated, but pretty much everything besides anxiety has been ruled out. He still refuses to admit to his anxiety. Deep down, I still hope he proves me wrong and they find whatever it is that ailing him because otherwise this is all bs.

Ugh, I'm sorry Scarlet. It seems like he should be seeing his cardiologist for that, not going to the ER that many times (once, OK). That is a pretty high BP and pulse, if it's his resting pulse. Even when I'm having a panic attack, mine is usually more like 115 bpm (and my BP has always been relatively low--don't usually take that during an attack).

Jersey 4 · Jun 16, 2019 at 07:21 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

That's annoying. I hope you get paid for the extra time they're gone. Like you get hourly vs. a flat rate?

Yes. I charged her $20.00 bucks an hour last night. Weather kids were asleep or not. I’m not playing around with these families anymore. They are all getting me annoyed right now. Especially the lady that said “They were going to go in a different direction” and then posted an ad on care.com. That’s your different direction? Okay. Whatever.

stopdog · Jun 16, 2019 at 08:17 AM

Jersey - I hope your headache is gone.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 16, 2019 at 08:24 AM

Going to see my parents in a couple hours (D did overnight there) after spending my last two sessions talking about stuff with my dad. Feeling a bit awkward about it.

Jersey 4 · Jun 16, 2019 at 08:42 AM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Jersey - I hope your headache is gone.

Thank you. It’s gone after 800mgs of Motrin and 5 beautiful solid hours of sleep.

Jersey 4 · Jun 16, 2019 at 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Going to see my parents in a couple hours (D did overnight there) after spending my last two sessions talking about stuff with my dad. Feeling a bit awkward about it.

You don’t have to stay. It’s fathers day. Use it as an excuse that you have family plans for H. Just say hi. Stay a few minutes, thank them for giving you a childfree night and skip right on out.

88Butterfly88 · Jun 16, 2019 at 08:45 AM

In case we have any couch dads:
Couch 198: All the Countries Couch

LonesomeTonight · Jun 16, 2019 at 08:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

You don’t have to stay. It’s fathers day. Use it as an excuse that you have family plans for H. Just say hi. Stay a few minutes, thank them for giving you a childfree night and skip right on out.

Thanks, Jersey. My mom keeps being like, "Since you're going to stay for a while because it's Father's Day, what time do you want to come?" It is possibly supposed to thunderstorm this afternoon, so that's an excuse to leave (as I have a 50-minute ride home).

Jersey 4 · Jun 16, 2019 at 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Thanks, Jersey. My mom keeps being like, "Since you're going to stay for a while because it's Father's Day, what time do you want to come?" It is possibly supposed to thunderstorm this afternoon, so that's an excuse to leave (as I have a 50-minute ride home).

It’s not fair to assume you will stay.

I’m going to visit my father for 5 minutes. I asked him earlier in the week if he wanted to go to dinner or something. His response “I’m not going anywhere”

Okay. See ya. Saves me dinner money. My 2 sisters have their own families and their own plans for the day. So I will visit for 5 minutes and skip out. I don’t have a 50 minute drive though. Only 3.

Jun 16, 2019 at 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by ScarletPimpernel

H is at it again. Four times to the ER this week for semi high bp (150/101) and semi high pulse (130's). I know there's something up to make those elevated, but pretty much everything besides anxiety has been ruled out. He still refuses to admit to his anxiety. Deep down, I still hope he proves me wrong and they find whatever it is that ailing him because otherwise this is all bs.

I'm so sorry, scarlet. I can't imagine.

Jersey 4 · Jun 16, 2019 at 09:08 AM

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Originally Posted by 88Butterfly88

In case we have any couch dads:
Couch 198: All the Countries Couch

Can’tExplain is a couch dad. And I’m sure there are moms here that play the role of both mom and dad.

So happy father’s day to all.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 16, 2019 at 09:14 AM

I think this (father stuff) is why I wanted to hear back from my T from that email. Because I'm feeling anxious about this. But I'm expecting too much from him. Though I don't think "Thanks for the update" or "Glad you're doing better" or "Glad session helped" is too much. I think really it's also that I was particularly vulnerable with him Friday, like I just really let all the emotions and stuff out. I know it's OK, that he's OK, that he cares. I just wanted to see his name in my inbox.

LonesomeTonight · Jun 16, 2019 at 09:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 4

It’s not fair to assume you will stay.

I’m going to visit my father for 5 minutes. I asked him earlier in the week if he wanted to go to dinner or something. His response “I’m not going anywhere”

Okay. See ya. Saves me dinner money. My 2 sisters have their own families and their own plans for the day. So I will visit for 5 minutes and skip out. I don’t have a 50 minute drive though. Only 3.

Thanks, Jersey. The other thing is, when my D is ready to leave, she generally wants to leave right then, or at least not hang out for an extra hour. She might be totally fine, but if she wants to leave after I'm there 20 minutes, I don't want to be fighting back against that for however long. Plus when D is upset or freaking out, my mom just tends to laugh about it, while my dad does nothing, so I'm left to deal with it all. Also, my dad won't care how long I'm there, I imagine--it will be my mom who cares. As this is more her thing, the seeing family on holidays.

Jersey 4 · Jun 16, 2019 at 09:18 AM

Can someone tell me what is considered suitable swim wear for an over weight woman? I hope I’m not framing my question rudely. I don’t know how else to ask . I haven’t owned swim wear in years. My current nanny family joined a swim club. I have to take the tots. I’m overweight and don’t want to be seen in a bathing suit. I’m very self conscious. Any bottoms that do not have at least a 7 inch inseam are unacceptable for me to wear. Maybe not others, but it’s unacceptable for ME to wear. Am I reaching for the stars that I want to find board shorts or quick dry shorts with at least a 7 inch inseam? When I take them I won’t be submerged in a pool. They will just use the waddle pool. The water will only come up to my calf-if that. And I don’t want to spend a lot of money as I will only need it for my remaining time with them. I won’t have a use for swim wear after that. I don’t care for beaches or pools as I don’t know how to swim.

Jersey 4 · Jun 16, 2019 at 09:23 AM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Thanks, Jersey. The other thing is, when my D is ready to leave, she generally wants to leave right then, or at least not hang out for an extra hour. She might be totally fine, but if she wants to leave after I'm there 20 minutes, I don't want to be fighting back against that for however long. Plus when D is upset or freaking out, my mom just tends to laugh about it, while my dad does nothing, so I'm left to deal with it all. Also, my dad won't care how long I'm there, I imagine--it will be my mom who cares. As this is more her thing, the seeing family on holidays.

Do what’s best for you. This is not a situation where it’s okay to leave yourself or your daughter in distress. Why does your mom laugh when your daughter is having a freak out? Is it just that generation? My sisters oldest (now a teenager) is on the spectrum and my parents tend to brush it off as nothing. They don’t get it.

atisketatasket · Jun 16, 2019 at 09:25 AM

That seems fine to me if you’re not swimming—tshirt and long shorts.

Would knowing how to swim/lifeguard certificate give you more ins as a nanny?

LonesomeTonight · Jun 16, 2019 at 09:25 AM

I'm also a board short fan. Here you go. (I don't own this particular pair, but these are longer.)

Jersey 4 · Jun 16, 2019 at 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

That seems fine to me if you’re not swimming—tshirt and long shorts.

Would knowing how to swim/lifeguard certificate give you more ins as a nanny?

It probably wouldn’t make too much of a difference. The kids that little are either only using a waddle pool, a splash pad or taking swim lessons while at the pool. Any bigger kids I’ve ever dealt with like 6 and up usually know how to
Swim and can hold their own in the big pool. At the swim clubs most of the time if kids want to be in a big pool they have to pass the swim test to get an ankle band or they have to stay in the waddle pool.

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stopdog underdog is here Member Since Sep 2011 Location: blank Posts: 34,728 (SuperPoster!) 12 1 hugs given	Jun 16, 2019 at 08:17 AM #225 Jersey - I hope your headache is gone. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,744 (SuperPoster!) 9 74.9k hugs given	Jun 16, 2019 at 08:24 AM #226 Going to see my parents in a couple hours (D did overnight there) after spending my last two sessions talking about stuff with my dad. Feeling a bit awkward about it.

88Butterfly88 Moderator Community Support Team Member Since Dec 2015 Location: New Jersey Posts: 54,191 (SuperPoster!) 8 10.5k hugs given	Jun 16, 2019 at 08:45 AM #229 In case we have any couch dads:

atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,147 (SuperPoster!) 8 12.4k hugs given	Jun 16, 2019 at 09:25 AM #238 That seems fine to me if you’re not swimming—tshirt and long shorts. Would knowing how to swim/lifeguard certificate give you more ins as a nanny?

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,744 (SuperPoster!) 9 74.9k hugs given	Jun 16, 2019 at 09:25 AM #239 I'm also a board short fan. Here you go. (I don't own this particular pair, but these are longer.)