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I woke this morning feeling incredibly weak. Even cleaning the litter box nearly did me in. I have the house inspection this morning and one of the cats is being extra enthusiastic and I have litter on the other side of the bathroom.
I also had a bad dream about exT. |
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#324
I left work at 12 noon, came home and slept. I could just not do a full day today. I was so exhausted literally to the point that I felt like I couldn’t stand on my own 2 feet. I slept a few hours this afternoon and feel better.
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Try to go to the concert without the "potentially emotionally filled" mindset. If you go, just thinking of the concert and try to enjoy yourself, you may not at all, but if you go thinking that, it's like a self fulfilling prophecy type thing. Even if it is emotional, emotions pass, you can get through it. Friday would be there before you know it and you would have had a day to sit/think through it more before discussing anything and maybe there will be nothing to discuss. You might just have an awesome time __________________ Grief is the price you pay for love. |
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#326
That staying up too late (the other night-job) messes ya up.
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Thanks, I think I want to see when he has availability then. If it's the morning, might be before funeral and maybe could actually be better timing than early Friday in terms of where his head is? I don't know. Will try not to think too much with concert, but they tend to make me emotional anyway...not even if tied to a particular person. |
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__________________ Grief is the price you pay for love. |
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Thanks. I mean, ex-MC apparently saw us a few days after his wife had died...(I didn't realize that under after I found obit a week later). And he wrote me a really supportive email a few days after her death, too, even joking about something. Plus I doubt there will be a huge difference in his emotional state between Thursday and Friday. So, I think maybe I'll just see on Wednesday what time he can offer Thursday (especially if one is in the morning, maybe before funeral) and decide then. (He said to text him Wednesday about it, as he'd have a better idea then--maybe official plans haven't come out yet). |
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Thanks, BCM. But then I also worry about taking any sort of special treatment. If that's even what this is? I mean, maybe if another client asked him if they could come in then, he'd also be fine with it--I just happen to be the one who asked. |
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LT—I don’t see any indication this is special treatment. I think you should worry about your life, not his, as that’s why you’re in therapy, and if the session helps meet your needs, take it.
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LT- I think he would do it for another client as quick as he would set up something for you.
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I think you're both right. I think I was just thrown off by his saying "I'm not scheduling any other appointments that day." But I imagine if a crisis or something came up, he'd fit someone in. And I do need to worry about my own life and well-being. And trust him to take care of his own. I think my main concern would be if he was in an OK place to do therapy with me, like would he be affected by the funeral and not totally "there"? But then, any number of things in his life could distract him at any given time--a restless night, a fight with his wife that morning, eating some bad sushi, anything. If he'd just said "I'm not sure of my schedule Thursday, I can let you know Wednesday" without mentioning the funeral, I'd have had no idea. |
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EX T was leaving town at one time to go to her father’s funeral and she saw clients that day up until the time it was time for her to leave to go to the airport. |
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Or, maybe the viewing is at 10, the funeral is at 11, the burial is at 1, and the funeral lunch is at 2 and won’t end till 4. Then he’ll be in rush hour traffic till 5:30 and might as well go home. Something like that.
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#337
Just realised I woke up having a panic attack which caused my weakness. I did go to be feeling bad about my recent contact with exT but these things, issues questions belong to him no other T could answer them.
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Ugh, I've woken up that way before--it sucks. The times it's happened, I thought was possibly low blood sugar, but was never sure (I'm not diabetic or anything). |
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True, though he said he didn't know timing yet. But yeah, maybe he knows he might have time for one or two clients, and I was the first to ask. |
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#340
I think I might try making gf pizza tonight. I have the shells (I’ll graduate to my own dough if this works out), the sauce, the cheese...it’s probably not as easy as that.
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