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Some people don't feel they need that from the therapy, so if you are happy with it, maybe let it be. I think what's happening is that maybe you don't feel challenged enough by her. If you have life stressors right now, maybe that's a good thing. |
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I also think a moderate dose of idealizing is not a bad thing. We more easily accept observations, support, suggestions from people we admire and see as competent, I think. I would say it's more about how much the idealization is and how it manifests. For example, if it blocks someone from seeing that the therapy is useless or directly harmful for a long time, or if it prevents the person from seeking other types of help, social connections etc persistently, then I think it is a bad, blinding thing. I am personally also not a big fan of people feeling so attached to their Ts that it causes them a lot of suffering but some say that is a necessary phase of therapy for certain people.
I can't comment on feeling like a child or seeing a person in monochrome, but perhaps it is more effective to assess whether the therapy is good rather than the therapist as a whole person. Unless you want to work on your perception of people in general and how you relate to them. I think massive idealizing can be quite frustrating for the person in the receiving end as well - I know this from a couple instances when they happened to me. I did not like it and reacted to it usually with actively destroying the other person's illusions. It creates expectations one cannot realistically fulfill and can make one feel like they are not seen and appreciated for their real qualities. Can also keep a relationship quite superficial - not a good thing in long-term relationships, I think. But what you describe does not sound like blind idealizing. |
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