Old therapist is messaging me on Facebook?

I had this therapist when I was 15. I got In touch with her when I was 18. We had lunch twice. Then 1.5 years ago she called me and wanted to have lunch with me again. I said ok. Whatever. She said she wanted to be Facebook friends with me but whatever I do don’t tell the other girls in treatment I was friends with her because she didn’t want anything to do with them. Ok weird.

Just this minute she started messaging me on Facebook and asking how I was doing and stuff. Why does she care so much about my life? I just found out a couple days ago that lesbian pedophiles exist and her Facebook posts are just plain strange.

Does anyone have any comments or suggestions? I’ve been super paranoid lately and this is the last thing I need.

In short....very bad boundaries on her part. I think I would stay away.

My first therapist did a very similar thing. He sent me messages via social media two years after termination. First time, I replied politely, but it happened again, so in the end I didn't reply. He got the hint. All you need to know is that it is making you uncomfortable, and that's not okay, so imo you should ignore and/or block her. Don't engage.

It looks like I was talking to a hacker. And now This opens a whole new can of worms. I already deleted and blocked her. She keeps messaging me though. I want to call the police at this point.

How is she messaging you if you've blocked her?

It sounds really annoying and inappropriate, but I don't quite see why you'd call the police unless she is threatening you in some way.

I don’t know. I’ve just been incredibly paranoid lately and I think everyone is out to get me and I’m being evaluated for paranoid personality disorder and this incident just kinda confirmed it for me that people are out to get me. I just freaked and the police was my first thought. I did figure out how to block her on messenger. She said she’s been trying to reach me. That really doesn’t help my paranoia.

You aren’t a minor so I am not sure why you mentioned her being a pedophile? Block her and completely stop any communication or directly ask her to leave you alone

I have heard that FB Messenger is plagued with a lot of hacking. It happened to one of my FB friends and she fixed it by contacting FB admin. She never could figure out why anyone would hijack her account.

i've had a few FB friends who have been hacked and then the hackers try to pose as them and will message the people on their contact list through Messenger. if they get you to chat with them, they usually go on about how they acquired a large sum of money and how you can be a part of it, etc, etc. like the old Nigerian Prince scams.

the last time this happened, it was my next door neighbor who had been hacked and i was a bit suspicious that she was sending me a message because we each other often. when the scammer went on to talk about this large sum of money that they had acquired, i knew she had been hacked and decided to have a little fun with the scammer and lead them on for a bit. apparently, the scammer wasn't too keen when i started asking if they (my neighbour and her husband) were going to celebrate with another wild naked hot tub party like the last time.... that's when they blocked me

Again, I was just freaking out and panicked and wasn’t thinking straight. So pedophile was the first thing that came to my mind.

late to this thread...

first you do not have to keep her on your facebook listing, you can "unfriend" this does not mean you are unfriending her in your off computer life. it just means you dont want her on your facebook friends list. you can "unfollow" if you want to keep her on your friends list on facebook but not see everything she posts. this way you will only see her posts if you actually go look at her timeline.

boundary issues no she is not breaking any boundary issues by contacting you and asking to be on your facebook friends list, or even friends in life. According to your first post you contacted her first in a friend type relationship (have lunch together) according to your post some time has passed since she was your therapist and that lunch.

most places now have ethical rules that say after a certain time period of not being client and therapist a friendship can happen and an ex therapist and ex client can have what ever kind of friendship that they choose to have. some states the time period that has to pass after ending therapy is 1 year and other places are 2 years. you can find out what your state time period is by contacting the state board of clinical social workers.

if you are now uncomfortable being friends with your ex therapist it is ok to contact her and say hey this just feels too weird, I would like to go back to having a professional relationship with you rather than a friend relationship. then from that moment on you and she dont contact each other, and you remove her from your facebook friends and only contact her for therapy purposes. like with becoming friends the same amount of time must past with out any contact to turn a friendship back into a professional relationship.