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Poohbah
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Young Butterfly
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#22
I don’t know.. t seems to think I want him to think of me out of session. He has even said the last two sessions that I am one of the clients that he ha been thinking about a lot out of session all because of my SI. And it says it in away that is supposed to make me feel good? Like I was looking for the confirmation? Idk... t and I have been really off lately.
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Not something I really think about, though i know she does think about me occasionally as she will bring it up if she does.
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People who are neurotic have a lot of (unconscious) conflicts, which causes anxiety and behavioral problems. This therapy draws out these conflicts and highlights them front and center, so maybe your dependency feelings were already there but have been masked through overcompensating by taking care of others? Perhaps not needing things is part of your identity now, and that having needs feels foreign to you. You said earlier that the therapy brought out a side of you that has never been revealed anywhere else. Might this be related? It's almost like you had a separate persona in the email and in session. Now that you opened up to him, it seems the 2 are connecting or integrating. Whether he's right or wrong, there are things to explore here. |
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One time she said something weird like "when I think of you outside of this room." I felt sort of shocked because it had never occurred to me that she had ever done that. But I think it must be when I have texted her. So then the answer is yes, because if I contact her, there's a reason for it.
I just don't ever want her thinking about me in a I'm-going-down-to-the-magistrate's-office-and-having-Susannah-committed sort of way. That goes for in or outside of sessions. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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Poohbah
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#26
Yes. Occasionally my therapist mentions that he thought of me or was reminded of me for some reason, and it makes me feel that he cares about me. I don't email him or anything like that, though, that's never been part of my therapy.
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#27
At least enough to think about what would be helpful to me for my treatment...
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#28
Yes and No, I do understand that my T has a life outside of her work environment and shouldn't be thinking about me and her other clients all the time. That would just lead to her home life to being poor. Now of course if something jogs her mind that would be beneficial to me then sure think of me and either write it down for the our next session or even text me or if it is urgent enough call me.
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#29
Yes, I've wanted him to think about me, but I have no reason to believe that he does. We don't e-mail each other. He only texts if he needs to reschedule. I assume I never cross his mind until it's almost time for me to arrive at the office. Maybe it's better that way. If I thought he was thinking about me outside the office, it could get confusing for me, although it would feel good to be acknowledged that way and to feel that I mean something to him beyond a payment.
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Poohbah
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#30
I assume my T thinks about me occasionally, outside of t. I hope she thinks good things.
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