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Default Jun 29, 2019 at 02:16 AM
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I agree with Artley Wilkins, absolutely, that it's boundaries not punishment. Deep breath!
I was in a slightly similar situation where I saw someone transitionally who I liked a lot more than my usual counsellor. It is a roller coaster emotionally, and it ended with the transitional person leaving the job abruptly and terminating me.

It is responsible of people who are not permanent to set careful boundaries around how they connect and who they connect with emotionally. She is being responsible.
Honestly, I think this is a potentially a huge learning situation if you can rise up to the level of it, or it is a potential disaster. The onus is on you. If you can practice calming down enough to contain your emotional side and create an inner relationship with that depth of feeling. You need to learn to find a calm place in yourself to contain all this. Or you could lose yourself and the relationship in fury, blame, and despair. As adults we can learn/ have to learn to be present emotionally but not to take our negative reactions as 100% reality.

Now until November is enough to do a good piece of work but you need to be ready to work and not just react.
Five stars @Artley Wilkins, sometimes responses here are so cool and caring!

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Default Jun 29, 2019 at 02:37 AM
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After the phone call I had earlier this week and seeing her yesterday, there are no huge overwhelming emotions. There are still some issues in our relationship that need to be discussed (gifts, ending, the differences between T and L), but there are no problems. Artly was right; I just needed to calm down. But, I did need to talk to L about it. She appreciated it.

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