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Comfy Sedation
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#321
I almost lost u
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Always in This Twilight
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Location: US
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#322
Dear T,
I feel horribly ungrateful saying this, but your reply really sucked. Telling me to "have an excellent day" when I said I was struggling and kept crying? That's not what I meant by "words of encouragement" or "let me know you're still out there." And the comment about your being gone for a week pushes the limits of my emotional tolerance felt a bit judge-y. Even if it's the truth. Because it wasn't just about your being away, it's what I talked about with R. I'd have likely reacted the same after a session on that same topic with you (as I have before). Plus I made it a week without contact, I hope you can recognize that as something. LT |
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#323
Well you are literally the difference between me throwing in the towel on this thing and keeping going. Thank you for your email today. You are amazing and I love you.
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Always in This Twilight
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#324
PSA to therapists in general:
If your client (or backup client) talks about how they're struggling with things, keep crying, etc., be careful in what you say back to them. Things like "Have an excellent day!" or "I hope you get to enjoy the splendor of the outdoors this evening. It's divine!" (T and backup T, respectively, today), like yeah, sorry, not feeling that over-the-top s**t right now. Maybe go with something more low-key, like, "I hope your day gets better" or "I hope you're feeling better this morning." Even "good" would be fine. Just bear in mind your audience's current state of mind. And temper things accordingly. --LT |
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#325
What are we doing? I need a plan. I want a plan. Something measurable. You don't work that way though do you. Hmm.
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#326
Dear T
I have never said no before. I have never said I know what care means or I know the expectation that comes with care and I'm not willing to do it. I have only ever gone along or said yes. this is new, |
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Always in This Twilight
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#327
Dear T,
Reading your email now with a different tone in my head. You didn't have to mention how you were looking forward to continuing our work Monday, but you did. And you were trying to reassure me by saying you had no plans to be away this long again in the foreseeable future. I can't expect perfection from you, for you to read my mind. And your wishing me an excellent day--that's you saying you hope I feel better. Does it matter that "excellent" seemed beyond what I'd be able to achieve? You certainly didn't know I had my car in the shop or that I slept poorly (especially as I'd emailed before I even went to bed). Maybe you're just trying to express your wishes for me, that you want me to have a great day, not just an acceptable/tolerable one. Maybe I'm just looking for reasons to be like "f you" because it's easier than missing you. Which I do. Love you, LT |
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#328
ExT we had the best "disagreements" didn't we. I think in the end it was all about the them I wanted you to acknowledge that you were the other person with opinions and judgements in the room.
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#329
I dreamt of you. You went to a spa in Thailand .
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#330
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#331
T, today it’s getting hard. I thought that with the big stress gone I would do better with you being away. This week it feels like I need you more than ever.
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#332
Day 1:
I miss you but I'm not sad. Mainly just feeling grateful that you're my T even after everything I do and say. p.s= totally back to being in love with you. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#333
imissiloveyouiwantyouwah
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#334
Now that I feel all warm and fuzzy after last week, I’m more worried about the upcoming break. What if I lose the feeling of connection? What if something happens and I never see you again? It’s frustrating to have all these thoughts running through my head.
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#335
My 'window' of tolerance is more like a peephole. I really need to work on letting people in.
__________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#336
Oh look, it's Sunday! It must be time for another excruciating email. You brought this one on yourself of course, just like all the other ones in fact.
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#337
Day 2:
I miss you today. The only thing I've done is just gym. My flight is at 5.30pm tomorrow. No idea if I've made the right choice in going back and if I could have really done my exam on tuesday. I return on the 28th so that's 22 days in total when I've normally just stay 5-6 days and I think 14 days is the most I've done in a few years. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#338
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#339
Dear Ex-Therapist -
I’m sure you received my closure letter by now. It’s been a week. I thought I’d feel more of a release but I’m afraid I’ve kept our connection more alive by contacting you. Should I expect a response? Will you send it back unopened? Why is true closure so difficult? Why am I still bleeding more than a year later? After everything I’ve been through, why is therapy my most traumatic memory? I’ve been ready to move on for a long time. Im going to take a break from the boards. Let’s see how good of a job I can do putting you in my past. Best, PM |
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#340
Dear T;
You know so much about me now. Yet so little. I trust you but letting you in is not easy, please remember that. |
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