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Wanderer of Distant Stars
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So my therapist of 12 years got sick suddenly and ended up going into retirement. I was assigned a new therapist, which I had only two sessions with, and she ended up leaving the place right after. Now, months later, they FINALLY assign me a new therapist and she is just AWFUL.
I don't know what it is, but it's like she wasn't understanding me or was just plain NOT listening to me AT ALL. I made it through the session, rolling my eyes on the inside at the amount of incompetence that was in front of me. However, at the end of the session, she said something very important which turned out to be an epiphany for me. She said: "Get out of your mind - the mind likes to remember everything, good bad and ugly and most of the time it isn't good for you. Unless you are in a safe space or have a safety net to travel there, DON'T go there at all." I don't know why, but this really hit the nail on the head for me. I don't know what to do, the whole session was awful, but she said one really good thing. Should I even continue with her? __________________ Tales of Love, Motivation, and An Interesting Journey - Please Subscribe to my Website on WordPress: Inspired Odyssey's Path to Wellness and Love |
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I think stick with it for a while just to see what is really useless and what is the mind belittling that which feels has taken away what was onelce good.
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I would stick with her for a while and tell her about your ambiguity towards her. This could be some really good work if you could stay for a while.
Maybe after waiting months for a therapist you feel unheard- I am not saying she wasn’t listening just that here may be more to this than the obvious. |
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Might it not be some sort of miscommunication rather than this T's "incompetence"?
If this T is so incompetent, by all means move on. However, not understanding you does not mean she is incompetent. Add to that her comment which came as an "epiphany" for you, which does not reflect incompetence either. |
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My instinct is if you have the resources to find someone else, then listen to yourself. I don't know what kind of choices you have over picking a therapist as it sounds like you didn't have much choice with her. Even if she's competent and you could workout whatever was the communication style differences, something right now says 'no' and it's ok to listen to that no, for whatever reasons. You might find later that the no was because of something inside you and nothing to do with her. You might move on and never look back.
Just remember that for many, no therapy is better than bad therapy. If this doesn't feel right, there's no reason to try to make it fit, unless you don't have a choice due to your healthcare system. |
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I would give her a few more sessions to see if it will workout. Im not sure if you have a choice in picking your therapist. If you feel the same way next time and it's not going to work out for you with her then yes do find someone else if you are allowed to. Hugs
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What was it about her that you didn't like? That might help us give you more feedback. |
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Now this makes me curious to hear what else she has to say! There are many fantastic ways to work with the human mind in order to promote peace and healing. I’m betting this therapist- based on her comment - knows a lot about this. My suggestion is to listen with an open heart, see where it takes you, and always know you can switch therapists down the road if needed.
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I don't know that this therapist is right for you - it sounds as if probably not - but that the IDEA of staying out of your mind struck you so forcibly, that sounds worth paying attention to. Good luck. |
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I would try a few more sessions, especially as there was something of an epiphany in what the T said for you. If after a few more sessions if you're just not clicking, then maybe try and find a new T. Also try to be open and tell T I just don't feel like you're hearing me or whatever the case may be. T might change the way T relates to you or something and you may get a lot out of it. Hugs Kit
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Do you have the ability to change therapists? If so, I would give another one a try. One useful thing in a whole series of unuseful would not be worth dealing with that one for me
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Just want to give everyone an update:
First of all thank you so much for all your wonderful responses - so sorry I couldn't respond to each of you individually - I usually do that. I realized I might have been hasty in changing that therapist - but she was so awful I had to. Just met with a new therapist today and she is just absolutely wonderful, I am glad that I changed. I just want to tell everyone, that if you feel uncomfortable in any way or you feel you don't "mesh" well with your therapist, PLEASE do yourself a favor and see if you can change them. There is no point in working with someone who just doesn't get you. Thanks again for everyone who replied and offered hugs. __________________ Tales of Love, Motivation, and An Interesting Journey - Please Subscribe to my Website on WordPress: Inspired Odyssey's Path to Wellness and Love |
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