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Old 07-11-2019, 09:17 PM   #11
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So I need more responses but it looks like successful terminations are mainly clients deciding to end while therapist ending seems to lack something, with the one excetion of mcl6136 skilled therapist.
My termination was catastrophic and I havenít been the same since. I initiated it but by then things had turned extremely toxic and I felt like I had no choice. Itís been a slow, painful recovery process.
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Old 07-11-2019, 11:40 PM   #12
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I was satisfied with my termination.

T had told me previously, after we switched to every other week, that she thought I was about ready to stop, and I should let her know when I felt ready.

We continued every other week for maybe two months, until I worked up the confidence to say, at the beginning of a session, that I was ready to stop. That was our last session. At the end of the session she commented on how much I had healed, and on how much she had enjoyed working with me.

My termination felt good to me at the time and it still does.
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Old 07-11-2019, 11:59 PM   #13
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I've never been "terminated" or "discharged," so not sure what that would feel like; I suspect I'd be pretty annoyed. But former T got ill rather suddenly, and when he returned to work after @ 6 weeks recovery time, he told me that he needed to scale back his work and so was closing his private practice. So in that sense, he made the decision and it didn't have anything to do with me. He continued his main employment at the University for another year because it made more sense professionally and financially. We had a few more sessions to wrap up my feelings during his illness, and a few long-term issues. Some strong emotions and pretty valuable sessions. I think the actual leaving was more difficult for him tbh than for me; not just related to me, but because he was ending his practice.
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Old 07-12-2019, 03:22 AM   #14
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No I donít ever feel abandoned.

Years ago I saw a t at my grad school and was allowed to continue as alumni but then they changed the rules and she could no longer see me. It was rather abrupt and over the phone and no final sessions were offered but it was fine. It is what it is.

My current t I only see on and off sometimes stopping for long periods of time like up to 6 months or so. I had 3
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so every time I just stop seeing her I come back for bereavement help. Anyways eventually I likely wonít see her at all although who knows. She is getting older and might retire too. I guess Iíd see someone else if need to and she isnít available
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Old 07-12-2019, 05:24 PM   #15
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Maybe if he had prepared me by discussing the fact he was going to do this I might not have had such a bad reaction. Instead I was still clinging to the fact that he said we would finish the work together.
that sounds like it wasn't handled very well by him. i can understand why that would have been confusing and painful for you. he should have been honest and provided you with more of a warning to give you time to work through it and prepare yourself.
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I suppose the second woman's one might be more what you are looking for - she retired suddenly because her extremely old husband got very sick and she didn't want to leave him alone for much time during the day and he apparently refused to have in home care - so she retired with about 2 weeks notice. It was not a big deal.
She has another career that was more conducive to doing at home and she is now doing that one full time.
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My beloved former T had to terminate me after 10 years with her because she got sick with MS. She really did try to hang in there. Some days the only reason she came to the office at all was for me (guilt feelings for me there--she needed to take care of herself but she was still showing up for me--I so don't/didn't deserve that) but eventually she needed to stop and I needed to find someone else to work with. It was horrible. She helped me "transition" to a new therapist and then when that one didn't work out after four sessions, she helped me "transition" to a different therapist that I am still seeing almost a year later. Our last session was full of tears and was very dramatic on my end. I cried the whole time. It was miserable. I was miserable. I'm still miserable without her and it's been 10 months.
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I had a T when I was a kid who had to stop seeing me after 3 years. Something like her supervisor said it was time for us to end. IDK. I don't remember being upset about it one way or the other. We just continued on for like a month or something and that was the end. I think it was harder on her than for me. I was her first client that self harmed. She really tried with me but she didn't really help me.
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My beloved former T had to terminate me after 10 years with her because she got sick with MS. She really did try to hang in there. Some days the only reason she came to the office at all was for me (guilt feelings for me there--she needed to take care of herself but she was still showing up for me--I so don't/didn't deserve that) but eventually she needed to stop and I needed to find someone else to work with. It was horrible. She helped me "transition" to a new therapist and then when that one didn't work out after four sessions, she helped me "transition" to a different therapist that I am still seeing almost a year later. Our last session was full of tears and was very dramatic on my end. I cried the whole time. It was miserable. I was miserable. I'm still miserable without her and it's been 10 months.
My T said he had family issues in the meeting with my gp and just this week I had it confirmed that he nearly lost his wife a year or so back. I feel guilty too I don't know why. I know I shouldn't because I knew nothing of this at the time just that he was a little bit off.
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I don't think L even believes termination is a thing.

Which is probably why I keep going back every time I leave...
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