Being with T is like putting on an old, comfortable shoe!

It's very good with my T now. We have a warm, close relationship.This week she sat next to me on the couch to look at some photos on my phone. I didn't even have to ask her. Then SHE initiated holding my hand, and SHE apologized for thinking holding her hand was sexual for me years ago. I was surprised, to say the least. She said it was HER nervous system reacting, not mine. I didn't need another apology ( we've gone through this several times already) but it was validating for me. I don't want to recap the whole scenario again, but it was devastating to me when T told me she couldn't hold my hand anymore. It's calming for me and always has been.

I texted her the other day because I wanted her to know something going on in my family that day. She responded right away and I said I could get used to texting but I won't. She never wanted me to text in the past. This time she sent a heart to me and I wasn't expecting that at all. It made me feel good! In the session she said we could text because I know not to abuse it. Another surprise!

It's just so nice with T now. She's going to do some more things to help me with my anxiety next time. I know we're not friends but we have a satisfying relationship. She knows I'm being challenged in many ways now, and is there for me in the best way possible. I just want to share that sometimes therapy works out! T is kind and compassionate, and very human. She and I have both changed during the almost 10 years I've been seeing her.

Glad to hear from you, Rainbow! And glad things are going well for you with your therapist!

It's really good to see an update from you Rainbow. And its good to hear you are in such a good place with your T.

However, I am stuck on this thing. Why ONE shoe? Wouldn't putting on only ONE comfortable shoe ultimately be UNcomfortable???
You have to admit that, at the very least, it would be odd.

I never thought of that when I made my title! LOL! For the record: Being with T is like putting on comfortable shoes!!😄

Yeah Talk Like a Pirate Day isnt until Sept 19.

Cuz a pirate would have only one shoe...?

This is very good to hear. You could now be an example for those threads when people are asking for therapy success stories, especially ones where someone has gone through all the attachment hell and came out not only in one piece but with peace and comfort (reference to your older posts)

Thank you! Yes, I've gone through the agony of transference and attachment issues with my T, and survived to tell about it. 😊 I think time helped, and also, not that I wish them on anyone, my new physical and emotional challenges overrided my T issues. Anxiety, physical pain, and feeling miserable most of the time took over and made my attachment issues irrelevant. I just needed help!! I'm still struggling with the above, plus delayed grief and aging concerns. I'm glad my T is still here for me. I wish transference were my only problem now but "it is what it is." I still get triggered by T's personal life but that happens with everyone now. I feel sorry for myself because my life has changed so much. It's hard to come to terms with an anxiety disorder.

Good to hear from you Rainbow. I loved your title for your thread here. Im really glad you have a great t who really does care about you and your well being. Hugs