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and because 'those guys' probably won't ever do that anytime soon, that is definilty one reason why i continue to come to these forums and share my story. |
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Yeah, I agree that informed consent is something that should be covered to a much higher degree than it is. And I think the argument that people shouldn't be informed about risks because we are suggestible or may back out is bogus. I mean, that's not an acceptable reason to not disclose the risks for other things, so why therapy? For example, when we take over the counter or prescription medication, we are given information on the possible side effects, contraindications, etc.
For me personally, if I look at the list of side effects and see weight gain, I don't want to take that medication. If my doctor/pharmacist/drug manufacturer just withheld that information and waited until a possible side effect "arose" for me personally and I was wondering why I had gained 100 lbs and developed type II diabetes, nobody would think that was ok.* Same with any sort of physical medical procedure. You wouldn't want a surgeon letting you know that you might require a second surgery only once the necessity "arose." So why would it be ok to just address things as they come up in therapy? If we accept the idea that people have a right to autonomy in making decisions about their own care, then you can't just address situations as they arise. That's just paternalistic. * Yes, I realize that drugs are a dicey subject since usually not all of the side effects are known for many years, let alone prevalence rates. My point is that compared to the therapy industry, the pharmaceutical industry is downright transparent about known risks of undergoing any treatment. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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What could be more infantilizing, and more unethical, than shielding the client from the truth on the basis that they might be scared away.
Either you treat the consumer like an adult (rather than a helpless toddler or moron) and have an honest discussion about the transference game, or you don't and you are unethical. Choose one. The other problem is that many therapists probably cannot give a clear breakdown of the risks because they avoid looking at that side of things. |
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Therapy isn’t as black and white as you make it out to be. It isn’t that simple. |
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as budfox said, T treating me this way did feel a infantilising or that T did not trust my level of intelligence that i could understand the concept and not have it interfere with his agenda to use the transference that was playing out. |
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My point is that transference is not an issue for everyone nor does every therapy modality focus on it. It was a non-issue.
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Just because a modality doesn't work with transference doesn't prevent it from happening. And while it's not an issue for everybody, therapists have no way of knowing which people might be affected by it. The ethical thing to do would therefore be to make some sort of disclosure on the topic so that the client would know what they are consenting to.
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I don’t disagree though I doubt it would make much difference. Most sign off disclosures of possible complications all the time without hardly a thought.
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Where is the prospective client supposed to get reality-based info? Other than a few obscure blogs, books... the available info is almost entirely pro-industry propaganda and orthodox therapy scripture. You have to be very determined to find anything else.
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Informed consent doesn't have to be as simple as the ridiculous sheets of paper used by therapists. It is true that most people just sign those without reading them. But it doesn't have to be that way. For example, when I've had surgeries, my surgeons haven't just had me sign some sheet of paper talking about the risks of the procedure. They've sat me down and explained things, asked if I had any questions. When my psychiatrist prescribes a new medication, she also tells me what I can expect and what sorts of things I need to contact her about if they happen. I don't just sign a consent for treatment once on the first visit when seeing a surgeon or a psychiatrist and then never actually have any sort of discussion with them about the risks of the treatments they provide.
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The very, very few instances when we’ve personally rejected a treatment were when a) the hard data showed a high likelihood of serious complications, and b) in those instances, even the treatment provider did not recommend the treatment because they could predict, based on evidence, that those complications were a pretty imminent risk. A therapist that knows basically zero about a new client has no data or evidence about that client to give that kind of firm warning. They can only discuss vague possibilities which are unlikely to be persuasive to someone who has come in desperate for help with anxiety or depression, etc. |
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I have rejected medical treatments and my person rejected medical treatments as well. The balance of benefit versus side effect or potential worse damage is very much something I consider. Fortunately for me, I was highly skeptical of therapy and therapists before I began. I shudder to think of the damage that could have been inflicted upon me had I not been so wary. It took two years of my constant questioning to finally get the woman to admit she had no idea if she would be useful to me or not. In fact, she knew all along she didn't know this - but she only admitted it after 2 years - why? Her dishonesty did not cause me to trust her more - in fact it was the opposite for me.
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I'm not at all convinced that almost everyone goes on to have treatments, Artley. There are tons of people who refuse to take psychotropics, for instance, because the side effects were worse for them than whatever the condition it was that the medication was treating. Can I personally relate to that? For the most part, no, because the side effects for me are milder than my mental illnesses. I do avoid some meds because I know there is a correlation to dementia. But that doesn't invalidate the fact that many people find medication side effects not worth it, and there is plenty of hard data on that. As for rejecting treatments due to likelihood of serious complications, I have no idea what the statistics are on that. To me the important thing is that people be informed so that their autonomy is respected and they can make the choice whether they want to do something or not. Because a minute risk is still a risk. I had surgery on my ankle a few years ago. It was very low risk and I don't regret it. However, I did develop a very painful blood clot afterwards, despite being very low risk and starting a low dose aspirin regime immediately post-op. If I hadn't known about the risk of blood clots, I would have thought I was just having post surgery pain and I could have died. So I have personal experience being part of the teeny tiny minority statistic of unlucky people who suffer the unexpected adverse consequence of treatment. Again, I don't regret the surgery, but I would have felt rather blindsided had I experienced something like that and nobody told me it could happen ahead of time.
The therapist knowing anything about the client is unnecessary. And I don't know what you mean about it being persuasive. It's supposed to be informative, not an argument for or against anything. The assumption that someone will not pay attention to the information is not a justification for the failure of the therapist to provide it. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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i didn't have the motivation to start researching potentially better Ts until well into that first year of a less than stellar therapy experince with my first T who i clearly started to realise was not competent to be working with complex truama, let alone a dissociative disorder. with my second T, yes, i did have more time to research him and i was not in such a desperate frame of mind upon first meeting him, and regardless of my researching efforts, unfortunatly therapy with him still didn't quite turn out like i had originally hoped for. so, i'm not quite sure what the best answer is to finding a 'good' therapist, especially for someone new to therapy and who may currently be in quite a precarious state of mind. to me, and what i read of others experiences, sometimes it seems more like it's pure luck... |
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It isn't that these protocols aren't smart ideas and at least there is some information being given. I don't think anyone really disagrees with that kind of information. I'm just not sure it will make that much difference for most people, particularly right on that first meeting with a therapist. It isn't like a medical treatment where they have generally pretty hard data on percentages for side effects, complications, risk factors, etc. Do they have a firm profile the of the type of client prone to problems with transference? Even if they did, would they be able to profile a client in the first session? Or would this be something discussed over time (which is already the way it tends to work anyway if the therapist is tuned in)? Would this be a process required for every client, and if so, do we get comped for the waste of session time for those of us that it absolutely never applied to, because this isn't something that can be covered in a quick 5 minute warning discussion. I didn't have time to give up for an issue that there was no indication would ever be a problem for me. I was suicidal. I was extremely depressed. There were bigger issues. It was MUCH more important that the therapist work with what was truly presenting in front of him at that moment.
No easy answers on this one. Personally, if a therapist started with me from the first session outlining all the negative possibilities, etc. without even knowing me, I would have been aggravated; I might not have returned. Where would that have left me? I went into therapy quite young, very unaware of anything about therapy. The warnings would have probably been beyond my internal comprehension or ability to focus at the time, and would honestly would have frustrated me because I simply wanted help. It would have seemed presumptuous for that therapist to have warned me about things that probably were way down the road and only vague possibilities for me based him knowing absolutely nothing about me. And sure enough . . . it wouldn't have been a factor anyway. I needed help. I needed a therapist to help me manage my depression and deal with the aftermath of sexual abuse. I needed immediate help, not to have help in any way put off with vague warnings. I needed support and I found it . . . and it helped. So . . . if I had been warned and chose to avoid therapy due to some vague warning, honestly, I would have ended up dead. That's not melodrama. That's just the reality at the time. It's complicated. There are no easy, no black and white, solutions here. My therapists used their judgment to work with the individual who presented in front of them at the moment. That is what I expected and needed at the time. |
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I disagree and think it is that simple. They have a duty to warn clients and most of them fail at that miserably. I certainly didn’t seek one of them out to let them paternalistically and condescendingly choose what they thought I could handle or not handle it any given time. I consider that to be the height of arrogance on their part. I completely reject the idea of paternalism as a positive.
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Are you suggesting that I am in any way implying that we should be shooting for paternalism and condescension in a therapist? If so, please don't misrepresent what I am saying. Nowhere have I said such a thing. |
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I am saying that a therapist deciding not to warn of the dangers of therapy because they don't think clients can handle it or because they are substituting their judgment or deciding what a client needs or doesn't need- is paternalism and is condescending to clients. It is that simple. And it is an approach I find offensive and horrifying that they act in that fashion
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