I want to take a break from therapy

That is not what I’m doing. I have something painful going on that I can’t talk to him about it and I was hoping that a short break would help those painful feelings a little bit.

I am tired of hearing about everything being about BPD. There’s other things besides that.

And just to clarify, after T and I talked about the criteria he was checking for, he realized that I do fall short of the full diagnosis although I do have some traits.

There are stressful things happening in my life. I don’t even have time to try to ask for a break just for him to stop me. I don’t have the time for that in my life.

Thank you SO much for that! I appreciate the support.

That is very true.

It makes it hard for me to come on here and ask for support with people telling me what they think my problems are. My therapist and I have an excellent relationship and we’re working on things.

But, I don’t even have all of the answers and there are many more factors going on that I cannot explain on here.

Sounds like you know what you want and that you want to quit. Do you really need to explain it to your therapist? You can just take a break.

Yeah. I mean. At the end of the day its up to you. You make your own decisions. You can choose to either listen to the people on here who have said they want to help you or you can ignore their advice and live the way you were before. You can either make changes, even if they are hard, or you can do what is comfortable.

Its up to you. You can either run or you can stay and try to fight through your symptoms. You are an adult. Only you can make these choices

I’m just tired of everything. I’m just ready for it all to be over.

It's okay to get tired of therapy. You be you. If you feel better off without then maybe give that a shot. Don't like that you can always go back. It's just a thing.

But now I feel bad that maybe I messed things up with my T.

He is tired of me

Hope remember that your T is hired or fired by you. I'm sure that is only your impression which is a good topic to discuss in therapy but it doesn't really matter how he feels personally. He is hired to do his best job of helping you improve and feel better.

If you need a break however he will understand. It would be unethical for him to not allow you make your own decisions. He may wish that you would show up ready to work hard each week but he also knows he cannot control you and will be available when you are ready provided he has openimgs at that time.

You nedd to make your decision based on what you want and not worry about how your T feels. Therapy is centered on you not your T. Feel ftee to take a break without guilt.

I do need to stick with it.

Someone else complained in a review on him about him cutting the meeting short and throwing them out of the door and when she asked him if he would be her therapist, he said no and that she’d have to go to another therapist.

I guess I got lucky that he let me be a therapy patient but I feel like I’ve lost my connection to him.

He seems kind of different lately. He is a lot more distracted.

Maybe something else than therapy would suit you better indeed. Maybe therapy doesn't really help you. It is your call. Maybe a support group etc. would work better.

I disagree with that line of thinking. To believe that you are so-called “lucky” for him to have accepted you is absurd. Therapists are not “gods” or “chosen ones” they are simply there to help people like yourself.

He like physically threw someone out of the office? Sounds like a bad therapist. Maybe try a support group. People are nice.

Hope, is there a way you and T can work out a plan for when you get the impulse to cancel your appointments? You seem to have a habit of impulsively canceling after emotional appointments. Then you feel horrible and beat yourself up until you get your appointments back. I wonder if there is a way to make this part of your situation easier on you?

Why is everyone being so hard on me? Maybe I wasn’t wording things correctly especially last night. Last night, I was laying in my bed in tears thinking of jumping off of a bridge. I’m sorry that all I do is make you all angry.

I have been doing well in therapy. The stress in my life just grew due to certain circumstances. That doesn’t mean that I have a bad therapist.

And, I guess what I meant by lucky that he became my therapist simply meant that he has actually helped me tremendously especially in regards to staying alive and going after my goals. Before I met him, I knew that I was at the end of my life.

I am absolutely done with being put down and criticized by people on this website. There is no support for me here. I don’t deserve the way that I am being treated. And I am always being judged.

So you all can stop criticizing me and pulling apart my words because I am done with this.

There have been some people on here who have been supportive and I want to thank those wonderful people.

All the best to you all.

People are not pulling apart your words; they are simply responding to them. How you interpret them is on you. You need to be prepared for mixed responses when you post on an online forum.

Hope, I see post after post of people encouraging you, giving ideas as possible options on how to handle this or deal with this. I don't see anyone speaking angrily to you.

But what kind of help do you want? What would help you when you reach out in those moments where you are convinced that your T needs a break from you?

I'm sorry some of the responses are upsetting you Hope. We really all want the best for you and are trying to encorage and support you.

You do need to understand thatcwe are actually responding tocwhat youcare saying. You started a post the ither day saying you had a horrible session because your T rushed you out and does not understand your pain and we tried to encourage you and remind you of all the times you have said he was a great T.

Then you start a thread saying you want to quit and cancelled the next 5 appointments because your T is sick of you but yiu are hurting and regretting cancelling. We then responded with enciuragement reminding you of the many times you have done this in the past and to just contact them and get the appointments back because it doesn't really matter whether he us sick of you or not.

You responded that you were sick of everything and would continue to take the meds but were done with therapy.

Then someone agreed with you that you should quit or take a break if your T was causing you that much dissatifaction. This time you responded saying your T is great and you have made so much progress with him and were lucky to have him.

I mean no offense by saying this butcwe really are trying to help and support you but youv seem to flip flop back and forth and disagree with anything someone says no matter which way we try to help.

I can see that you want emoathy and encouragement but and that you are very confused and your emotions are overwhelming but we can only respond to what you tell us. Usually that is only one sentence at a time that only gives us one small piece of the puzzle. We may be able to respond more appropriately if you give us a bigger picture.

I really hope you find a solution to help yourself feel better. It is never easy or comfortable but it is possible. My T always says the only way to get past the pain is to go through it. There is no magic wand to bypass around it. You have to share the pain with others and slog through the painful ness before you can get to the other side.

Hope - you have a pattern of self sabotage. You can choose to play the victim and claim everyone is being so hard on you, or you can wake up and choose to listen to some of the insight being offered. You are clearly struggling in life, what you’ve been doing isn’t working for you. People keep trying to offer you perspective/insight but you let it hurt you instead of considering that what is being said might have some truth to it. Sometimes a harsh dose of truth is just what is needed to pull oneself out of despair or helplessness. Maybe some self help will benefit you. For example - I researched how healthy people act and have relationships. And I learned about healthy/unhealthy behaviors off the internet. Sounds stupid to some I’m sure but it saved my life. Not everybody gets a loving and supportive person to help guide them in life. As unfair as that is, it’s life. Some of us have to save ourselves and figure out how to be healthy. This isn’t just you, I can think of many of us who are in this situation. I have found that getting involved in church ministries (helping out homeless people for example) has been helpful in feeling better in my own life. It also helps create connection and love from others in your own life.