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chihirochild
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#21
Completely unrelated to anything going on at the moment: ATAT, would you be willing to provide a list of your previous Ts' nicknames and reasons for same? I am repeatedly amused and curious about your nicknaming process.
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chihirochild
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#22
Also unrelated: came across this comic in a book I'm reading ("Trauma Stewardship" by Laura van Dernoot Lipsky -- I'm actually finding it a teensy bit helpful) and thought y'all might also get a giggle out of it.
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#23
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Smaug, the evil psychiatrist, because she was a dragon. The psychiatrists after her, both male, were Dr. Hot (I think?), Ethical Psychiatrist, who moved to another job, and Dr. Semi-Hot, Presumably Ethical Psychiatrist. I haven’t nicknamed the current psychiatrist. Yoga Pants? She always wears them. Dr. Biker Chick (DBC): insisted on being called Dr. [first name], very into motorcycles Marshmallow: seen briefly, she was a flake and all puffy physically (not fat, puffy, if you know what I mean) Cactus Woman: pictures of cacti all over her website Flower Pants: always wore flowered pants like the three times I saw her Piaf: French, and an old pic on her website made her look like Edith Piaf Info: big typo on her paperwork, in a word all caps and bolded yet, INFORMATINO |
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#24
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Omg thank you. Made my day. |
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#25
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Ex-T didn't seem overly helpful in many areas. Ex-MC was very healing and understanding regarding stuff like my childhood, feeling a void inside me, etc. He was extremely accepting of me (up until the rupture), pretty much no matter what I did or said. Which was very different from my childhood experience, where I felt quite judged and that love was more conditional. I often long for a T like that. But I also became very attached to him, like much more intensely than to my current T. And so I worry if I had an individual T like that, I'd latch on like a leech and never want to leave. But at the same time...maybe I need that healing experience in individual therapy? I don't know... Like... maybe I need healing stuff. Then could go back to this T (or someone else) and do the other work. Like: Step 1: Healing. Step 2: Become stronger and more self-sufficient. I feel current T is trying to skip step 1. |
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#26
I've been having vertigo for two days now. I've had it twice before in my life.
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#28
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And as for the manipulative thing, this is what he said in the email: "I do not appreciate your comment of 'I need to find someone who will'. It's not the first time you have made a comment of this kind, and I interpret it as a threat and manipulative." Bear in mind, he knew I was feeling
Possible trigger:
I think he's very much been useful to me. I've made lots of progress in certain areas (he agrees with this). But I wonder if I've just hit a brick wall with him, that to move forward, I need someone else. Even...I could potentially see someone else for some stretch of time then go back to him (he's said in the past that he'd be fine with this, that I could go elsewhere, then come back at any time). Like I just wonder if some part of me needs healing or attention or whatever that T can't/isn't skilled enough/isn't willing to give me right now before I can really move forward. Hoping the consulting T I'm seeing Friday can help me figure that out (and perhaps I could even see her longer term, too). |
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#29
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You should get checked out by doctor or urgent care center. Could be ear infection or something else going on with your ear (my mother-in-law had something happen with...some tiny crystal thing in her ear shifted and she had really bad vertigo). Hugs... |
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#30
@@-how was work?
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#31
LT, I guess I am not sure it’s a two-step process, healing and then progress. I think it’s an all-mixed-together process. And I’m not sure it’s so much healing in the sense of wholeness as scarring over.
Also it sounds like what you’re saying you need is a therapist to kind of reparent you. Definitely not Dr. T’s wheelhouse. |
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#32
I'm such a noob. I paid a lab bill twice! Thankfully they sent me back a refund check.
In other news, I get to bring my dog to therapy with me! She used to come with me when I saw ex-T. T's building didn't allow dogs, so I stopped bringing her. But I just found out that L's office is pet friendly. I'm so happy for her to get to meet my Anya. And this Sunday is my niece's 2nd birthday party. I can't wait to see her again! And my other niece who I only saw at the hospital when she was born. It's been 6 months __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#33
Today was my easy one-small-language-class day. So okay. Even got to the gym for the fourth day in a row.
Tomorrow are the big classes, including the one with the problem student. Whom the colleagues I consulted think should be removed for being disruptive, but there are several steps to go through first. |
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#34
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#35
The couple of times the first woman said things like she felt like she was being attacked (not exactly her word I don't think but something close to it) - I told her good because I was attacking her because she had attacked/humiliated/tried to trap me. I wasn't sorry. It wasn't an accident.
She stopped saying that sort of thing to me. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#36
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Bad Lads Boot Camp. __________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
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#37
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#38
How long is the process to have him removed? A week? 2 weeks? I mean I assume something like that would need to move rather quickly?
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#39
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And I also have to warn him he’s in danger of removal. |
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#40
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I really think maybe my T isn't used to me standing up for myself, at least as forcefully as I did today. I usually back down much earlier and defer to him. But today I didn't. I stood my ground. I told him how things he'd said had bothered me. I said he'd hurt me. I'm not sure he knew how to deal with that, with my standing up for myself and not giving in. |
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