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Always in This Twilight
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#141
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Sorry it didn't go well. Hugs... I completely understand your reaction to what she was saying. My T will often talk about things like meditating or exercise or doing art when I'm feeling bad. I said if I was sitting on my couch sobbing, that doing a downward dog (yoga pose) wouldn't really solve that. T said, "Then you'd just be dripping tears onto the floor instead of your lap." Yet he keeps talking about various coping mechanisms. The main one that works for me is reaching out to other people, but he wants me to have stuff I can do completely on my own, that don't involve anyone else. Listening to music helps sometimes, or distracting by, say, watching TV or going to the store, but as I've also said to him, distraction only lasts so long, then the feelings come back. Sometimes I wonder if they really get what it can feel like... |
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Always in This Twilight
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#142
Just heard back from one of the female T's, who also offers phone consultation. Maybe I'll see if I can talk to her tomorrow? Seeing the consulting T, K, in person (she's not someone I could see going to long-term).
I find it interesting that so far I don't feel any sort of guilt for doing this. Like, I'm kind of excited about finding a different therapist. I think that says quite a bit about what has happened in my current relationship with T (who I'd be meeting with right now if I hadn't canceled). I'm just sick of all the conflicts. I don't need T drama on top of what's already going on in my life and in my head... |
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#143
The place that was Whole Foods before Whole Foods bought it (or maybe even after WF bought it, i cant remember, im SO FREAKIN OLD!) once told me that people complained they put (my favorite) frozen chicken tamales next to the veggie tamales and frozen veg etc. I was like, its frozen!! In a box! In plastic! How are frozen meat cooties gonna break outta there?! And they were like, no, people just find it offensive.
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Always in This Twilight
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#144
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Was it Fresh Fields or something like that? I used to live near one like 18 years ago, then WF bought it. I'm vegetarian (not vegan), but things like that don't bother me. Well, your trigger post might! |
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#145
__________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#146
Wild Oats. At the beginning they were better than whole foods I thought, but sadly they fell behind and then just failed
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#147
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Nope you don't have to name Dr.T. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#148
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When my old best friend used to cook dinner she'd always use a different pan and knife for me __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#149
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I don't think trying to do what's best for you at this moment should make you feel guilty. Those two parts stand out for me. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#150
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What time is your first appointment? __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#151
I texted the therapist to let her know I was running a few minutes late because the county water people were blocking my driveway. Doubtless something to do with the hurricane. She texted back "We are closed today, so sorry I forgot to tell you. [Receptionist] took everyone off the schedule for today and I told her I would call you. I'm so sorry."
I texted "ok." She texted "Please forgive me, I'm so sorry." Then "So you decided to stay" and "I hope your ok." I felt like ignoring her or texting "Had I evacuated, you would already know because I would have cancelled our appointment." I kind of wish I had. But I texted "I am fine" instead. I do think she is sorry, but I am still angry. I might have reacted in a different way except I don't know when my next appointment will be. Doesn't seem like escalating things by pitching a fit over text will do anything but stoke my anger and leave me to stew in it for an indeterminate amount of time due to the hurricane. Still, I'm mad. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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#152
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I wouldn't be able to work with a T like her either. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#153
I can always work on a nice tirade in the meantime, and even text it to her if I feel I must.
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#154
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__________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#155
Ugh, that sucks, Susannah. At least you didn't show up to find she wasn't there...But she should have called.
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#156
Had phone consult with potential T--let's call him "M" (his first initial). Was a little awkward because he was in his car. And I was afraid I was too open at the beginning, saying I was working with another T but thought I needed to change because we've had a lot of conflicts (didn't share T's name, he was fine with that). And that I think I need a different therapeutic approach. It's funny because he started with his fees and asked if they were OK, and I had to struggle not to laugh because they're so much cheaper than T's (like $110 for M, $175 for T, though T is giving me reduced rate of $150)--M has a master's, not PhD, and I think has only really been in the regular therapy field a couple years. Was a teacher for some years before that, then I think just art therapist, now regular therapist, too.
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#157
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She needs to address the SUI thoughts and SH feelings first, then try to find the silver linings. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing." |
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#158
__________________ 'Somewhere up above the great divide Where the sky is wide, and the clouds are few A man can see his way clear to the light 'You have all the grace you need for today, and today is all that matters.' - Steve Austin |
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#159
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So really, they'll probably always come back to suggesting hobbies and activities as coping skills and as ways to pull yourself up. I would probably look more to your psychiatrist for help to get your head above water. I think I read somewhere recently where you said your psychiatrist spends less than 5 minutes with you. That's crazy to me. You are on a lot of meds and you have severe symptoms. Seeing you for 2-3 minutes (I think that's what you said) every few months is completely negligent. The psychiatrists I've seen spend more time than that even when things are going well, let alone when they aren't. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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