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Default Sep 14, 2019 at 11:16 AM
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I just drove to the grocery store and almost had a tire blowout! Whew!

Now, I’m waiting for 5 hours for the store to replace the tire. They are very packed today.

Thanks to everyone for the encouragement.

I have a question. Should I take a few sessions off in his wedding month hopefully to avoid the chance that he may be VERY distracted then.
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Default Sep 14, 2019 at 11:24 AM
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I have a question. Should I take a few sessions off in his wedding month hopefully to avoid the chance that he may be VERY distracted then.
No, you shouldn't, at least not for that reason. It is not your role to manage the T's feelings and it is the professional duty of your T to manage his distractions if he has them.

It almost feels that you would want to take few sessions off to avoid your own anxious feelings and for that reason you rather shouldn't take time off.
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No, you shouldn't, at least not for that reason. It is not your role to manage the T's feelings and it is the professional duty of your T to manage his distractions if he has them.

It almost feels that you would want to take few sessions off to avoid your own anxious feelings and for that reason you rather shouldn't take time off.
You are right.

It is my Ts job to manage his distractions and he’s pretty good about listening to me if I’m unhappy with what’s happening.
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It's not stupid. I would feel EXACTLY like this. To be honest I'm half in love with my T so if she got married I think I'd be devastated. But yes, I would have very similar concerns about T not having the same amount of time/energy to focus on me. Please try not to feel bad about this. I hope your T will be empathic towards your fears if you're able to share them.
I understand. Another hard part is the fact that I have a crush on him so I’m also very jealous. I really don’t want to feel that way.

I want to be happy for him, not jealous.
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I understand. Another hard part is the fact that I have a crush on him so I’m also very jealous. I really don’t want to feel that way.

I want to be happy for him, not jealous.
Yep, jealousy is part of it for me too. Insanely jealous of her SO, kids, family, friends etc.
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Definitely not a good feeling.
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Despite the rough start and the tire situation, my day actually turned out pretty good!
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I am stressed out.

I’m tired of life.
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I understand. Another hard part is the fact that I have a crush on him so I’m also very jealous. I really don’t want to feel that way.


I want to be happy for him, not jealous.
I feel jealous of my therapists toddler son . And also some of his other clients . I've told him about these things. He has normalized it for me. Still a ****** feeling tho

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I'm jealous of all my T's other clients. It's been an issue for me with most of the Ts I've seen. She is the first T I've been able to admit this to though. She also normalised it. It is a relief to get these feelings out and know they aren't terrible or going to ruin things with T, they are all grist for the mill. They can be heard and understood and in time that really does help.
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