I don't want to call my T

coolibrarian · Sep 15, 2019 at 03:08 PM

I'm disappointed about something, but it seems too trivial to bother my T with, so I am trying not to call her. I figured I could ask you.
So, how do you handle disappointment? Little Cool's feelings are hurt, and Big Cool doesn't know, at the moment, how to comfort her.

nottrustin · Sep 15, 2019 at 03:44 PM

Talk to somebody else??

SlumberKitty · Sep 15, 2019 at 06:54 PM

Hugs Cool.

whatsthat · Sep 15, 2019 at 07:19 PM

I handle disappointment with a big deep breath. In the case of my T, if he disappoints me (he almost always does, because my expectations are unrealistic), I try to change my perspective to his:

Did he know he was disappointing me when he did/said that? If no, do I need to tell him?
Is it fair to expect him to not disappointment in that way? If yes, talk to him. If no, next step.
What is his perspective? What is a realistic expectation here? What are the limits of his job?

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coolibrarian Poohbah Member Since Feb 2014 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 1,302 10 1,041 hugs given	Sep 15, 2019 at 03:08 PM #1 I'm disappointed about something, but it seems too trivial to bother my T with, so I am trying not to call her. I figured I could ask you. So, how do you handle disappointment? Little Cool's feelings are hurt, and Big Cool doesn't know, at the moment, how to comfort her. __________________ In a world where you can be anything, be kind. ;
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nottrustin Grand Magnate Member Since Jan 2014 Location: n/a Posts: 4,819 10 375 hugs given	Sep 15, 2019 at 03:44 PM #2 Talk to somebody else?? __________________
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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Sep 15, 2019 at 06:54 PM #3 Hugs Cool. __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA
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