Dear T: I really need to tell you something XLII

Quietmind 2 · Jan 15, 2020 at 05:02 AM

@captgut please ask T for an extra session. It wasn't, and never EVER is your fault. My friend, please know that people care about you, and you do not deserve all this trauma.

LonesomeTonight · Jan 15, 2020 at 09:57 AM

Dear T,
I wasn't sure what I was looking for from that very brief email I sent you last night, but my reaction to your even briefer reply showed me what it was: validation for my feelings regarding what P said. And you gave that to me. So, thank you.
Love,
LT

chihirochild · Jan 15, 2020 at 10:28 AM

Dear T,

I, um, lied. I have thought about you holding me when I cry but I was too ashamed to tell you that. I’m going to try to email you tonight to tell you that.

-c

kumy · Jan 15, 2020 at 10:54 AM

PDOC, today you didn't make me feel welcome. I felt that I was just a number and that you didn't have time for me. However, your hug was as good and comforting as ever.

Lemoncake · Jan 15, 2020 at 11:42 AM

I found a short course in psychodynamic counselling I'd actually like to do at your old university in London.

LostOnTheTrail · Jan 15, 2020 at 12:00 PM

Thank you for remembering today.

Lemoncake · 03:31 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lemoncake

I found a short course in psychodynamic counselling I'd actually like to do at your old university in London.

On second thoughts a £20 book of amazon might not be the same thing but atleast I can save £££.

Lol Kinda awkward finally asking for you a session for the third time and you offering one which doesn't go with my schedule.

EDIT: Hey 5pm session!

Lemoncake · Jan 15, 2020 at 04:27 PM

I'm back to my yes no thing.

I don't want the session I just made with you.

nottrustin · Jan 15, 2020 at 05:12 PM

I am so thankful I allowed the two of you to talk back in the beginning. I was surprised yesterday when EMDR T told me that you told her in the beginning how you definitely played a mother figure role in my life. While I always thought of it as a caring older female relative (like an aunt) I always feared you didnt feel the same way. I know we had a unique relationship but was always afraid to say the important role you played in my life out of fear of rejection. To hear you knew and on some level felt the same way and you expressed that to somebody else really warned my heart. I am thankful it was not all in my head.

Course in true therapy fashion when I mentioned that you had never mentioned anything like that to me, EMDR T and I got into a discussion of what to tell and then why or why not.

chihirochild · Jan 15, 2020 at 06:17 PM

Dear T,

Okay I was brave and emailed you and now I’m freaking out. I get why you won’t email me back but it’d be nice if you did that thing where you go “thanks for telling me let’s discuss further” or something just so I dunno I know you’re not totally repulsed by me or whatever.

I’m really freaking out here. I wish you would rescue me from it.

Aaaaaaaaaaaugh,
-c

Blueberry21 · Jan 15, 2020 at 07:34 PM

Thank you very much for the extra session today even though I’ve been wanting to cut back on them overall.

Thank you for listening and validating me in telling me it wasn’t right for that person to have ever hit me.

Thank you for also helping with exploring my mixed feelings towards that person.

Thank you for validating my feelings about my former employer as well, and saying that you’ll go to bat for me no matter what.

Love,
Blueberry

kumy · Jan 15, 2020 at 07:44 PM

I don't know why I agree to see a dermatologist. It's really triggering me right now to think about

Possible trigger:

somebody examining my scars

. This was not a good idea. I can't do this.

velcro003 · Jan 15, 2020 at 10:14 PM

T: Still really upset. Ugh, it sucks so bad. I hate that I only get to see you every other week.

Lemoncake · Jan 16, 2020 at 01:00 AM

Cancelled the extra session I asked for.

It's just huge amounts of shame coming up for me and that don't deserve it.

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Quietmind 2 Poohbah Member Since Jan 2020 Location: Somewhere I'm working to leave Posts: 1,243 4 8 hugs given	Jan 15, 2020 at 05:02 AM #981 @captgut please ask T for an extra session. It wasn't, and never EVER is your fault. My friend, please know that people care about you, and you do not deserve all this trauma.

LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,731 (SuperPoster!) 9 74.9k hugs given	Jan 15, 2020 at 09:57 AM #982 Dear T, I wasn't sure what I was looking for from that very brief email I sent you last night, but my reaction to your even briefer reply showed me what it was: validation for my feelings regarding what P said. And you gave that to me. So, thank you. Love, LT

chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	Jan 15, 2020 at 10:28 AM #983 Dear T, I, um, lied. I have thought about you holding me when I cry but I was too ashamed to tell you that. I’m going to try to email you tonight to tell you that. -c

kumy Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2019 Location: hanging from a cloud Posts: 3,002 4 192 hugs given	Jan 15, 2020 at 10:54 AM #984 PDOC, today you didn't make me feel welcome. I felt that I was just a number and that you didn't have time for me. However, your hug was as good and comforting as ever.

Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,691 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	Jan 15, 2020 at 11:42 AM #985 I found a short course in psychodynamic counselling I'd actually like to do at your old university in London. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."

Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,691 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	Jan 15, 2020 at 04:27 PM #988 I'm back to my yes no thing. I don't want the session I just made with you. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."

kumy Grand Magnate Member Since Aug 2019 Location: hanging from a cloud Posts: 3,002 4 192 hugs given	Jan 15, 2020 at 07:44 PM #992 I don't know why I agree to see a dermatologist. It's really triggering me right now to think about Possible trigger: somebody examining my scars . This was not a good idea. I can't do this.

velcro003 Elder Member Since Oct 2008 Posts: 7,361 15 25 hugs given	Jan 15, 2020 at 10:14 PM #993 T: Still really upset. Ugh, it sucks so bad. I hate that I only get to see you every other week.

Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,691 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	Jan 16, 2020 at 01:00 AM #994 Cancelled the extra session I asked for. It's just huge amounts of shame coming up for me and that don't deserve it. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."