The right way to suggest someone get therapy-article

sarahsweets · Oct 12, 2019 at 06:07 AM

The Right Way To Tell Someone You Love They Should Try Therapy | HuffPost Life

Not saying this is the perfect list but was still interesting.

stopdog · Oct 12, 2019 at 08:31 AM

I think if I loved someone, I would try to help them do anything but therapy as I consider therapy to have been one of the worst, most useless things I ever tried. I think if someone is that worked up about what another person is doing with their own life, the original person needs to find another hobby or outlet.

Xynesthesia2 · Oct 12, 2019 at 08:55 AM

If someone tried to entice me to seek therapy using those strategies, it would likely have the straight opposite effect and would consider them pretty nosy and intrusive. Such an attitude would make me weary of the person offering it in future interactions in spite of all the good intentions - just too much for my taste. I would never suggest psychological treatment unless the other person brought it up and asked for my opinion/feedback/referral. I would go as far as suggesting that they find some sort of help if their symptoms were obvious and clearly disruptive, I would also share own experiences and observations, but would not make uninvited recommendations.

Rive. · Oct 12, 2019 at 09:52 AM

Thank you for sharing sarahsweets.

I don't like the word "should" because of its connotation of 'you have to do X'.

Otherwise, I see nothing wrong in proposing therapy as an option people might consider, especially if they don't really know how to go about getting help.

Though ultimately, it is up to the individual. There is therapy but there are also other alternatives an individual may choose. I guess my emphasis is on letting the person decide rather than forcing or imposing therapy on them. Still yes, nothing wrong in offering an option.

ArtleyWilkins · Oct 12, 2019 at 10:07 AM

Sometimes we have to have these conversations with people we care about, so I think the article does a nice job of describing possible ways to go about it so that it doesn't come off as insistent, demanding, or insulting. I know in my own family, we've had to have these conversations from time to time over the years. Because we were able to speak supportively rather than judgmentally, the message was better received and we were able to dialogue about the idea. Ultimately, however, the decision clearly is one for the individual.

missbella · 06:29 PM

I dislike the game of trying to fix or improve another person, which I feel inevitably comes from a superior, selfish place. And frankly if I were able to fix some of my acquaintances, I’d separate them from some of their emotional habits that seem to be reinforced by therapy.

That said, I’d send well wishes regarding their symptom: I hope you find some relief from your anxiety or I’m concerned about you losing so much weight. If I had my own parallel challenge or personal solution, I’d share that.

I think if I saw friend/family spiral into self destruction I’d tell them I was very concerned and ask how I can support them.

I try to remember we’re only a guest in another person’s backyard. We’re presumptuous if we try to diagnose, prescribe, excoriate or therapist role play. None of us are “truth tellers.”

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