To call or not

puzzclar · Oct 14, 2019 at 11:21 AM

I'm not quite there to call, but I feel like I need support. Is that enough to call? I feel as if I should call before my thoughts get out of hand. Should I call my t? He's on vacation.

He said I could call if I'm "edging on crisis" is that now?

What does that mean? I'm not sui I'm just blah. But starting to as I write this conveniences myself to call. But does it.... It's the same wishy washyness that has gotten me into trouble.

I keep going back and forth on do I call??

Oct 14, 2019 at 11:23 AM

Can you email?

ArtleyWilkins · Oct 14, 2019 at 11:28 AM

I'm not sure what you describe is "edging on crisis." Can you perhaps try some ideas for changing your environment, your activity level, etc. that might get you through this "blah" state without needing your therapist to help you do that? Perhaps give a few things a try and see if this passes a bit, or at least doesn't become worse.

puzzclar · Oct 14, 2019 at 11:38 AM

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Originally Posted by ArtleyWilkins

I'm not sure what you describe is "edging on crisis."

That's the kicker, I don't even know what he meant!!

LonesomeTonight · Oct 14, 2019 at 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by puzzclar

That's the kicker, I don't even know what he meant!!

I understand, as I've had multiple conversations about what he defines as a "crisis," when it would be OK to text him and possibly request phone call. I thought I understood, but then a month or so ago, I emailed him when I felt really bad, but didn't think he'd count it as a crisis. He replied, maybe at like 8 p.m.? Then I replied, and he replied again, at 10 p.m. on a Friday, which I wasn't expecting, as he tends to just reply in the mornings. He said later that he was really concerned about me, that he got the sense maybe I wasn't OK/safe. So it seems he would have actually considered that a crisis...

Does your T allow texting? Because you could text something like what you put here. Or email? Or if you most likely would get his voicemail if you called, you could leave what you said on his voicemail. That you're starting to feel really bad but aren't sure it's hit "edge of crisis" level.

ArtleyWilkins · Oct 14, 2019 at 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by puzzclar

That's the kicker, I don't even know what he meant!!

My guess is he is speaking of risk of physical danger.

Misterpain · Oct 14, 2019 at 11:56 AM

Let's give you an old,old saying :

An ounce of prevention is worth more than a pound of cure.

If wishy washy has been a historic predictor of illness flare up ,good self care would be make contact try and derail a flare up ,avoid complicating your life and making it any harder than it is .

WastingAsparagus · Oct 14, 2019 at 11:59 AM

I feel like if you're on the verge of calling him, you should, because like other people have said; it's better to prevent things than to let them get way out of hand.

ArtleyWilkins · Oct 14, 2019 at 11:59 AM

Do you have a pdoc or other provider you can contact instead since your therapist is on vacation? If he wasn't on vacation, this would be an easy, "yes, certainly give him a call," but the vacation factor seems to warrant a true emergency. I was always able to call my pdoc as an alternative when my therapist was away (and vice versa).

puzzclar · Oct 14, 2019 at 12:49 PM

I haven't called yet. I did call my student developer at my University. I feel on the fence about everything. I wish things were different. Right now I am safe but that is the question, how long will I be safe? Thanks for the quick responses. It's much appreciated!

SlumberKitty · Oct 14, 2019 at 04:32 PM

HUGS @puzzclar

puzzclar · Oct 14, 2019 at 07:03 PM

I called and t didn't answer. I"m in limbo again. and I don't want to be there for any more time. I"m waiting for his call. but I feel myself being pushed over.

LonesomeTonight · Oct 14, 2019 at 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by puzzclar

I called and t didn't answer. I"m in limbo again. and I don't want to be there for any more time. I"m waiting for his call. but I feel myself being pushed over.

I hope he calls back soon. I assume you left a voicemail?

puzzclar · Oct 14, 2019 at 08:38 PM

It's actually an answering service.

I talked to the on call. It didn't really help. I didn't like the guy that was on the phone. I need my T!! He's the one that grounds me and makes sure I am grounded. As I am not always able to.

SlumberKitty · Oct 15, 2019 at 12:14 PM

I hope you hear back from your T @puzzclar HUGS Kit

puzzclar · Oct 15, 2019 at 02:07 PM

I got a call from the T office and there was a cancelation. and I took the spot. But it's for tomorrow. I wish it was for today.

Possible trigger:

I will hold on for a little longer. Maybe something will help. and soon.

I sure hope he can get me through this. I feel very down and the meds aren't helping. I took my PRN this morning about 5 hours ago. and it has dulled my mind but not kept the thoughts away.

Possible trigger:

I hope I can hold on. and not do something stupid

SlumberKitty · Oct 15, 2019 at 02:23 PM

HUGS @puzzclar I'm proud of you for reaching out to your T and getting in for an appointment soon. I'm sorry it's not today but I'm glad it's not longer. I'm sorry you are feeling so badly. If you feel like you can't hold on, go to the hospital or call a helpline. Keep talking to us if it helps. Lots of Hugs, Kit

puzzclar · Oct 15, 2019 at 10:15 PM

I went to the hospital and am waiting for a bed. I hope this helps soon. I'm tired of the drama of my voices

SlumberKitty · Oct 16, 2019 at 12:26 PM

HUGS @puzzclar I hope the hospital helps and I hope that you start feeling better soon. HUGS! Kit

puzzclar · Oct 20, 2019 at 09:09 PM

So far I've made about 10% progress. I need a lot more. I should talk more but I'm scared that it won't help. I'm still inpatient and need to be out by Wednesday morning

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Anonymous48807 Guest Posts: n/a	Oct 14, 2019 at 11:23 AM #2 Can you email?
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ArtleyWilkins Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: USA Posts: 2,787 5 7 hugs given	Oct 14, 2019 at 11:28 AM #3 I'm not sure what you describe is "edging on crisis." Can you perhaps try some ideas for changing your environment, your activity level, etc. that might get you through this "blah" state without needing your therapist to help you do that? Perhaps give a few things a try and see if this passes a bit, or at least doesn't become worse.
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Misterpain Member Member Since May 2016 Location: USA Posts: 487 7	Oct 14, 2019 at 11:56 AM #7 Let's give you an old,old saying : An ounce of prevention is worth more than a pound of cure. If wishy washy has been a historic predictor of illness flare up ,good self care would be make contact try and derail a flare up ,avoid complicating your life and making it any harder than it is .
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WastingAsparagus Student of Life Member Since Mar 2014 Location: South America Posts: 4,658 10 2,911 hugs given	Oct 14, 2019 at 11:59 AM #8 I feel like if you're on the verge of calling him, you should, because like other people have said; it's better to prevent things than to let them get way out of hand.
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ArtleyWilkins Magnate Member Since Oct 2018 Location: USA Posts: 2,787 5 7 hugs given	Oct 14, 2019 at 11:59 AM #9 Do you have a pdoc or other provider you can contact instead since your therapist is on vacation? If he wasn't on vacation, this would be an easy, "yes, certainly give him a call," but the vacation factor seems to warrant a true emergency. I was always able to call my pdoc as an alternative when my therapist was away (and vice versa).
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puzzclar Elder Member Since Jan 2010 Location: Where? US Posts: 5,621 14 101 hugs given	Oct 14, 2019 at 12:49 PM #10 I haven't called yet. I did call my student developer at my University. I feel on the fence about everything. I wish things were different. Right now I am safe but that is the question, how long will I be safe? Thanks for the quick responses. It's much appreciated!
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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Oct 14, 2019 at 04:32 PM #11 HUGS @puzzclar __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA
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puzzclar Elder Member Since Jan 2010 Location: Where? US Posts: 5,621 14 101 hugs given	Oct 14, 2019 at 07:03 PM #12 I called and t didn't answer. I"m in limbo again. and I don't want to be there for any more time. I"m waiting for his call. but I feel myself being pushed over.
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puzzclar Elder Member Since Jan 2010 Location: Where? US Posts: 5,621 14 101 hugs given	Oct 14, 2019 at 08:38 PM #14 It's actually an answering service. I talked to the on call. It didn't really help. I didn't like the guy that was on the phone. I need my T!! He's the one that grounds me and makes sure I am grounded. As I am not always able to.
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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Oct 15, 2019 at 12:14 PM #15 I hope you hear back from your T @puzzclar HUGS Kit __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA
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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Oct 15, 2019 at 02:23 PM #17 HUGS @puzzclar I'm proud of you for reaching out to your T and getting in for an appointment soon. I'm sorry it's not today but I'm glad it's not longer. I'm sorry you are feeling so badly. If you feel like you can't hold on, go to the hospital or call a helpline. Keep talking to us if it helps. Lots of Hugs, Kit __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA
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puzzclar Elder Member Since Jan 2010 Location: Where? US Posts: 5,621 14 101 hugs given	Oct 15, 2019 at 10:15 PM #18 I went to the hospital and am waiting for a bed. I hope this helps soon. I'm tired of the drama of my voices
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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Oct 16, 2019 at 12:26 PM #19 HUGS @puzzclar I hope the hospital helps and I hope that you start feeling better soon. HUGS! Kit __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA
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puzzclar Elder Member Since Jan 2010 Location: Where? US Posts: 5,621 14 101 hugs given	Oct 20, 2019 at 09:09 PM #20 So far I've made about 10% progress. I need a lot more. I should talk more but I'm scared that it won't help. I'm still inpatient and need to be out by Wednesday morning
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