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Ok so T feels horrible, he is going to be out of the office the entire month of November... and forgot to tell me until yesterday. He has come up with a couple ideas and is open to phone session but he knows I hate the phone... so... what has been most helpful to you when there has been a long absence from T?
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Oh wow, that's a long time. When my former T would go out of the country, we would email. It was helpful. Also, I would plan something nice and special for myself during the time I would usually see her, so it made it feel like I was still being cared about while T was away. Maybe you could try something like that...and remember you always have us on PC! HUGS Kit
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I have not seen my massage therapist in forever so I am thinking of getting in with her. My work schedule kept conflicting with her availability but I’ve had to leave work so that’s an option!!
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Ugh, that's a long time...Would something like Skype or Facetime be an option that might feel better than the phone because you could see him? Another thought is if he has any backup T's. I've found seeing one to be helpful when T was out of town even for just 10 days. I know it can seem hard to trust someone new and might seem pointless to see someone for just a few sessions, but I found it to be helpful. See if your T has anyone backing him up or if he has any names for you. Otherwise, I agree with self-care things like a massage, exercise (walks, yoga class, etc.), doing something creative--I know you do sewing/craft stuff, things like that.
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Some wholesome suggestions here. I usually just get drunk for a month.
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I have a quilt I am working on that is emotionally connected to him so I am sure I will spend lots of time with that too.
Unfortunately when I drink I get sad and cuddly so that would just add to the mess with T gone. __________________ There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night |
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T and I took a picture together before her last absence. She also records a message for me that I can listen to while she’s gone. And we exchange emails about once per week.
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Dont think there is one good answer. I love some of these suggestions.
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I don't think a lot of drinking is good self-care or coping. In my case it was usually me being out of town, but I emailed and had phone sessions with my Ts. I don't like the phone very much either but gave it a chance also to push something I would rather avoid. Was surprised to find that the phone sessions were not really less effective than in person, but only with one T. With the other one I did not like to talk on the phone and never had full sessions that way. If you don't like talking but want something more direct and real time than email, maybe try texting or an instant messaging platform.
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There's also the option of a transitional object, but I feel like maybe you already have one of those from your T?
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He knows this is going to be super hard on me so he is pretty open to anything reasonable for me to be able to maintain the connection. __________________ There’s been many a crooked path that has landed me here Tired, broken and wearing rags Wild eyed with fear -Blackmoores Night |
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