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#881
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#882
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I would say if it's been beyond that time, do try to get it done. I just went through having to have a repeat pap smear because of irregular cells the first time. My PCP had me repeat 6 months later to be sure it had cleared (he felt pretty certain it would and it did). |
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Always in This Twilight
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#883
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If you're able to get one done, they should be able to do an HPV test at the same time. If that comes back negative, I believe you then don't need pap smears as often (assuming you have normal pap smear results of course). |
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#884
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So, my pap is now clear, but I have a growth on my cervix (probably benign, but needs to be check out before it creates other female issues like bleeding, etc.). As much as we hate routine physical maintenance, detecting these issues early on can be the difference between a simple fix and more serious problems requiring much higher level of medical care. We have a high level of cancer in my family (both sisters had breast cancer; sister and mother had colon cancer). I detest colonoscopies and mammograms and pelvic exams as much or more than most because of my history, but I would detest intensive medical issues even moreso. |
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#885
LT's right--per US guidelines, women over the age of 30 who have normal cells and HPV only have to get a pap smear every 5 years. If just the cells are normal and no HPV was done, you're due again in three years.
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#886
About 20 years ago I had a pap done by a female doctor. I was very overweight. The doctor was having trouble performing the exam and was getting visibly frustrated. It was physically painful because she kept readjusting the speculum and was also pinching me with it. The whole ordeal took forever. It seemed like 20 minutes but was probably closer to 10. At one point she body shamed me by telling my weight was why she couldn't get the exam done properly. I held it together until I got to my car and I sat there and cried for a long time. It felt like I had just been sexually assaulted by a salad tong-wielding doctor. I'm sorry if that seems dismissive of other SA, but it's how I felt. I was so humiliated by this experience. They actually called me a few days later and said I needed to come in and do the exam over because there were abnormalities and I was thinking there is no way in hell I'm doing that again. And I didn't. For over a decade. I finally met a doctor who convinced me to do one. He wrote me a prescription for xanax and I took them before the exam. I was so anxious even with the xanax, but I got through it. I'm not saying I'm eagerly lining up to do it again, and I haven't since then because, frankly, I'm still anxious about getting it done, but I got through it. Kit, you can get through this. Communicate your anxieties with the doctor and/or nurse. If you don't feel comfortable asking your friend to be in the room, maybe just having them in the waiting room to support you before and after will help. If there's a nurse you feel comfortable with, ask if they can hold your hand during the exam. I'm not saying you HAVE to do the exam, but I think you CAN get through it with the right support without feeling like you need to SH. And if you really can't do it without SH, then just don't do it. Put some supports and protective factors in place and do it another time.
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#887
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#888
After watching what my person went through and having dealt with some idiot mds of my own in high school and college - I don't plan on dealing with them at all. The inevitable will simply occur sooner rather than later for me.
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#889
CPS investigator and case worker are coming out tomorrow afternoon to meet us and discuss what is involved. H is going around mockingly saying
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Ugh, NP, I'm sorry that happened to you. I agree about sharing your anxieties. It might help if you do sort of meditative relaxed breathing throughout, because tensing up (though often somewhat involuntary) can make it more painful. I'm not sure if it would help you if the doctor talked you through what was going on, like, "OK, I'm putting in the speculum, this will only take x amount of time, now I'm doing this, you're almost done," something like that. Or if it would help for the doctor to talk about something else as a distraction (mine tends to do that). Or, I don't know, if you could take your phone with headphones and listen to something calming while she's doing the procedure? Think about what could help and let them know. I'm sure they're used to dealing with anxious patients. And I've found it sometimes can help me in anxious situations to just say I'm really nervous or that I'm having a panic attack or something. Hugs...
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#891
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Hugs, that's awful. I certainly hope he will be serious during the actual investigation. Aren't his actions toward you a big part of why they're coming to investigate? |
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#892
I still haven't heard from L. I'm really worried.
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#893
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#894
How does one ask important people in their life for care and concern in the absence of a particular crisis? I just feel generally sad and empty and am in need of some extra love... how the heck do you say that? I don’t even know what exactly it is I want other than extra hugs.
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#895
Student health called and said my kidney function test results are a bit off. Not really surprised since something is obviously not right. She said it could possibly be dehydration, but my electrolytes were fine. And she acknowledged drinking more water would just make the issue I'm having even worse. Kind of worried. Have to be tested again in a few weeks. I'll probably obsess about this in the meantime. It's hard not to think about it when I have to go to the bathroom all the time.
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#896
Leaving my mother’s in about 90 minutes. Do not want to go.
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#897
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Obviously, that's just a speculation on my part and could be wildly inaccurate, though. Also, while masters level therapists are great for almost everything, I don't think they get much education on psychosis related symptoms. For example, I don't think a masters level therapist would have the diagnostic acumen to differentiate between your diagnosis of depression with psychotic features and some other diagnosis that features hallucinations. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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#898
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#899
Well, I think you might not feel safe to feel or express anger in some situations - for example, against your mother. Iirc, she was physically abusive to you, she sounds like she's still a bit emotionally suffocating, and you are still living with her. I also think I recall you saying you didn't feel safe as a child expressing emotion because of her. So it would make sense to me that you would repress all your justified anger towards her, especially since you are still living at home. It wouldn't feel safe in that situation to feel, let alone express, anger.
ETA: And in a way, your recent SH is like an act of rebellion against Pastor T without actually confronting him for being ineffective. It says "you are not helping me and your plan sucks" without you having to say it. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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#900
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