FAQ/Help |
Calendar |
Search |
Grand Member
Member Since Jan 2017
Location: Denmark
Posts: 847
7 83 hugs
given |
#1
This is a first for me. Today I stormed out of the therapist room within the first 10 minutes.
She was worried about me and said she would call some of my family members. I said no but she wanted to anyway. I felt a breach of trust and like I was treated like a child. I got angry and left. She tried to stop me but I had made up my mind. Who else has done this and what caused it for you? __________________ |
Reply With Quote |
Out There, SalingerEsme, shelda, SlumberKitty, stahrgeyzer
|
Anonymous45127, SalingerEsme
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Jun 2012
Location: USA
Posts: 3,515
11 1,429 hugs
given |
#2
I did that once with a therapist over 30 years ago and once with another about 18 years ago. In both cases it was because I felt what I now know to be a profound disrespect of me from them, and it ended both therapies. I did not make new appointments.
I guess it would be more accurate to say that what happened in the therapists' offices triggered dissociated feelings of profound disrespect from the past. In both cases the disrespect of me was there in what they did, but was somewhat minor. Nevertheless, I did not not and could not trust either of those therapists again. |
Reply With Quote |
Anonymous45127, MatBell, Out There
|
Member
Member Since Apr 2014
Location: Ottawa,Ont
Posts: 50
10 104 hugs
given |
#3
I have done this as well but at the dentists.They tell me what they are going to do and it scares me. Therapist stating she's going to call your family !! She sounds not compassionate to me.
|
Reply With Quote |
MatBell
|
Legendary Wise Elder
Member Since Jul 2018
Location: CA
Posts: 27,329
(SuperPoster!)
5 117.7k hugs
given |
#4
I've never done that personally, although I have left sessions early if I was just too overwhelmed. Did your T contact any of your family members? I'm sorry you felt like you were being treated like a child. I had that experience last night in T appointment as well. I'm mad about it but I suppose I will get over it. Do you think you can talk to your T next session about your response and what you were feeling? HUGS Kit
__________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA |
Reply With Quote |
MatBell
|
catches the flowers
Member Since Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
(SuperPoster!)
4 23.7k hugs
given |
#5
Decades ago I stormed out of a therapy session. I did return to my next session, but the T diagnosed me as having "BPD traits." It still annoys me to this day that he laid that dx on me because he mishandled the issue in the session.
__________________ |
Reply With Quote |
SlumberKitty, sophiebunny
|
Anonymous45127, HowDoYouFeelMeow?, MatBell, Out There
|
Grand Member
Member Since Jan 2017
Location: Denmark
Posts: 847
7 83 hugs
given |
#6
Quote:
No she didn’t. But she did send people from her team after me because she was worried about me. They called me and I met and talked to them. Haven’t talked to my T yet. Don’t know if I can trust her now to not do certain things even if I tell her not to.. __________________ |
|
Reply With Quote |
SlumberKitty
|
Anonymous45127
|
Member
Member Since Aug 2019
Location: The World
Posts: 278
4 16 hugs
given |
#7
Do you think your T had any reason to think you were going to harm yourself? If so then they may have been bound by ethical guidelines to contact a family member. I know here in the UK all therapists that are members of the BACP have to contact a GP or emergency contact if the have reason to believe that their client is likely to cause harm to themselves even if the client does not want them to. So maybe it was more about ensuring that you were safe than anything else?
|
Reply With Quote |
*Beth*, ArtleyWilkins, MatBell
|
underdog is here
Member Since Sep 2011
Location: blank
Posts: 34,731
(SuperPoster!)
12 1 hugs
given |
#8
Can you find a new therapist? This one sounds highly reactive. Also, I never gave the therapist a correct phone number or name of anyone to contact. If need be, just make one up and put that down. If I ever tried therapy again, I doubt I would give them my correct name and address.
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. |
Reply With Quote |
MatBell
|
Veteran Member
Member Since Mar 2019
Location: USA
Posts: 540
5 55 hugs
given |
#9
Did not happen for me but I am sure I would have reacted the same way. I would never give therapists a contact person - if they demanded, I would look for another therapist or make it up. And if they made comments like that, I would never be back. Any breach of confidentiality would cause me to stop seeing anyone, not only a therapist, but 100% confidentiality is what I absolutely expect of them. Treating me as though I was a child would also be a deal breaker very soon.
|
Reply With Quote |
MatBell, stopdog
|
Grand Poohbah
Member Since Jul 2017
Location: Neverland
Posts: 1,805
6 4,957 hugs
given |
#10
I have done it once, and almost another time. My T is not a fan of acting out, and he let me know that many people would like that slot, and that is not how to express anything, and that 3x you're out. I have never tested that line again. However, the reaction created problems too , as it seemed authoritarian and lacking in warmth & curiosity. once emotions run that high, it is a big deal to repair the relationship. I hope you reconnect, if that what you really need down deep.
__________________ Living things don’t all require/ light in the same degree. Louise Gluck |
Reply With Quote |
Anonymous45127, HowDoYouFeelMeow?, MatBell, Out There
|
underdog is here
Member Since Sep 2011
Location: blank
Posts: 34,731
(SuperPoster!)
12 1 hugs
given |
#11
I would not put up with a therapist telling me others were waiting for the time I hired them to be at their office. I would have walked out and left them to it. Probably after saying there were plenty of therapists out there and that particular one was not all that important to me. Any therapist who is that egomaniacal is not a therapist I am going to hand money to.
__________________ Please NO @ Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live. Oscar Wilde Well Behaved Women Seldom Make History - Laurel Thatcher Ulrich Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Last edited by stopdog; Nov 12, 2019 at 05:11 PM.. |
Reply With Quote |
Anonymous45127, Out There, precaryous, SalingerEsme, susannahsays
|
Grand Member
Member Since Jan 2017
Location: Denmark
Posts: 847
7 83 hugs
given |
#12
Quote:
Yes we had been talking about suicidal thoughts and I am in a rough spot right now. I understand her position too. But I think she should listen when I repeatedly say I don’t want her to contact family members and she then overrules me. I just feel like the cooperation between us broke down. __________________ |
|
Reply With Quote |
HowDoYouFeelMeow?, Out There, SalingerEsme, SlumberKitty
|
Anonymous45127
|
catches the flowers
Member Since Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
(SuperPoster!)
4 23.7k hugs
given |
#13
I'm so, so sorry that you feel a breach in the trust you have with your therapist. I know that awful feeling. It does sound like she was genuinely concerned about you. I definitely would not want my t to call a family member - but I'd rather that than calling the cops. In the U.S. therapists are mandated reporters so are bound to notify the cops if someone has intent to suicide.
After having been dragged in handcuffs to a miserable, tiny room in a rotten psych ward last year I made up my mind that I will never, never disclose any reason for a mandated reporter to take action. Anyway, my thought is that you take a few breaths, sleep on it, and speak with her about this whole situation...see where things go from there. You have my sympathy. __________________ |
Reply With Quote |
SlumberKitty, stahrgeyzer
|
Anonymous45127, MatBell
|
Magnate
Member Since Feb 2018
Location: literally hell
Posts: 2,348
6 5,660 hugs
given |
#14
I'm going to my therapist in 3 days, so what you say scares the hell out of me! Idk what I'd do but I'll have to remember to never give my therapist contact info to anyone.
|
Reply With Quote |
Anonymous45127
|
Magnate
Member Since Feb 2018
Location: literally hell
Posts: 2,348
6 5,660 hugs
given |
#15
Quote:
|
|
Reply With Quote |
*Beth*
|
*Beth*, Anonymous45127, MatBell
|
Member
Member Since Apr 2017
Location: home
Posts: 287
7 623 hugs
given |
#16
Okay, not only have I done this, two weeks ago, but tomorrow is my first appointment back. The first four minutes of interaction with the T triggered feelings of abandonment. I tried to stay longer but I felt like I was completely unheard. I've been with this T for 13 years. I am unsure how tomorrow will go. I'm nervous. It is not like there are very many therapists in my rural area if she terminates me.
|
Reply With Quote |
*Beth*, Out There, SlumberKitty
|
MatBell
|
Elder
Member Since Oct 2008
Posts: 7,361
15 25 hugs
given |
#17
I don't know the story behind the post you quoted, but just wanted you to know that my T knows about my plan, and has known about all of my suicidal feelings. She has never threatened the cops/psych ward on me, but she has expressed her worry of my safety after I left session. She did make clear that she is a mandated reporter, but we have always had conversations around it, and she has trusted me when I said I'd call her first before actually acting on the plan.
|
Reply With Quote |
Out There, SlumberKitty, zapatoes
|
Anonymous45127, ArtleyWilkins, MatBell, stahrgeyzer
|
catches the flowers
Member Since Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
(SuperPoster!)
4 23.7k hugs
given |
#18
Quote:
Thank you, I appreciate your kindness. Just to be clear - it wasn't a therapist who called the cops on me, it was someone online (not here). I confided in the person and asked her not to tell anyone because I needed to sleep and get my thinking straight. Next thing I knew 2 cops were at my door. __________________ |
|
Reply With Quote |
Out There, SlumberKitty, stahrgeyzer, zapatoes
|
Anonymous45127, MatBell
|
Grand Member
Member Since Jan 2017
Location: Denmark
Posts: 847
7 83 hugs
given |
#19
Quote:
I was afraid she would call the cops too. Tried that before and it’s not a nice experience. __________________ |
|
Reply With Quote |
SlumberKitty, zapatoes
|
*Beth*
|
Grand Magnate
Member Since Jun 2018
Location: Somewhere
Posts: 3,355
5 1 hugs
given |
#20
Quote:
Sorry for the rant, but that really angers me. I think I would terminate with a therapist who made that sort of threat, especially when you had only walked out once and it wasn't like you were walking out of a good number of sessionsa. And the part about other people wanting the slot is completely inappropriate. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
|
Reply With Quote |
zapatoes
|
here today, MatBell, Out There, SlumberKitty
|
Reply |
|