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I feel like SarahSweden's thread is not the greatest place to have a long discussion about the US healthcare system, seeing as it is not relevant to her situation.
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On the bright side, perhaps you have avoided becoming a long-term dependent of the mental health system. Some people wind up like inmates, chained to the system for life, suffering various degradations and subtle abuses.
For me, repeated therapy failures and the decision to stop motivated me to take full responsibility for my health and cut the umbilical cord to therapists, doctors, and other practitioners as much as possible.. As for the mainstream US healthcare system... it ranks as one of the leading killers, slaughtering its victims in the hundreds of thousands,. It's controlled by an organized crime syndicate (pharma). Its basic paradigm is crude and dangerous. Seems most modern systems operate on a similar model. To me the important thing is to limit contact with these large industrialized systems. They have their place but generally are not designed with your well-being in mind. i think this applies to mental health and medical care. |
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I was outwardly very independent so the extent to which I fell into dependency on therapists, and the idea of therapy, was not at all obvious to me, and nobody else clued me in. My rational, cognitive side is pretty good, but it didn't help me at all with the emotional dependency/addiction. And all the therapy didn't help me gain that "insight" either. What helped was both my own frustration AND some comments on PC that were critical or questioning about therapy. Emotionally, I had just accepted that the socially authorized and licensed professionals knew what they were doing and what best for me. OK, that attitude may have been problematic and I developed doubts, but it's what I went into therapy with. And the stuff I got from therapists didn't help me get out of it. At least, Sarah did take a more pro-active approach to try to see in advance if the therapy, or therapist, was likely to be helpful. Was it made clear, in advance -- try therapy with one of those therapists or lose your sick leave? I don't live in Sweden and don't know the system there. If you're physically ill and the treatment doesn't help or even makes you worse, do they cut off your sick leave then? That logic may not help much, if the mental health administrators make up their own minds without input from the patients. But perhaps there is an attorney or ombudsman who might help? On the other hand, as Budfox points out, if you're "ill" and the "treatment", and looking for treatment, makes you worse. . .maybe it's best to do without? The challenge is how to "get better" on your own -- terrifying and not easy, for sure. Not necessarily impossible, though. |
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I personally doubt that the issue is health care in Sweden as its one of the best in the world. If you are being referred to and saw therapists on and off for quite awhile and not only your condition and quality of life didnt improve but you also dislike therapists and dont find it beneficial, then I see no point in therapy.
Id talk to your doctor and psychiatrist about other ways you can improve your life and perhaps other ways to maintain your medical leave/disability. There are other methods/treatments/strategies out there. |
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Thanks, I appreciate you engaging in my story. Iīm sorry youīve struggled for so long and still donīt feel you have been helped in a proper way. I think itīs like "one in a million" chance to find a proper T, even if some people find one on the first or third try.
With years of medical records and meeting with doctors and therapists and still no or little process, I now speak in general terms, there must be a significant flaw within the health system. The diagnoses themselves donīt help much, it seems they donīt help the proffessionals much either. In my case they have speculated back and forth and even if they have done several assessments, they donīt find a proper treatment. But in Sweden, thatīs much due to the health system itself as a lot of people share stories about leaving psychiatric care after several years as they just got worse. They leave by their own will as they see the care itself is too harmful. Quote:
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It's good to hear from you, Sarah, and I hope that you will continue to keep us updated on how things are going for you. There has to be a better way, somehow.
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Sarah, I can relate to some extent. I was under psychiatric services for 8 years, made no progress, if anything got worse. Saw so many therapist I lost count. Not one helped me even slightly. I thought the problem was me. Luckily, sought out a therapist privately and they were less conventional, more patient, let me barely saw a word for a year without getting frustrated and essentially, didnt give up, more importantly, trusted and believed in me. Were making progress now. But, under my old treatment, I was considered chronically unwell, a hopeless case, when people saw me all they saw first was notes full of terminated therapies, numerous hospitalizations, treatment suspended due to risk etc. For me, like you said, it took a long time to find that one person willing to help and to an extend, let myself be helped. That was hard after so much disappointment and what I saw as previous failure. I hope youre able to find something that will help - try charities, talk frankly with your psychiatrist, explain how hopeless it feels. Listen to yourself - really try to figure out what you want. It may well not be therapy, but an alternative support. Before I found a therapist, I had a support worker who helped me a lot but then funding changed and I had to stop seeing her. But that was useful too. Just to help me function and vent and work on practical ways to improve my life.
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Sarah, I'm curious. Did anyone ever give you an actual diagnosis? (After you answer this question, I have another question.)
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A Norwegian trauma therapist who is a follower of my blog talked with me about the poor public mental healthcare services, and my own research with others (immigrant or native) backs her words and yours up about Norway and Sweden. My country is frequently lauded as one of the best healthcare systems in the world, much like how the Nordic countries are praised, but we don't get GOOD mental healthcare unless we pay privately and private psych care is extremely expensive. 1 therapy session is over 10% of my paycheck (could be much higher!), and I'm on the low end of cost for trauma therapy. I can't even GET insurance to cover me for a bunch of PHYSICAL health stuff because of my mental illnesses. I trust the LIVED EXPERIENCE of Sarah in her own country. Also I know universal healthcare is great, but I also know what it's like to be treated the bare minimum just to make you functioning enough to work, seeing people go from meh therapist to meh therapist where they just want to make you functioning enough to work even though you're suffering. I've been high functioning, my country doesn't have unemployment benefits etc and high functioning people are told they aren't struggling enough, while people with multiple failed therapies are written off as hopeless yeah. I don't know what can help, really. You can be grateful to have what you do (eg unemployment benefits) and also frustrated about not being able to access the care which may help (a good therapist who understands you, that you can afford). |
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Why is it bizarre to use a system to identify what is occurring and why is it bizarre to seek to change or improve it? That's what diagnosis and treatment come down to.
And of course health isn't something you buy* - I don't really why health being something that is built is incompatible with looking at these issues from a medical framework. *Although it must be said that if you're impoverished, you don't tend to be in a good spot to build your health up. Good nutrition is something that has to be bought. Safe housing that will allow you to not live in constant stress has to be bought. Education to be able to obtain a job that has meaning to you almost always has to be bought. So many things that are needed to "build up" your physical and mental health do have to be bought. The list goes on and on, and many items build on each other. That's not the same as being able to buy health, but it's important to acknowledge that you can't just work hard and be healthy. That's not the way the world works. Building health will always necessarily require spending more money than you would if you just didn't gaf. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold |
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^^^^Good post, Susannasays. I agree.
In a perfect world, health would be built from the ground up. But that is under fairly "normal" health circumstances, and not everyone is blessed with anywhere close to "normal" health - sometimes physical, sometimes mental - and the normal strategies don't apply well. In those circumstances, it may be absolutely necessary to use medical approaches because "normal" health maintenance strategies simply aren't enough. To assume that mental health issues just require someone to work harder at it, to get better on their own, is rather closely akin to the old "pull yourself up by your bootstraps" philosophy which is invalidating and dismissive of those who are living without social, familial, and personal supports around them. Sometimes those service people are the entirety of the support an individual has in their life. Additionally, even "normal" health maintenance is difficult to even achieve if poverty, homelessness, etc. make acquiring even the basic sustenance for healthy diet difficult. Back to the OP: From what you say, your access to support is limited as well as your ability to work, etc., and you clearly appear to feel unable to fully function without some sort of therapy support. Since you are limited to the government-provided services, unfortunately, if you desire those services, you may have to work with someone "good enough" which I realize is not ideal, but may be your only option. I'm sorry the whole situation is frustrating for you. I hope you can find the support services you feel you need. |
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Thank you all for opening up my eyes. I have a little to offer. I live in the US and have had care in two states. It's been 16-17 years of seeking treatment. About a year ago I started graduate school to begin a Mental Health Counseling degree. In September, I was given the assignment to better myself, for future clients and myself. I started talking to a professor about my difficulties then had to be hospitalized. I took the term off to deal with my own mental health. I have depression, anxiety and an addiction to Pornography. I just started the assignments and found many answers about myself. I also found areas to set goals in. I have to take action.
I was blessed to find a therapist that actually can help, but it took 16 years or so. Sometimes we are not ready to change, sometimes we need to find the right fit, and sometimes we need to trust. I have a long way to go to become a counselor and to recover from all of my difficulties. What I found is I can't just let things be, I have to act. Action makes the change. Hope this helps. I just hope I can create change in the mental healthcare system in my state, and then hopefully other areas of the world will hear. I'm sorry everyone has had such a hard time finding help. I wish you all the best and hope that we as a world find a solution to our healthcare. |
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The action I am taking is to write about my experience here in these forums. Other people have written books and blogs, and I'm grateful for those. But there is NO ACTION anywhere, and no consumer action group to help generate any that I can see. I wish I knew how to do something about that, but I don't, at least right now. I didn't get a counseling degree but I did get a general master's degree in psychology and completed all the coursework for a Ph.D., before my husband was diagnosed with a terminal disease and I saw no real use in doing the work on a dissertation that I believed would be useless. It's not just the "mental health" field, it's the society in which we are all embedded and which is psychologically unhealthy, and which the "mental health field" serves by the very concept of "mental health" being the problem. Yes, it IS a problem to depressed and anxious and traumatized, etc. The current approaches taken to "help" with things like that, at least in my case, ended up being a sham and a scam, and even well-meaning therapists are not willing or able to open their eyes to that situation. Perhaps you wrote this only about you: Quote:
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Yep. And I certainly don't have any confidence that any of the people in that profession know how to help, so I'm not going to try any more of them. |
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I haven't seen any indication that the OP actually responds to those comments by taking them in -- more like, she offers her posts and accepts what she finds useful among the replies, and rejects/ignores the rest. I admire that about her.
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Thanks for sharing. It seems the problems within public health care are similar in several countries. Itīs hard to understand how one can go through so many years of "treatment" without getting better and this just goes on and on and affects a lot of poeple.
I donīt know whatīll happen, at the moment I have taken a break from mental health care as itīs soon Christmas. It doesnīt seem there are any good options for me at the moment. Quote:
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Thanks Cool. Yes, I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety but not anything else. I have problems that donīt fall into a specific diagnosis and by that itīs also difficult to get help.
All of our public health care is built on diagnoses and to treat one diagnoses at a time. You canīt get access to a public therapist who treats "all" what "needs to be treated" so to speak. |
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Thanks. Itīs interesting to read about your experiences. Yes, at least there are some people that see all the flaws within the public health care system and dare to speak up, not many doctors or therapists do that.
As you say, you can get access to psychiatric care but the quality of such care isnīt the same as if you pay out of your own pocket. In Sweden mental health care is very influenced by medical companies who want to push their medicines. They work by the principle of the lowest possible care level which means they only offer whatīs absolutely neccessary. This means in the long run that patients apply for care several times due to the same or similar symptoms as they never get enough treatment. They get like 10 sessions instead of 40 or whatever they would need to get better. There are many facilities and clinics in Sweden but they all struggle with the same problems and the same limitations. Have you now got access to the care you need? Quote:
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