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I really like my T don’t get me wrong. But sometimes I feel like she doesn’t always keep stuff between us. She tells my Pdoc a lot of stuff that I don’t want him to know, and that I’ve told her not to tell him. And then she tells me that she told him. She told me that she told him I was scared of him. I really don’t get why that was necessary. Tonight I took a bad combination of stress relief tea and Xanax and it didn’t agree with me. I know I should tell my T my anxiety has been horrible but I feel like she’ll just blab it to the Pdoc again. Does anyone know how to deal with this? I don’t want her to think I’m mad at her because things are really working out between us. It’s just a slight trust issue and really more of an annoyance then anything else.
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That feels very wrong, Mountain. 1, that you have told her not to tell him stuff and she still does, and 2, seems to tell him things that only you should bring up if you wanted to. Can you tell your T next time that you don't want her to communicate with Pdoc about anything unless it is medication related?
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And then if I get an internal exam or something done by Pdocs wife and she discusses it with him and then he talks about it with my T, that’s just plain wrong and very creepy.
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If you gave them permission to talk about you and you don’t want them talking about you...then revoke the permission.
And I wouldn’t see the gynecologist if that’s going to bother you (it would bother me, though for different reasons). Just because you got a referral doesn’t mean you have to take it. |
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There are things I tell my therapist and there are things I tell my psychiatrist. They only communicate with my consent or if I'm in crisis. I'd be devastated if they talked about things I didn't give permission to discuss. Sometimes I work out things with him. Some things I work out with her. That's my choice.
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Are you in the US? If so, they should not be able to talk without your written permission (even if in the same practice). If you haven't given them permission, what they're doing violates HIPAA. If you have given them permission, like @@ said, you can revoke it at any time. You can also make the permission very specific, to say they can only talk about medication, for example (there's usually a spot on the form for that). I also would be reluctant to go to that gynecologist because of the connection.
ETA: Also (again, this is assuming US), you can amend permission to share information so that it can only go one way--like your p-doc can share information with your T, but your T can't tell any of your stuff back (I did this at one point with T and ex-MC). |
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She should not he telling other providers information without you consent.
Could you at least ask her to talk to you before she says anything to others? Then you can discuss Why aske thinks it is important to tell the others. __________________ |
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This would bother me very much, MountainDewed. I wouldn't consider it "just a slight trust issue" at all -- I'd consider it a MAJOR trust issue. And as another member said, I believe these professionals must have your written permission to share material with ANYBODY else, so if you've given the permission then definitely revoke it, on the grounds that you are not comfortable otherwise, and that you want to be in charge of what is said to whom.
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The whole thing seems fishy to me. Do you have to see the same psych and therapist combo? Like are you allowed to see one but not the other?
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