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Default Jan 24, 2020 at 10:29 PM
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No, if you have somebody on ignore, then when they post, you only see their name, not the content of what they posted. And you are right, they cant post on a thread you start, or quote you in a post (aka reply to you). There is a loophole where you CAN see temporarily see a single ignored post without going thru the process of un-ignoring the person, so you dont drive yourself crazy.
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Ugh. Getting suicidal thoughts. Literally doing nothing right now at work. There will probably be some invoices to do later, but right now there is nothing in my inbox that needs attention. I'm all caught up on everything. Nothing to distract me from these thoughts. Maybe I should text a friend or something. Probably wouldn't tell them about the thoughts, just maybe chatting with someone would help. HUGS Kit
Maybe chatting will help. If not, are there any warm lines you can call?
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Default Jan 25, 2020 at 02:24 AM
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Lemoncake, you're such a thoughtful person. You deserved a better dad. My sister had an aunt read to her when she was young because our parents never read to us or played with us. I'm envious because that aunt never liked me since I was really young and no one read to me.

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Default Jan 25, 2020 at 02:33 AM
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Re: Sex and sexual trauma, talking about it in therapy.

I find talking about sexual trauma difficult, but it's still easier than talking about masturbation or consensual sex for me. Only sexual thing I can talk about easily is the messed up beliefs my parents and abusive sibling hold: eg being "property", reproductive coercion, sexual "purity", invasive questions no parent should ask their adult child regarding their sex life etc

My T uses a mix of euphemisms (maybe because I'm so ashamed) and the proper words.

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Lemoncake, you're such a thoughtful person. You deserved a better dad. My sister had an aunt read to her when she was young because our parents never read to us or played with us. I'm envious because that aunt never liked me since I was really young and no one read to me.

SlumberKitty, hugs if wanted. Tbh I could only stop SH for long periods after I had other coping mechanisms and had addressed some of the underlying reasons why I SHed.
Aww thank you. T has said the same thing which was a moment. I'm sorry you get it too. He gave me a copy of my therapy notes and from the first session wrote down: physical and emotional abuse. It just feels like having a huge gaping hole of need. The hardest thing for me was just finally understanding the way I acted as a child. I also had an aunt whose favourite I was up until I was 9 years old then in a way she leave me and I didn't see her again until I was 13/14.

I find it very hard to talk about sex stuff with T too. There's still a lot of shame there but my opinion of it has changed because of him.I went from it's okay to be degraded to heck no for loving couples only I've always emailed stuff and told him not to reply back.

I think for the PAP smear it's okay to go at a pace your comfortable with. Do you think you'd feel a bit more comfortable with a female doctor? Some places have photos of their offices online- so you'd know what to expect.

In the UK there's a professional body for all sex therapists, maybe you have something similar?

This might sound dumb but maybe a book by a T would be a good place to start to explain what they actually do so you feel more comfortable.

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