Couch 210: The Abundant Couch

LostOnTheTrail · Dec 31, 2019 at 06:12 PM

Welcome to the couch, old and new! A place to hang out - sometimes you get immediate feedback, sometimes you don't.

Shouting, "Cool Whip" tends to bring others out from between the cushions if you're feeling lonely.

This is a chatty thread. All are welcome. We're kind of psychologically oriented, sometimes. We try to be supportive. At times we discuss what that means.

It’s a place to plop down on the couch when you come home from work or wherever, or wake up in the middle of the night, or check in at lunch, rant a bit or not, and be among friends.

We advise you not to drink or drug and text your therapist ("T") - we speak from experience.

Sometimes the thread moves fast and you might get overlooked; sometimes it moves slowly and all you hear are crickets. Sometimes you get hugged or thanked pages later. So if it's a bigger question, you might want to start a new thread.

Grab a cushion, a spot on the floor, or an armchair in the corner and make yourselves comfy.

210 is an abundant number, and I couldn't imagine a better way to ring in a New Year.

SlumberKitty · Dec 31, 2019 at 06:15 PM

Thanks for the new couch Lost! HUGS Kit

SlumberKitty · Dec 31, 2019 at 06:19 PM

Hey Couchies, how can you tell if you are angry or if your feelings are hurt? I am feeling angry but I think it might be that my feelings are hurt. Just something someone said to me at work. I'm trying to shrug it off but it's like screaming at me in my head. I'm feeling angry but I'm also feeling unheard, not valued, not listened to, which is making me feel uncared about, unloved, etc. So I'm thinking maybe my feelings are actually hurt but the anger that I feel is hiding it? Better question....how can I stop feeling this way? I don't want to SH over it (which is what I immediately think of, of course). I'm thinking about calling a friend after work, or stopping by her house but IDK as it is New Years Eve and all. It's like I want to get something out of me somehow. I'm not explaining it well, but that is how it feels. HUGS Kit

LostOnTheTrail · Dec 31, 2019 at 06:27 PM

That's a tangle, Kit. I can't speak with any expertise, other than the fact that I know that feeling. I am still working on safe ways to externalise it.

SheHulk07 · Dec 31, 2019 at 06:51 PM

Happy New Year's Eve couch. Apparently this year has made a tradition for our family...someone has been sick or hospitalized for many holidays. Tonight is my youngest with a 102+ fever. Thankfully H is going out driving all night long so I don't have to deal with him.

atisketatasket · Dec 31, 2019 at 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty

Hey Couchies, how can you tell if you are angry or if your feelings are hurt? I am feeling angry but I think it might be that my feelings are hurt. Just something someone said to me at work. I'm trying to shrug it off but it's like screaming at me in my head. I'm feeling angry but I'm also feeling unheard, not valued, not listened to, which is making me feel uncared about, unloved, etc. So I'm thinking maybe my feelings are actually hurt but the anger that I feel is hiding it? Better question....how can I stop feeling this way? I don't want to SH over it (which is what I immediately think of, of course). I'm thinking about calling a friend after work, or stopping by her house but IDK as it is New Years Eve and all. It's like I want to get something out of me somehow. I'm not explaining it well, but that is how it feels. HUGS Kit

Anger/hurt aren’t mutually exclusive. Someone hurts your feelings, you might get angry. I don’t see one as the mask for the other.

Instead of trying to stop an emotion, I’ve learned to sit with them and feel them. Stopping an emotion is when I do something like sh or eat emotionally, and even then they have not been dealt with. It’s harder but better in the long run to sit with them and acknowledge them and let them pass that way.

chihirochild · Dec 31, 2019 at 07:04 PM

Dec 31, 2019 at 07:07 PM

Hey Una we do actually have a fire season as a lot of our plants seeds cant germinate because they to have their out coatings burned off and the heat activates enzymes, but this much much worse than a normal fire season because we have had really dry weather for so long and councils and developers have destryed the natrualmabrriers that keep the fires limited nearly half of 2 states are still burning our volunteer firefighters are going without a break and need a rest and our Prime Minister wont give them any monetary relief as they have given up their jobs and fighting fulltime and then he pissed off to Hawaii for a holiday and cut it short because public opinion. Other Prime Ministers have rolled their sleeves up and dug people out in national disasters and he wont even give them a bit of money. A billionaire is giving a couple of million to the volunteers

Dec 31, 2019 at 07:26 PM

And beside that i am not near the fires

SlumberKitty · Dec 31, 2019 at 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Anger/hurt aren’t mutually exclusive. Someone hurts your feelings, you might get angry. I don’t see one as the mask for the other.

Instead of trying to stop an emotion, I’ve learned to sit with them and feel them. Stopping an emotion is when I do something like sh or eat emotionally, and even then they have not been dealt with. It’s harder but better in the long run to sit with them and acknowledge them and let them pass that way.

Thanks @@ I've talked to my parents a bit about it and I tried calling a friend....3 times pathetically, but we haven't connected yet. I'm trying to talk through it. Not sure if it will work but I'm trying. Hugs Kit

JaneTennison1 · Dec 31, 2019 at 08:22 PM

I'm exhausted. I worked 10 hours yesterday and still have some cleaning ahead of me. I need to pass out now. Is it NYE? Feels like every other day to me

unaluna · Dec 31, 2019 at 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by JaneTennison1

I'm exhausted. I worked 10 hours yesterday and still have some cleaning ahead of me. I need to pass out now. Is it NYE? Feels like every other day to me

I washed dishes today, finally. Start the new year off with a clean sink. But i am early to bed. I might be around later if fireworks or gunshots wake me

My cousin had a good facebook post - that the roaring 20's are upon us so to please dress accordingly! I said i would bob my hair and confine my bosoms.

Eta - ive seen that misspelled bazooms so often, the correct spelling looks wrong!

JaneTennison1 · Dec 31, 2019 at 10:39 PM

Well the cleaning is done more or less, it's the Scottish part of me I just have to have a clean house, I blame my mother!!

susannahsays · Dec 31, 2019 at 11:31 PM

My house is probably a public health hazard. I'm not doing well at all. Have been in bed ever since I got back to the place last Thursday.

It's really, really bad. I'm scared what could happen if anyone saw how I'm currently living, actually.

susannahsays · Dec 31, 2019 at 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Yeah, I mean who’s going to tell a client they’re inauthentic or ********ting themselves?

The one I see says this sort of thing. She can get kind of confrontational. Sometimes I like it, sometimes not so much. She does have one or two little things she likes to say in her overall agenda/pack of lies that are pro-me, though, and certainly aren't true. I'm just not sure if she's so delusional that she believes these things or not.

This is the same woman who seemed shocked when she found out I don't perceive her as "nice."

88Butterfly88 · Jan 01, 2020 at 12:45 AM

Jan 01, 2020 at 01:55 AM

You know you drink too much coffee when you fing the manufacturer of your coffee machine and they say its not for commercial use.

LostOnTheTrail · Jan 01, 2020 at 07:18 AM

Happy New Year, Couch! New avatar over here, in honour of our previous discussion on 'What animal would your T be?'

chihirochild · Jan 01, 2020 at 08:16 AM

Happy New Year, couch!

Spending my morning working in the ED, just for four hours. I have a full 8h shift tomorrow but they’re letting me titrate up. 2:45 left, then I think I might go to the coast for the rest of the day. It’ll be cold but at least it’s not supposed to rain or snow.

chihirochild · Jan 01, 2020 at 08:57 AM

Oh also I apologized profusely via text to the person that had to cover my ICU shifts while I was hospitalized and bless him he replied, “I would cover for you for 365 days straight if it meant for you to feel better.” What a sweetheart. I’m in such a lovely residency program.

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SlumberKitty Legendary Wise Elder Member Since Jul 2018 Location: CA Posts: 27,329 (SuperPoster!) 5 117.7k hugs given	Dec 31, 2019 at 06:15 PM #2 Thanks for the new couch Lost! HUGS Kit __________________ Dum Spiro Spero IC XC NIKA

SheHulk07 Magnate Member Since Oct 2013 Location: CO Posts: 2,305 10 871 hugs given	Dec 31, 2019 at 06:51 PM #5 Happy New Year's Eve couch. Apparently this year has made a tradition for our family...someone has been sick or hospitalized for many holidays. Tonight is my youngest with a 102+ fever. Thankfully H is going out driving all night long so I don't have to deal with him.

chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	Dec 31, 2019 at 07:04 PM #7

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	Dec 31, 2019 at 07:26 PM #9 And beside that i am not near the fires

JaneTennison1 Magnate Member Since Aug 2014 Location: US Posts: 2,202 9 121 hugs given	Dec 31, 2019 at 08:22 PM #11 I'm exhausted. I worked 10 hours yesterday and still have some cleaning ahead of me. I need to pass out now. Is it NYE? Feels like every other day to me

JaneTennison1 Magnate Member Since Aug 2014 Location: US Posts: 2,202 9 121 hugs given	Dec 31, 2019 at 10:39 PM #13 Well the cleaning is done more or less, it's the Scottish part of me I just have to have a clean house, I blame my mother!!

susannahsays Grand Magnate Member Since Jun 2018 Location: Somewhere Posts: 3,355 5 1 hugs given	Dec 31, 2019 at 11:31 PM #14 My house is probably a public health hazard. I'm not doing well at all. Have been in bed ever since I got back to the place last Thursday. It's really, really bad. I'm scared what could happen if anyone saw how I'm currently living, actually. __________________ Life is hard. Then you die. Then they throw dirt in your face. -David Gerrold

88Butterfly88 Moderator Community Support Team Member Since Dec 2015 Location: New Jersey Posts: 54,190 (SuperPoster!) 8 10.5k hugs given	Jan 01, 2020 at 12:45 AM #16

Anonymous42961 Guest Posts: n/a	Jan 01, 2020 at 01:55 AM #17 You know you drink too much coffee when you fing the manufacturer of your coffee machine and they say its not for commercial use.

chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	Jan 01, 2020 at 08:16 AM #19 Happy New Year, couch! Spending my morning working in the ED, just for four hours. I have a full 8h shift tomorrow but they’re letting me titrate up. 2:45 left, then I think I might go to the coast for the rest of the day. It’ll be cold but at least it’s not supposed to rain or snow.

chihirochild Magnate Member Since Feb 2017 Location: North America Posts: 2,360 7 4,865 hugs given	Jan 01, 2020 at 08:57 AM #20 Oh also I apologized profusely via text to the person that had to cover my ICU shifts while I was hospitalized and bless him he replied, “I would cover for you for 365 days straight if it meant for you to feel better.” What a sweetheart. I’m in such a lovely residency program.