Couch 211: The Stoffle couch

I love how he got so fat at the end.

Sorry the second line was about the program your H could attend.

I was watching this BBC Panorama doc they also showed a group taking place (not their faces just what was being covered on the board). And I think a group would be good for you too.When does it start? Usually there isn't any expectations to share anything you're not comfortable with.

I'm glad you found something that works for you. Grief is something very hard to deal with.

It's good they have that support available to them.

I would see if home T was actually a good match for your son before terminating with the one he already gets on with.

I think specific things will always stay with you, but that is a good insight to be aware of.

Ok, maybe I'm just weird but I don't think that's how other people think at all (what Dr. T said). I think most would feel like you and not flip the script to have a positive spin. Lots of people are lonely and worried about it. They don't turn reminiscences into cheesefests. Good lord.

I think it's normal to feel sad when you remember having something great in your life that you haven't been able to get back.

I think the important thing to remember is that T is not god. His commentary on how most people remember things vs how you do is not necessarily accurate
Just because he says it doesnt mean it is true. It also might be unhelpful to compare your way of thinking to others. Maybe it is not the same but it doesnt mean your way is wrong.

It might be more helpful to figure out what is not helping you and what you want to fix.

I was thinking about that remark from Dr. T on my way to my own session this morning. I don't think what he said about how nearly everybody else thinks is true. Or if it is true, I don't know how he could even know that. I also don't think it's necessarily helpful for him to compare your reaction to other people's reactions. One helpful thing that Liz said recently was that in therapy, "you get to be you." I like that. It doesn't matter if there is a thing that I think or say or do that nobody else in the world does. If I understand it and it isn't hurting me or anybody else, what does it matter?

I also think that's this whole concept of mood-congruent memory that Dr. T is ignoring. If you tend to feel sad often, you are more likely to remember said things. It kinda sucks, but that's human psychology for you, baby!

I mean, he's a GUY. No offense, but arent they lacking the feeling gene? The empathy gene? My t was more of a lady than i ever was, so it really is nothing to do with gender or sex or how you pee, im just SAYIN'. Its like hes mansplaining memories in math terms. Math hole!

New cheesy vegetarian chili mac from last night achieves the trifecta of cheap, tasty, and easy. It is the love child of chili and mac & cheese, with the best characteristics of each.

I EMDR-ed some Liz things today. I left feeling a lot calmer than when I came in. I asked Amy what I should do if she starts acting unpredictable and kind of harsh like Liz has been in the last year. She said, "Get me an MRI?"

It would be nice if Amy could just tell me WTF is happening to make Liz act so hot and cold, but she clearly doesn't know.

I said, "Liz is the most stressful, upsetting thing in my life lately. And I have a very active small child." Amy said, "What am I even supposed to say to that?!" in a joking-but-also-perplexed way. I said, "I don't know! You're the one with the degree and the license! Tell me how to fix it!"

Amy asked if it feels like it will destroy me if other people tell me no, and it really doesn't because usually I can understand why other people say no. I told her about the request that Liz denied on Wednesday, and Amy said she thought my request was a totally reasonable, creative solution to get what I wanted.

Ah, well. The Liz relationship continues to implode but at least the validation that this isn't my fault feels pretty good.

Angry guy at work has been vocally angry for several hours this morning because he screwed something up and can't figure out how to fix it. It's stressing me out just having to listen to him repeatedly be angry in my vicinity. My manager is being calm with him when he angrily comes over to his desk, which is very near mine, to complain and get help, but his calmness is not rubbing off.

I don't think Dr. T was comparing you to other people, LT. I think he was comparing you to him.

Must be nice for him, thinking he is the norm.

*ATAT drops the mic and walks away*

Happy Birthday, LT.

I laughed out loud at this just because I think you nailed it perfectly.

Oh yeah, happy birthday, LT!

Happy Birthday.

Wishing you all the best for the upcoming year.

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I hate when guys do that. You can tell they are just ITCHING for you to say something so they can go off on YOU. But if you say anything, it makes YOU look like the crazy person, like YOU were taking it personally, when HE all but SHOUTED your name with his creepy energy.

Eta - okay, i might be a little cranky today.

I was getting a little worried about SlumberKitty, but I just checked her profile and saw she's been inpatient for a while. Glad she is okay!

Do you need a snicker's bar?