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Oh, definitely.

I went to work today, and had a wonderful workshop.
I come home, and I'm having a hard time.
Why?


You've been dealing with a lot recently. In work situations you just have to get on with it. Home just being you and it's less structured/open.
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Between a rando off a dating app and a guy who can beat me at ScrabbleóI would take the second every time.

So, you know, if you get tired of him tell him youíve got a friend...
A friend who can take him SIM card shopping
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I am staying in a hotel this weekend, visiting older d.

The coffee is not terrible. Itís enough not-terrible that I have not yet google mapped coffee shops near me.

I canít quite wrap my head around this. Itís even a budget hotel! One of my most deeply held biases has been challenged. Not quite sure how to handle the dissonance.
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I woke up to an email from my therapist checking in after our Thursday session where I ended up way out of my comfort zone. That was really nice to receive. I responded that I'm not sure how I'm supposed to come to session on Monday because I'm still feeling a lot of shame and I don't want to be seen by him. I don't know how to face him again. He has successfully infiltrated my carefully constructed armor and he's feeling that's a good thing, but I'm left feeling completely exposed and vulnerable.
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That's really brave, NP. I'm glad you were able to be so open with him. I think he will appreciate it.
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I woke up to an email from my therapist checking in after our Thursday session where I ended up way out of my comfort zone. That was really nice to receive. I responded that I'm not sure how I'm supposed to come to session on Monday because I'm still feeling a lot of shame and I don't want to be seen by him. I don't know how to face him again. He has successfully infiltrated my carefully constructed armor and he's feeling that's a good thing, but I'm left feeling completely exposed and vulnerable.
I can really feel this- shame is still a big thing for me. Can you maybe try to go at your own pace. I usually ask him to look away/ cover his eyes. I've also acted like a child and completely covered my face with a blanket on one occasion. What matter's is that you're there.

John Bradshaw had this book called "healing the shame that binds you" . I liked it because sometimes it's not always from us.
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I can really feel this- shame is still a big thing for me. Can you maybe try to go at your own pace. I usually ask him to look away/ cover his eyes. I've also acted like a child and completely covered my face with a blanket on one occasion. What matter's is that you're there.

John Bradshaw had this book called "healing the shame that binds you" . I liked it because sometimes it's not always from us.
I'm usually wearing a hoodie of some sort and when the hood is up I can hide the top half of my face. That's how I ended up being able to leave session on Thursday. One time I wore sunglasses the whole session and he didn't say a word about it. Maybe if I go in looking like the Unabomber, I'll be safe.

In my email response this morning, I ended up telling him a couple of other things regarding this topic and I'm seriously regretting doing that right now. I'm already feeling vulnerable; why did I have to open up even more?? I've got a real push-pull thing going on at the moment. I even said I was feeling clingy towards him. I hope he's okay I shared that with him.
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I am staying in a hotel this weekend, visiting older d.

The coffee is not terrible. Itís enough not-terrible that I have not yet google mapped coffee shops near me.

I canít quite wrap my head around this. Itís even a budget hotel! One of my most deeply held biases has been challenged. Not quite sure how to handle the dissonance.
I've always found it odd that the "nice" hotels make you pay for wifi and breakfast but the cheaper ones don't. Seems backward. And I love me a make-your-own waffle station.
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I've always found it odd that the "nice" hotels make you pay for wifi and breakfast but the cheaper ones don't. Seems backward. And I love me a make-your-own waffle station.
The waffle station is always my favorite too. Peanut butter and syrup is my favorite. When I had to stay in a hotel for a month while they were fixing my house, I was thinking "awesome, a whole month of waffles!". I got tired of the waffles real quick, though.
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