Couch 211: The Stoffle couch

LonesomeTonight · Jan 26, 2020 at 10:11 PM

Hugs, Polibeth. Glad it sounds like your friend will be OK. Scary though...

LonesomeTonight · Jan 26, 2020 at 10:12 PM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I hate everything right now and I keep thinking about ex T and how things ended. I feel so hurt and alone.

Hugs... He shouldn't have ended the way he did, and I'd feel the same way you do. I think you see a new T tomorrow, right? I hope that goes well. And then you have a couple other appointments lined up with other possible T's?

SheHulk07 · Jan 26, 2020 at 11:07 PM

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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hugs... He shouldn't have ended the way he did, and I'd feel the same way you do. I think you see a new T tomorrow, right? I hope that goes well. And then you have a couple other appointments lined up with other possible T's?

Yes, I'm meeting with one T tomorrow and 1 T for 30 minutes on Tuesday morning from my local mental health center. And doing an intake for an IOP/PHP program tomorrow morning again like I did back in September. Just trying everything I can right now.

Quietmind 2 · Jan 27, 2020 at 03:27 AM

@Lemoncake I'm sad your favourite aunt left.

Hugs hugs hugs.

It's lunar new year, so I'm stressed as heck. I'm depressed and having to act positive while being emotionally abused is making me miserable. Ranting about it on the blog and Instagramas an outlet

I did search for clinics treating my sexual dysfunction issues. Sent an email to a well known, pricey but LGBTQ friendly one asking about fees. Their website says they're used to working with patients who are scared or have pain issues so I hope their fees are reasonable so I can do a pap smear and discuss long term contraceptive options.

They'll do a physical exam to rule out physical causes and claim to have a high success rate with my issues.

Quietmind 2 · Jan 27, 2020 at 03:27 AM

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Originally Posted by NP_Complete

I woke up to an email from my therapist checking in after our Thursday session where I ended up way out of my comfort zone. That was really nice to receive. I responded that I'm not sure how I'm supposed to come to session on Monday because I'm still feeling a lot of shame and I don't want to be seen by him. I don't know how to face him again. He has successfully infiltrated my carefully constructed armor and he's feeling that's a good thing, but I'm left feeling completely exposed and vulnerable.

NP, you deserve care. To be seen and heard with compassion.

Quietmind 2 · Jan 27, 2020 at 03:30 AM

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Originally Posted by chihirochild

Yesterday wasn't actually as jam-packed as it could have been--the rando from the dating app rescheduled (he said he was sick) so it was just coffee, lunch, and date with the scrabble-winner.

The date was pretty good--we watched The Gentlemen, which was hysterical (his choice), had drinks, and went to a 21+ arcade. The only thing I wasn't into was that he was hinting that he wanted us to end up in bed together at the end of the night and I was not interested in that. He wasn't like overt or gross about it, it's just a feeling I got. And I'm sick of guys who just want to get into my pants before getting to know me--in my experience, that doesn't predict that a guy is good relationship material.

Trust your gut

Quietmind 2 · Jan 27, 2020 at 03:32 AM

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Originally Posted by SheHulk07

I hate everything right now and I keep thinking about ex T and how things ended. I feel so hurt and alone.

Hugs if wanted. We care about you, including me though I don't often comment and leave Thanks too late.

Quietmind 2 · Jan 27, 2020 at 03:39 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I am taking a hot bath post workout with a lemon bath bomb. It smells like I’m lying in a tub full of hot tea.

Yay or nay?

LostOnTheTrail · Jan 27, 2020 at 04:48 AM

Could be worse, ATAT.

At least it is a bath bomb.

Humour ahead: https://twitter.com/paigebyerly/stat...41185022377984

Lemoncake · Jan 27, 2020 at 06:11 AM

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Originally Posted by unaluna

Im kinda sad about Kobe. T was a big fan. Whenever he would mention him, i would say, "... and he's Italian!", which would always crack T up. Cuz most people didnt know Kobe was born lived in Italy.

I hadn't heard of him until now. Just saw the ABC tribute. He's daughter also died.

His poor family.

Lemoncake · Jan 27, 2020 at 06:15 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

Could be worse, ATAT.

At least it is a bath bomb.

Humour ahead: https://twitter.com/paigebyerly/stat...41185022377984

Bath MELT.

Lol I've heard of oil and stuff not this.

Lush is the best but expensive.

Lemoncake · Jan 27, 2020 at 06:37 AM

My anxiety has upped it's game.

Full panic mode in which I emailed T asking for an earlier session which I know he most likely won't be able to do. Doesn't check his email that often.I know it's a lot worse since I haven't stepped foot in the gym since the 8th of december. I didn't want to pay for a full month again when I might leave again after this exam which is on the 3rd.

Lemoncake · Jan 27, 2020 at 06:37 AM

New show recommendations on Netflix:

The pharmacist (documentary)
Horse Girl

Lemoncake · Jan 27, 2020 at 06:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Quietmind 2

@Lemoncake I'm sad your favourite aunt left.

Hugs hugs hugs.

It's lunar new year, so I'm stressed as heck. I'm depressed and having to act positive while being emotionally abused is making me miserable. Ranting about it on the blog and Instagramas an outlet

I did search for clinics treating my sexual dysfunction issues. Sent an email to a well known, pricey but LGBTQ friendly one asking about fees. Their website says they're used to working with patients who are scared or have pain issues so I hope their fees are reasonable so I can do a pap smear and discuss long term contraceptive options.

They'll do a physical exam to rule out physical causes and claim to have a high success rate with my issues.

Nobody deserves to be abused especially you.

I hope you hear back from them soon. I think the fact that they have experience is a plus. I do pay more at places if I feel more comfortable there.

Lemoncake · Jan 27, 2020 at 06:44 AM

A song for the couch.

A secret band I love.

YouTube

This is their best song though:

YouTube

LonesomeTonight · Jan 27, 2020 at 08:11 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

Could be worse, ATAT.

At least it is a bath bomb.

Humour ahead: https://twitter.com/paigebyerly/stat...41185022377984

Thanks for sharing--this thread gave me a good laugh this morning!

Lemoncake · Jan 27, 2020 at 08:46 AM

This seemed profund today:

Quote:

Capitaine Pike: Ça n'est pas la seul vie possible

Captain pike: The point is that this isn't the only life available.

I watch it in french but I downloaded an extension for Chrome- it lets you have subtitles in two language s on Netflix instead of just the one..

LostOnTheTrail · Jan 27, 2020 at 08:56 AM

I am having a paradoxical day. On one hand, I've been really productive - submitted an essay to a website, and approved the proof of something else.
On the other, I'm eating my damn feelings all over the show.

Lemoncake · Jan 27, 2020 at 09:00 AM

I messaged R to cancel my session for tomorrow.It seems pointless.

Lemoncake · Jan 27, 2020 at 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail

I am having a paradoxical day. On one hand, I've been really productive - submitted an essay to a website, and approved the proof of something else.
On the other, I'm eating my damn feelings all over the show.

I do the same thing. I eat way more, because I just want comfort. Can you soothe yourself in other ways?

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LonesomeTonight Always in This Twilight Member Since Feb 2015 Location: US Posts: 20,763 (SuperPoster!) 9 75k hugs given	Jan 26, 2020 at 10:11 PM #61 Hugs, Polibeth. Glad it sounds like your friend will be OK. Scary though...

Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,700 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	Jan 27, 2020 at 06:37 AM #73 New show recommendations on Netflix: The pharmacist (documentary) Horse Girl __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."

Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,700 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	Jan 27, 2020 at 06:44 AM #75 A song for the couch. A secret band I love. YouTube This is their best song though: YouTube __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."

Lemoncake Luna's offical mini me. Member Since May 2017 Location: Cafe Nervosa. Posts: 9,700 (SuperPoster!) 6 10.2k hugs given	Jan 27, 2020 at 09:00 AM #79 I messaged R to cancel my session for tomorrow.It seems pointless. __________________ "Love, like life, flows Through the heart. Feel the thrill of the flow And say nothing."