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#21
I was kidding. A little jokette to ease our existential angst. I should learn to keep my wily and dastardly ways to myself.
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Which gets back to the purpose of the therapy enterprise -- enhancing therapists' pocketbooks and self-esteem or helping the people who come and pay them for help? It can be both/and, but if the clients aren't getting help and instead are getting hurt. . .and if the therapists aren't listening to client feedback or self-reflecting . . .then it can more easily become the exploitation and abuse which some/many of us have experienced. And which we, let's face it, may have lacked the self-reflection to understand at the time. . .BUT. . .it is NOT the case that there is "equality" in the therapist-client "relationship". If it were, why would we be paying them? |
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#23
Sometimes I think my T should be paying me for CE credits--he's acknowledged that he's learned quite a bit through working with me.
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#25
In a letter to me, T told me she learns something from every client. She said I taught her so much over the years and thanked me for being a part if her life.
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My therapist already knows about abuse taking place because he has actually witnessed it at one of his former work places. He could hear what was going on through the walls. In fact, it was his first job. He has also had clients come to him because they were abused by other clinicians. One of my former therapists was also known for abusing clients. My parents were divorced when I was a very young child, but I grew up with a very loving and caring mother. But, the emotional abuse from a therapist still happened. My therapy had absolutely nothing to do with attachment issues; It had to do with getting my OCD treated. I also have a good friend who was victimized by a psychiatrist, and she grew up in a very nurturing and loving family. Unfortunately, there are a lot of predator clinicians that were not caught "through the system." They ended up severely harming clients no matter what type of background the clients have. Last edited by Shotokan; Feb 11, 2020 at 01:51 PM.. |
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I am actually okay with him reading my posts. |
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Hi HD, I am sorry that you are having such a hard time finding someone that is ethical. It took me such a long time to find him. I went through at least 30 clinicians before I found him. I was almost ready to give up. It is interesting that you mentioned court cases. Wow! I would ABSOLUTELY testify about this stuff happening! I think my therapist would too. You know if you were writing a book, I'd want to be a part of it! I mean these goons have to be stopped. Hands down! You are very creative! HD thank you very much. |
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Shotokan - Thanks so much for posting your therapists thoughts about the forum. It was much kinder and more positive than I expected, and very nice to see.
I had shown some of my own posts to a previous therapist (I posted to work out issues that I was having with him, was encouraged to share the posts with him, and did so). It helped me a lot, but he ended up with the impression that this was an "anti-therapy" forum. I couldn't seem to get him to correct that, to the point where, when I moved on to another therapist, he told her that I liked posting mean things about my therapist (I'm paraphrasing, I don't remember exactly how he worded it.) I really love that he "got" how many people end up hurt by therapists. I've had so many crappy experiences... it's been expensive, hurtful, and not helpful. I don't think my therapists were even terribly bad as therapists but they seemed completely incompetent in how to deal with my issues. It's really turned me off from therapy. Anyway, thank you for sharing! |
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#32
I don't care about therapists reading this forum. I don't particularly care about a random person's opinion on this forum, either. He's a therapist but he could be a chef or a pro basketball player for all the difference it makes to me. I would probably care if he worked in criminal justice or IT, though, since he clearly has no grasp on how anything works in those industries.
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My Therapist has no idea PC existed... T’s don’t chase down support sites across the web they are far too busy . They see clients and they go home to there family and live there lives. There world is not about Therapy 24/7. They literally need strong boundaries and self care.. they must not bring home “ work” __________________ Helping others gets me out of my own head ~ |
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My Regular T didn't know about it either. Neither did Pastor T. Neither did my Care Coordinator. Former T didn't know about it either. I doubt any of them has actually looked at it, except maybe my care coordinator because part of her job is giving resources and tools to people so if it is something that can help, she might look it up. I doubt she has time to sit here and read the forums though.
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Where does this bizarre concept that therapists are "too busy" to do anything? They are not too busy. They may or may not be interested, but they are most certainly not more busy than any other professional or any one in general. Therapists are not special, no matter how much they hold themselves out to be.
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#36
I guess I don't necessarily think of therapists being too busy outside of their professional day. The therapists I've seen (outside of Pastor T who seems to have a lot of time on his hands) tend to see clients back to back without much time for even a bathroom break in between. Regular T usually comes and gets me, then goes to the bathroom, then comes back into the room with me. She usually goes the whole hour though, not this 50 minutes is an hour crap. But I think when they are off of work, they might not spend time coming to forums and stuff. When I am off of work, I spend maybe 10% of my time doing work related things or work research things (reading industry articles for example, or checking work email). But I don't want to spend my whole night or weekend doing work stuff. I imagine probably T's don't want to either.
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#38
Most people don’t come home after long work day and possibly long commute and search online forums where they can read what people say about their jobs. Most people take care of their family and spend time with loved ones, do chores, pursue hobbies, relax and if they are on the Internet it’s very unlikely that they search for online forums about their jobs.
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#39
Both of the ones I hired said that sort of thing to me. I think it is mooe a line the two I hired learned in therapy school than that they meant it.
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when i was in therapy, this is exactly why i shared with my T that i was participating in this forum along with another support forum i frequented. i was hoping if he visited here, that it would help him understand the perspectives better from the clients side. unfortunately, it did not have that effect for him. his comment to me when he shared he had a quick glance at PC was something along the lines that he was surprised that there are quite a few 'messed up' people out there (i took this to mean there are a lot of people struggling with mental health issues). then years later, upon reading my session notes that i had requested, he had made a comment about how he he was concerned and did not think it was helpful for me to be visiting these online forums. although i will never know the exact reason for his opinion, i personally think he was worried and fearful of the 'ideas' that i might have received by talking to others about therapy, and that it would interfere with therapy. i suspect it was more of a reflection about his own issues and insecurities. even if at the time he had been honest and shared his disapproval and reservations about me coming here, i would not have stopped visiting the support forums. for me, therapy was already such an incredibly lonely and confusing journey, i valued the knowledge, insight, and support of others who knew similarly too much to give that up for my T. |
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